Boldface mine–DoYouKnow, my husband and I have been married for 30 years this summer. There is no reason for a husband and wife to work on climaxing together. I would say in the 30 years that we’ve been married, it’s happened two or three times, and frankly, it’s not any big deal. Climaxing separately allows us to concentrate on our loved one’s pleasure rather than our own pleasure.
Also, many MANY women, over 80% CANNOT climax from intercourse alone, but must have some sort of digital (fingers) or oral (mouth) stimulation from the husband. So this would make it impossible to climax together.
My husband and I have discovered that things work best if I climax first, and then him. He has learned to delay his climax until I am satisfied. I’m sure your husband will learn, too, but it does take a while. For a man, sex is like a big bang, while for a woman, sex is more like a slow burn. Your husband will discover that pleasing you is the biggest pleasure that he can experience.
One more hint–sometimes foreplay for a woman starts early in the morning, continues in the afternoon, through the early evening, and finally leads to intercourse. For that reason, I disagree that you shouldn’t stimulate the sexual organs much. All-day teasing is a great way for a woman to get in the mood for sex! (Believe me, a man usually doesn’t need all-day teasing–a few minutes is enough to get him ready to rock and roll!). I tell my husband that I really enjoy 12 hours of foreplay! I don’t consider it “masturbation” if it leads to intercourse eventually.
Have fun. Believe me, the best is yet to come!
