My husband is going ballistic - help!

[Mike_Rainville]

CrisDee:

To say that my husband is opposed to my conversion to Catholicism is the understatement of the year.

(1) …, and telling me that I’m in satan’s grip, deceived, joining a cult, and he feels powerless to do anything about it.

(2) … he doesn’t want to hear ANY truth concerning the Church - he has his set-in-stone opinion formed by a liberal protestant educational background, and NOTHING will change his mind. (Again, this is SO not him!) …

Here is something he can do: join in fasting one day a month in union with all the E5 Men, see www.e5men.org,
specifically for your spiritual growth and development. This group is non-denominational, and the numbers will amplify the spiritual benefits.

(This will, in fact, accelerate your progress as a Catholic, and I expect it will have a profound effect on him.)

You can enlist the assistance of Our Blessed Mother Mary, by using a specific sacramental, the green scapular, which can be used surreptitiously: in this case its efficacy will have to depend entirely on your faith, and you will have to pray this short prayer for yourself AND for him daily:

“Immaculate Heart of Mary, pray for us now and at the hour of our death”

Green Scapular Devotion

If you know how to pray the Rosary, that would be highly recommended as well.

 

[e-catholic]

Philthy:

Crisdee
David Currie: Born Fundamentalist, Born Again Catholic
Scott and Kimberly Hahn: Rome Sweet Home

Crisdee,

You can also do a search on “Scott Hahn Conversion Story” on the internet. You will find a shorter version, just from the point of view of Scott, before Kimberly converted. It is very good, Kimberly was from a long line of Presbyterian ministers, and her Presbyterian minister husband was converting to Catholicism. She wasn’t really happy with him.

It is a great story

 

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Riley259:

Here’s an excerpt from a source:

There is an option to the annulment process, which is part of Canon Law, called the Internal Forum process. The Internal Forum solution (sometimes called “the good-conscience solution”) is one of the better-kept secrets in the Catholic Church. With the proper instruction a divorced Catholic may return to the sacraments without going through any Church tribunals. One must meet with a canon lawyer or with a priest knowledgeable about Internal Forum.

Very simply, “Internal Forum” indicates that one must have a clear conscience about the divorce and that moving on with one’s life, in good conscience, is the best decision for one’s life.

Please provide the source of this quote. Internal forum is most often referred to by dissenting priests. I have never heard one may use this when inviolved in an irregular relationship. Now, I am open to correction, but not until a see a serious source for this.

 

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Please provide the source of this quote. Internal forum is most often referred to by dissenting priests. I have never heard one may use this when inviolved in an irregular relationship. Now, I am open to correction, but not until a see a serious source for this.

As I thought, the “internal forum” does not allow one to remain in a marriage with one who has not received a decree of nullity. Many priests are traitors and use the confessional or so-called internal forum as a way of giving a dispensation to someone who is doing something they have no right to do. No such dispensation can be given.

 

[Faustina]

CrisDee-

Like other posters on this thread, I am sorry you going thru this.

My sister went thru something like this. They hadn’t been married very long and were living in Okinawa. My sister started the RCIA classes. Her husband would start saying these little barbs about the Catholic church. She talked to her priest, who told her that she needed to resolve this first. My sister thought he meant for her to leave her husband. When she asked this, the priest said no, not leaving you husband, but my praying and talking to him without being confrontation. And to approach it slowly and gently, God doesn’t want us to destroy our marriages over this.
So my sister took his advice, she entered the Church the next year. He stopped making little barbs and jabs at the Catholic Church and started to go to Mass with her. Then the surprise. They had moved to Rhode Island, so that he could attend the Naval War College. After Mass on Sunday, my brother-in-law asked the priest if they had RCIA. He had not brought this up to my sister or anything. So the next Easter Vigil, he was received into the church. Here is one more surprise. At the Easter Vigil, his mother was in attendance. After Mass, she came up to my brother in law and very quiely pinned this small lapel pin on his jacket. He looked at it and it was a Miraclous Medal. He asked his mom where she got it. She told him that her mother and pinned on him when he was a baby after his baptism. He was baptistize in the Methodist Church, but his grandmother was from Poland and Catholic.
We all have tears in our eyes.

So CrisDee- do not give up hope. Keep on studing the Catholic Faith and be ready for questions. Keep praying. The problem will be resolved in God’s time. BTW, my sister was Catholic for 10 years before her husband came into the church.

I know this is probably not what you wanted to hear. But this is one of the circumstances where we need to turn it over to God, and not lose our Faith

 

[Catholic2003]

I don’t know what the other source was that was quoted, but there is a section on the internal forum in the article Understanding Annulments by John T. Catoir, J.C.D., in St. Anthony’s Messenger Magazine. The “J.C.D.” means the author is a doctor of canon law. A short quote:

If someone feels he or she has a right to an annulment, but cannot vindicate that right in the tribunal, that person might find it necessary to talk to a priest or a counselor about whether to proceed on the basis of conscience or the internal forum.

 

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Catholic2003:

I don’t know what the other source was that was quoted, but there is a section on the internal forum in the article Understanding Annulments by John T. Catoir, J.C.D., in St. Anthony’s Messenger Magazine. The “J.C.D.” means the author is a doctor of canon law. A short quote:

Actually, it seems that reference is teaching heresy. I would like to see someone from Catholic Answers respond to it. The priest in the reference says one must follow their conscience, even if in error. That is a lie. As I suspected, there are many priests, even so-called credentialed priests, that misuse Church teachings.

Now, I am no expert and am open to correction. But, my first reaction is that it is either not true, or the priest is nuancing the truth. Please cite some references from the magisterium.