My husband is watching porn and its ruining me emotionally

[RACJ]

erotica is healthy and natural. As long as he is engaged in viewing consensual adults, whats the problem?

At some point, there is full escape from reality, and dehumanization of women, in the minds of many men. Real women can never measure up to the fantasy.

 

[RACJ]

I chart and I just suffered a horrific ectopic pregnancy in October I’ll tell him a night is unsafe hell launch into a you don’t love me response then go to another room to see porn and I’m abstaining from communion till this all gets straightened out he says lack of intimacy is making him do this he could be lying my priest mentioned counseling but my husband says he’s too embarrassed

All addicts are liars who seek to diffuse blame. Rob

 

[whm]

All addicts are liars who seek to diffuse blame. Rob

Common, but not always true.

 

[catholicmom2015]

Hi, I’m not sure if you said how long you have been married but I just wanted to share my story. When we were dating, my husband was into watching porn. It really really bothered me - I felt so insecure and that I wasn’t “enough” for him. I just wanted to let you know that as we went on to get married, had kids eventually - our relationship strengthened. He no longer looks at porn. So there is hope! I will pray for you.

I think the biggest problem is his denial that he is doing it. It’s hard to accept it when you can see what’s in front of you and he won’t admit to it. I hope he comes around and admits to his behaviour so you can both move forward.

 

[RACJ]

Common, but not always true.

I should have said addicts in denial. I thought someone might call me on that! Rob

 

[Giggly_Giraffe]

1. For those addicted to porn, arousal actually declined with the same mate, while those who regularly found different mates were able to continual their arousal. It’s known as the Coolidge Effect, or novelty-seeking behavior. Porn, after all, trains the viewer to expect constant newness.

1. One in five people who regularly watch porn admitted to feeling controlled by their own sexual desires.

1. 12 percent of NoFappers report watching 5 or more hours of Internet porn every week. 59 percent report watching between 4 and 15(!!) hours of porn every week.

1. Almost 50 percent of those on NoFap have never had sex in their lives, meaning their only experience with intimacy is purely digital.

1. 42 percent of male college students report visiting porn sites regularly.

1. 53 percent of the NoFappers developed a regular porn habit between the ages of 12 and 14. An alarming 16 percent said they started watching before they were 12.

1. 64 percent report that their tastes in porn have become more extreme or deviant.

1. Among 27-31 year olds on NoFap: 19 percent suffer from premature ejaculation, 25 percent are disinterested in sex with their partner, 31 percent have difficulty reaching orgasm, and 34 percent experience erectile dysfunction.

gq.com/blogs/the-feed/2013/11/10-reasons-why-you-should-quit-watching-porn.html