My Girlfriend

[SpiritIsWilling]

I have a similar problem. Although I feel I need to end it, I’m really confused.

My girlfriend is very attractive, and other people say so as well. I really do like her a lot, but she doesn’t have the same religious views as me. This has caused us to break up once before, but now we’re back together.

She is now wanting to do the same things that caused us to break up in the first place. I don’t know how to handle it, I don’t want to break up with her, but I feel I’m going to have to. And soon.

And no, I don’t like her just for her looks, it’s just this one thing.

After we broke up the first time, she went with someone else for about 3 weeks and said she couldn’t stand not being with me, and I felt the same way. Was that just jealousy due to seeing her with someone else?

I don’t want to lose her, but I fear it may be for the wrong reasons. I can’t imagine seeing her with someone else, but again it goes back to the moral differences.

Suggestions?

 

[James_2_24]

Mt19:26:

Why are you continuing to have sex with her when you know it’s wrong? What kind of message is that sending to her in regards to the Catholic faith? Having sex with someone you are not married to is a mortal sin and if you really love her why would you make her do something that is endangering her soul? You are offending Jesus by having sex with her outside of marraige. Doesn’t that mean anything to you? You should love God more than anything else and if you did you’d never want to do anything that offends Him.

 

[Black_Jaque]

Dude! Did you ever watch Monte Python’s Search for the Holy Grail?

“It’s got teeth loik this!”

“Run Away! Run Away!”

I tell her about the truth of Jesus, but she never listens, she tells me to keep my faith to myself unless she asks for it.

Oh Gosh! I’ve got some experience with this sort of thing. Run Away! Run Away!

Tell you what. You get married to her, and 5 years into it, she ain’t gonna feel like doing nuthin’ for a few weeks. You’ll approach her for affection, and you’ll get, “Keep it to yourself unless I ask for it!”

Trust God. He’s got a honey out there for you that will blow your socks off! This one’s not her.

 

[BlestOne]

film_reilly:

Hi, my girlfriend is not Catholic, and basically has no real religion. She likes studying about the Feminine Godess and Pagan mythology. I tell her about the truth of Jesus, but she never listens, she tells me to keep my faith to myself unless she asks for it. Also, when I met her I was not a practicing Catholic so we had sex before marriage, and continue to do so, even though I know its wrong, I dont want to lose her. I really love her and wish she would see the truth. I am thinking of marrying her, but do you think that would be a mistake? How should I try to get her to see the truth?

Please help…

-Chris

Run FAST!!! I married a pagan…heartbreak city!!! ended in divorce because he didn’t feel obligated to his family…did I mention that they believe it is actually good to leave a marriage if they aren’t totally happy…how can you be happy with someone that can’t share a part of your life that should be a BIG HUGE part of your life? RUN NOW DON’T LOOK BACK!!!

 

[CanonAlberic]

film_reilly:

Hi, my girlfriend is not Catholic, and basically has no real religion. She likes studying about the Feminine Godess and Pagan mythology. I tell her about the truth of Jesus, but she never listens, she tells me to keep my faith to myself unless she asks for it. Also, when I met her I was not a practicing Catholic so we had sex before marriage, and continue to do so, even though I know its wrong, I dont want to lose her. I really love her and wish she would see the truth. I am thinking of marrying her, but do you think that would be a mistake? How should I try to get her to see the truth?

Please help…

-Chris

Is she hot, and do you dig her? If so, who cares about any of the other stuff. This is how I live, and it works for me, dude!
Peace.

 

[BlestOne]

Goodness…Is she Hot? Since when is that the important deciding factor in a marriage…how about Is she faithful to her God and her man? How about Can I picture her as the mother of my children? Or …Can I see myself in love with her 40 years from now…50 years from now?

 

[Brit]

film_reilly:

Hi, my girlfriend is not Catholic, and basically has no real religion. She likes studying about the Feminine Godess and Pagan mythology. I tell her about the truth of Jesus, but she never listens, she tells me to keep my faith to myself unless she asks for it. Also, when I met her I was not a practicing Catholic so we had sex before marriage, and continue to do so, even though I know its wrong, I dont want to lose her. I really love her and wish she would see the truth. I am thinking of marrying her, but do you think that would be a mistake? How should I try to get her to see the truth?

Please help…

-Chris

**I’m in a similar problem. Accept, my bf and I don’t have sex, and he doesn’t studying feminine Godess and Pagan mythology. I’ve been with my bf for about two years now. About a month or so ago, we were talking about marriage. I expressed that I wanted a Catholic wedding, and wanted to rise my children Catholic. Well, he didn’t have the same goals as I do, and it caused an argument that ended with be breaking up with him. About two days later, we got back together on the agreement, that if we were to get married, it will be a Catholic wedding, and I will be able to rise my children Catholic.

We love each other a great deal, he’s my best friend.

But I can’t help but think, would it be wrong to have a catholic wedding, when he doesn’t really believe in church, and he’s just doing it to make me happy?

I guess I need a little help on this subject too…anyone have any ideas? **

 

[byzmelkite]

film_reilly:

Hi, my girlfriend is not Catholic, and basically has no real religion. She likes studying about the Feminine Godess and Pagan mythology. I tell her about the truth of Jesus, but she never listens, she tells me to keep my faith to myself unless she asks for it. Also, when I met her I was not a practicing Catholic so we had sex before marriage, and continue to do so, even though I know its wrong, I dont want to lose her. I really love her and wish she would see the truth. I am thinking of marrying her, but do you think that would be a mistake? How should I try to get her to see the truth?

Please help…

-Chris

You absolutely should not marry her. To be honest, it will hurt in the short term but you will be better off in the long term. Quit committing fornication, dump her, and don’t fornicate again. You will be doing both you and her a huge favor.

 

[jegow]

CanonAlberic:

Is she hot, and do you dig her? If so, who cares about any of the other stuff. This is how I live, and it works for me, dude!
Peace.

Yeah, not a good responce - not very Catholic either. Don’t follow that advice.

 

[byzmelkite]

**I’m in a similar problem. Accept, my bf and I don’t have sex, and he doesn’t studying feminine Godess and Pagan mythology. I’ve been with my bf for about two years now. About a month or so ago, we were talking about marriage. I expressed that I wanted a Catholic wedding, and wanted to rise my children Catholic. Well, he didn’t have the same goals as I do, and it caused an argument that ended with be breaking up with him. About two days later, we got back together on the agreement, that if we were to get married, it will be a Catholic wedding, and I will be able to rise my children Catholic.

We love each other a great deal, he’s my best friend.

But I can’t help but think, would it be wrong to have a catholic wedding, when he doesn’t really believe in church, and he’s just doing it to make me happy?

I guess I need a little help on this subject too…anyone have any ideas? **

Do not marry someone who is not a committed Catholic believer, period. You will be doing yourself a great favor by following this advice. “Romantic” love is not that important and you should not use that as the basis of your decision. Yes, feelings will be hurt but you will get over it and you will save yourself divorce proceedings and annullment proceedings 10 years down the road.

 

[byzmelkite]

CanonAlberic:

Is she hot, and do you dig her? If so, who cares about any of the other stuff. This is how I live, and it works for me, dude!
Peace.

We’ll see how it works for you “dude” when you are roasting in the flames of hell for all eternity. Repent!

 

[crazyage3]

film_reilly:

Hi, my girlfriend is not Catholic, and basically has no real religion. She likes studying about the Feminine Godess and Pagan mythology. I tell her about the truth of Jesus, but she never listens, she tells me to keep my faith to myself unless she asks for it. Also, when I met her I was not a practicing Catholic so we had sex before marriage, and continue to do so, even though I know its wrong, I dont want to lose her. I really love her and wish she would see the truth. I am thinking of marrying her, but do you think that would be a mistake? How should I try to get her to see the truth?

Please help…

-Chris

Bible says not to be “unequally yoked”. By that, I mean non- christians. If you do, it causes problems down the road.If the other person is a practicing Christian, things could work. But not with a paegan. The road to Jesus is hard and sometimes that includes sacrfices. Keep you faith! That is awesome to hear how you came back to His Church! Many blessings will follow if you are open to HIM!

 

[crazyage3]

film_reilly:

She does respect my faith and I really do Love her. I know lots of people that had interfaith marriages, there were some issues, but most of them have been married for 20 yrs or more.

Yes interfaith marriages can work. But not with a paegan! Interfaith meaning other religous faiths. LIke a devout Jew…or a Protestant. I believe those could work because we have the same God. And aside from Judiasm, Jesus is the focus.
Are the couples you know really strong in their faith? Because people can say they are a religon and not really walk the walk.

 

[ElizabethAnne]

byzmelkite:

Do not marry someone who is not a committed Catholic believer, period. You will be doing yourself a great favor by following this advice. “Romantic” love is not that important and you should not use that as the basis of your decision. Yes, feelings will be hurt but you will get over it and you will save yourself divorce proceedings and annullment proceedings 10 years down the road.

I disagree with this post. Although I think marrying someone of a different faith is difficult and will lead to some amount of conflict, I know it doesn’t always end in divorce. I have a Catholic friend who’s married to a non-Catholic Christian, and they are one of the happiest couples I know.