My Husbands Talking

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Hi everyone,

I love my husband and he is a devout Catholic and my best friend for over 20 years. He’s always been a talker but I guess I haven’t really noticed until recently. Sometimes we’ll be in the car and 6 minutes will go by and he’s still talking. It didn’t tire me out before but honestly I’m starting to feel like his talking makes me physically tired. We have great and lively conversations about our faith almost daily and I know sometimes we are so excited to talk that we talk over eachother but he constantly interrupts me too.

Anyway, just wondering if anyone else deals with a personalit like that. I tell myself how lucky I am to have such a wonderful husband and that keeps me from getting angry. Sometimes if I jump in after 2 minutes he’ll keep talking ignoring what I said because I “interrupted” him.

I’m working on how I can handle this with love. I should be his ear but I need a breather sometimes.
We do have breaks every now and again but when he’s ready to chat he does get offended if I don’t give him undivided attention, even if I’m in the middle of cooking or other activity.

Thank you for any advice.
 
“Put up willingly with the faults of others if you wish others to put up with yours.”
— St. John Bosco
Not implying anything, I just find these words useful sometimes.
 
My husband is also a talker, but he’s not a pleasant talker, he’s pretty negative, complaining and grouchy. So I have to say, if your husband’s conversations are pleasant, let it go. It’s like telling a bird to stop singing!
That said, I think as a matter of Christian charity, he should be somewhat aware that others might like to get a word in edgewise!
 
I have know those and have some in my family. My SIL is probably the worst and in addition to doing all the talking, she always redirects the conversation to herself or gossip. I’ve just walked away from many conversations like that.

As this is your husband and you do have lively conversations you can’t just walk away. What I would do is try to talk to him about how you feel. Not when you are in the middle of such a conversation but another time. Tell him you want to have a back & forth convo, not just a one sided one. Tell how it makes you feel, doing so in a loving and caring way.
 
LOL, my hubs is like that. He often starts with
“Clare,did you know…” and I often respond, yes I do know, You told me this like a thousand times before! And then he goes on, oh, surely not 1000! Yup, 1000! Me laughing. He says, oh Clare you’re so mean! Then he laughs and mentions something about cuteness.

Joke around with him. He’ll get the hint.
Short of cultivating the useful “uh-huh…uh-huh…” there’s not much you can do except love him as he is.

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Awww cute cat.

My spouse, while alive, talked constantly. Monolog, mostly, but occasionally it was actually a dialog. Miss it.
 
Lol. Thank you. I literally find myself with heavy eyelids but I remind myself hes not gonna be here forever, get sad and that’d my solution. I do appreciate him and I think it affects me differently depending on my mood. Sometimes it’s like double dutch, I’ll just jump right in seamlessly and he and I will go back and forth lovely. Other times my face contorts as I try to maintain the interested look. God bless my sweet husband!
 
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Odd. Usually it’s the husband complaining his wife talks too much lol
 
Well, my first husband who is deceased, wouldn’t really permit me to have an opinion, he was very harsh. So Joe’s endless prattle is kind of endearing to me. 😍
 
I’m sorry. I just finished stating this is what I reflect on too. May the Lord always keep you company and bring you joy. Thank you for sharing with me.
 
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change.
The courage to change the things I can.
The Wisdom to knock w the difference.
 
Thank you and sorry he’s negative. Wishing you peace dear sister.
 
Maybe think a bit about what marriage is for…it’s to get us to heaven.

Our spouse’s defects so to speak are means of “sanctifying us”…like a forge…helping us to become more…more generous, more patient, more loving. Hard to do…but holiness is hard work.

So imagine marriage as an “obstacle course”, each day we become “ever more each day the image of Christ” if we take advantage of these trying moments.

Imagine if Jesus came into your car, and felt so “at ease” that He was a non-stop-talker…we’d be in rapture the whole time.

If you can remember that Jesus is inside of your husband…then it can become easier to be very patient, and not just patient, but attentive, hanging on every syllable, and more than that, being very happy to be there.

So raise the bar on this, as you raise the cross that God gave you to carry to bring you AND your husband home to Him.

Be the best, especially when it’s very very hard. Smile with Jesus.
 
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Audiobooks are great for all times!!! I listen on my phone when a) I can’t keep my eyes open but want want to read b) my wife wants to sleep and can’t tolerate the light required to read c) walking in the park or along the waterfront d) commuting to and from work on the train.
Nothing better.
 
This is amazing. I actually intended this year to offer more patience with my husband for an i
ntention for my children.
Could I use this same philosophy at work, accept difficult people and circumstances as paths to holiness?
Thank you
 
You’re going to have to kill him in his sleep. I’m sorry. There are no other options.

“Good night, sweet prince…”
 
Ugh I’m already emotional! This is what I think of. You know, I actually have deleted voicemails from him with the mindset of not being able to bear hearing it after he passes.
 
HAHAHAHA spoken like a newlywed.
At some point you realize prolly no one else will have you, and things becomemuch more tolerable. 😜

Love your avatar, btw
 
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