My husband is mad at God

[MaryD7]

CLMargaret:

I need a little help with this situation…

Last year my husband lost his father to brain cancer, after 14 months of struggling for his life.

My FIL was a wonderful part of our lives, and we all really miss him. His death has brought me closer to God. Unfortunately, it has driven my husband further away.

I was raised Catholic, and my husband converted when I was pregnant with our first child. My husband has not been attending mass, and I recently have starting faithfully attending.

When I leave for church, he’ll say things like - make sure you tell the guy upstairs thanks for taking my dad. Let him know how mad I am. (only his language is quite colorful) Or he’ll say things like - if he had to take my dad, why did he have to make him suffer so much. Saying that he is extremely uspet with God would be an understatement.

I try to be very patient with my husband; this is hard on all of us. I continue to pray for him.

I’m wondering if anyone might have any suggestions or words of encouragement that I can use on my husband, or even any explanation as to why we are allowed to suffer.

Thanks

Tears came to my eyes as I read your post. The pain, anger and confusion of losing someone close can be devastating. I am so sorry.

I agree with the poster who wrote that your husband should go directly to God and yell at Him about it. Think about it … God already knows what your husband is thinking, feeling and saying. Your husband might as well take Him on directly. Only when someone confronts someone else do things get resolved. To allow the pain and anger to fester and grow saps who we are as human beings.

As for suffering, I can only speak as someone who lost 3 immediate family members within 3 years of each other. Life stinks sometimes and we cannot do anything about the circumstances that arise. People will get cancer. People will have accidents. People will die of natural causes. It is the course of life here on earth and none of us are immune to it.

But what we can do is to try to heal and learn from the experiences and go forward with the rest of our lives with a greater sensitivity to what this life holds and what lies ahead in our future. My faith in God helped me through some pretty rough times and I can certainly confess that I did a lot of yelling and crying in God’s direction. But I got through it and so can your husband.

God bless.