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Maybe you should try wearing the headphones! 
My Home Is Too Loud!
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GodIsPerfection
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Irishmom2
āMaybe you should try wearing the headphones!ā
That crossed my mind, but, over the years, we have developed different tastes in television programming, too.
There is an old German saying about marriage: āOne hand washes the other.ā The right and left hands are not identical, but they are complimentary. Weāve found solutions that work for us.
āMaybe you should try wearing the headphones!ā
That crossed my mind, but, over the years, we have developed different tastes in television programming, too.
There is an old German saying about marriage: āOne hand washes the other.ā The right and left hands are not identical, but they are complimentary. Weāve found solutions that work for us.
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Well, I actually meant you can wear them when she is watching tv too loud, just to have some quiet.
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Understood. See my reply post.
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I will mention that fifteen or twenty years ago, I had occasion to help some Amish and Old Order Orthodox Mennonites build a barn, and I lived with them for a few weeks.
No electricity, no television, no lights outside after sunset, only gas lanterns indoors at night, no curtains on windows, no locks on doors.
The homes are VERY QUIET and PEACEFUL. Maybe everyone is exhausted from working from before sunrise to after sunset. Time seems to move very slowly, and stress levels are low. One day is much like the next, except Sunday, which is strictly for religious observation and rest.
As a Catholic, I could never join one of these cults (they repudiate the reality of the trans substantiation of bread and wine to the literal body and blood of Jesus Christ), but I envied the quiet and peaceful tempo of their everyday lives and homes. THAT was beautiful.
Our electric, technological, world comes at a price.
No electricity, no television, no lights outside after sunset, only gas lanterns indoors at night, no curtains on windows, no locks on doors.
The homes are VERY QUIET and PEACEFUL. Maybe everyone is exhausted from working from before sunrise to after sunset. Time seems to move very slowly, and stress levels are low. One day is much like the next, except Sunday, which is strictly for religious observation and rest.
As a Catholic, I could never join one of these cults (they repudiate the reality of the trans substantiation of bread and wine to the literal body and blood of Jesus Christ), but I envied the quiet and peaceful tempo of their everyday lives and homes. THAT was beautiful.
Our electric, technological, world comes at a price.
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I agree with those who suggest calling the family together and telling them honestly how much noise stresses you.
Younger children are generally very empathetic and will grieve over their motherās pain, so take advantage of this. Ask you children, for your sake, to do everything they can to stop the noise.
We text each other when we are in the house. My husband and I are the only ones still here, and we text, and when my kids come for a visit, they text. Our house is a ranch house, not that large (1400 sq. feet), and texting works. Maybe you and your kids could try it.
I see nothing wrong with you retreating into the back yardāI think thatās a great idea! Let the kids work out their own arguments.
And I agreeāturn off as much background noise as possible. Those watching TV could wear headphones or turn on the subtitles! Those listening to music could use an earbudāalmost everyone where I work does this.
One thing that no one has mentioned is to eliminate clutter, if you have not already done so. Clutter in the house leads to a feeling of stress, discomfort, restlessnes, and may, IMO, cause kids to yell instead of walking through the clutter to find what they need (mom). An uncluttered house is more serene and peaceful-looking. De-cluttering is a good summer project. We used to limit the number of toys in the house by keeping baskets of toys up in the attic and rotating them once a month.
Good luck!
Younger children are generally very empathetic and will grieve over their motherās pain, so take advantage of this. Ask you children, for your sake, to do everything they can to stop the noise.
We text each other when we are in the house. My husband and I are the only ones still here, and we text, and when my kids come for a visit, they text. Our house is a ranch house, not that large (1400 sq. feet), and texting works. Maybe you and your kids could try it.
I see nothing wrong with you retreating into the back yardāI think thatās a great idea! Let the kids work out their own arguments.
And I agreeāturn off as much background noise as possible. Those watching TV could wear headphones or turn on the subtitles! Those listening to music could use an earbudāalmost everyone where I work does this.
One thing that no one has mentioned is to eliminate clutter, if you have not already done so. Clutter in the house leads to a feeling of stress, discomfort, restlessnes, and may, IMO, cause kids to yell instead of walking through the clutter to find what they need (mom). An uncluttered house is more serene and peaceful-looking. De-cluttering is a good summer project. We used to limit the number of toys in the house by keeping baskets of toys up in the attic and rotating them once a month.
Good luck!
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My family is LOUD! But our loud voices donāt usually bother me as long as they arenāt saying mean, disrespectful things. Everyone is the house sings, all the time, and not always together. We tap on things. We dance. We rhythm. We chant. Itās kind of how we roll. None of this bothers me. What bothers me is the sound of multiple electronic playing in the same room. It drives me nuts and makes me take on one of those mean, disrespectful tones I mentioned before. My husband is usually the culprit, trying to start a video on his phone when the TV or radio is already blaring. He doesnāt get why it upsets me so much, since I listen to the kids squawking all day long. I donāt know why either, but I HATE it. I have no solutions here. Sorry.
blackforest
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I think Iām one of those people more sensitive to loud noise than others. Noises that donāt seem to bother others will drive me to madness. Most restaurants are a nightmare for me - even the fanciest and trendiest are super clanky while quiet, fine dining is extinct. I canāt shop in mall stores with my daughter when theyāre blaring loud music and I have to shout the pants size to an employee. I could blame it on aging, but Iāve always been this way. It makes motherhood . . . interesting. 
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Lara
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One thing to consider is not to wash your ears too much, and try to build up some more ear wax. Also, perhaps try whispering to the kids as a general rule, and never yelling yourself. Also, consider having more carpets and hanging quilts. Perhaps you can give incentives to kids who are more quiet, such as points towards pizza.
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Allegra
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I never wash the insides of my ears and Iāve never in my life produced enough earwax to effect my hearing!
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15 Minutes??? 
I think they should have longer.
I think they should have longer.
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You are the parent. Parent.
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Nothing wrong with asking for ideas to parent though.
@blackforest, just start singing this or play it from your phone, when your kids act up.
They will probably tell you to stop and you can say, not until the yelling stops.
@blackforest, just start singing this or play it from your phone, when your kids act up.
They will probably tell you to stop and you can say, not until the yelling stops.
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ROFL. This might actually work!! 
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I have a vague recollection of singing not that song, but something. 
I also used to tell my kids they couldnāt play with each other anymore because all they did was argue. But since there were only two of them, and no other kids around, they were quickly begging me to pleeeease Let them play together, they promised they would not fight.
I also used to tell my kids they couldnāt play with each other anymore because all they did was argue. But since there were only two of them, and no other kids around, they were quickly begging me to pleeeease Let them play together, they promised they would not fight.
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Iāve always thought that the closing song of Mr. Rodgers would be a good prolife anthem.
āItās such a good feeling, to know youāre alive, itās such a happy feeling, growing insideā¦ā
āItās such a good feeling, to know youāre alive, itās such a happy feeling, growing insideā¦ā
One gets what one rewards.
I would suggest that you set up a weekly contest for your kids. The child that is the quietest throughout the week (the one who yells or screams the least) gets a small prize (like a five-dollar gift card to Starbucks) at the end of each week. Run this contest for three months and witness the improvement in their behavior in regards to making noise.
farronwolf
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Does Starbucks have anything on the menu for kids? Donāt really know as I have never been there.
How do we get to the point of rewarding children for doing what they are told to do?
I guess I am blessed to have a quite child, both when he was little and even now that he is a senior in high school.
How do we get to the point of rewarding children for doing what they are told to do?
I guess I am blessed to have a quite child, both when he was little and even now that he is a senior in high school.
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poche
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I think that in your house the time to worry will be when things get too quiet.
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Peeps
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This is oh, so true!
I think those who are bothered by noise should seriously considering wearing headphones to muffle the noise. Itās not fair and itās unrealistic to expect children and teens to be quiet little mice scurrying about, speaking in whispers, and listening to harp music.
Childhood is about laughing like a silly august clown, talking fast and loud, imitating characters from television and movies, singing at the top of their lungs, yelling back and forth to make sure someone hears them, squealing with joy over a flower that is blooming or a kitten or a pretty bird or the sight of Mom dressed up or Dad wearing his swimsuit!
Teen years are about hormones raging and trying to blow off steam by listening to loud music that makes their very room shake, and also arguing with Mom, Dad, their siblings, and even Grandma and Grandpa once in a while because theyāre scared to death of growing up and being in charge of their own lives, and if they make enough noise, no one will notice their fear.
Itās just not realistic.
So I would say to those who are noise sensitiveāand these folks suffer!āthen first talk to the kids and let them know about the problem and how noise is very difficult to deal with, and hopefully try to work something out so that there are times when the house is utterly quiet. But also make sure that the kids have some time to whoop and holler and kick up their heels. Theyāll be grown-ups soon enough.
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