My journey of Faith - comments and opinions please

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Hello there. My name is Stephanie. I am 21 years old, and work as a dance teacher - my dream job. I was baptised into the Catholic Faith and was very proud of it - up until high school. More on that later.

My father was in the Air Force while I was growing up, and I got to live in and visit many amazing places. In 1997, I even went to the Vatican for Easter with JPII. Always being surrounded by different cultures, my parents emphasized to never judge others, no matter their skin color, their gender, or their religion. It became a practice that whenever I was invited to ANY place of worship, I was required to go and learn - not to push me away from the Church, but to keep my mind open. I feel I was blessed to be able to visit Buddhist temples, Jewish Synagogues, and a variety of Protestant churches.

In high school however, I moved to Oklahoma, and where I was, everyone did not like Catholics. For the first time in my life, I was being told by my peers that I was going to Hell because I did not follow their faith. It was hard, and it helped drive me into a deep depression. I found counsel in the Catholic church, but just barely. After months of struggling with suicide attempts and anxiety attacks, I decided to declare myself Agnostic. I was sure of the existence of G-d, and His Son, but I was pressured out of practicing my faith. 2 years I did not go to Church, and though it was not horrible, I did not ever feel fulfilled.

I came to Texas for college, and a friend invited me to the Catholic Student Association at my university. I figured it would be a good place to meet new friends, and so I decided to attend a meeting. I was blown away. There was such a positive energy. And all around me was a diverse group of people. There were people of different races and stories, there were a couple of protestants and homosexuals even!.!. It brought me to happy tears to see people not being judging, but just loving and listening. On Sundays we transformed the student center and held Mass, with a guest Priest every week. Since we were all young adults, the homilies were directed at us as the next generation of Catholics.

I decided my favorite thing about my teachings of Catholicism - not ONCE was I ever told to tell somebody else that they are going to Hell for not being Catholic.

That was 3 years ago, and now I am still very proud to be Catholic. It has carried me through a lot. Though now I have some things I am trying to sort out. A yearly activity at CSA is we have a panel where we can ask Priest, Decons, Nuns, and Brothers any questions we come up with. Always common is the Church’s view on Homosexuality. And a Priest answered with this: “In the Church, the purpose of marriage is Procreation. So two men or two women can not ever be married in the church. But to be married by LAW, by the STATE, is different. And to that, we have no opposition” I think is is a good answer. I was wondering if anyone has any comments/oppositions to that?

I do admit - I do not go to Church regularly. But my reason is not that I am lazy or that I find it pointless - I go to receive Communion when I feel compelled in my heart - when I need and deserve it. I have a friend who goes to church every Sunday, and throws a fit when her boyfriend doesn’t go with her due to the fact that she has gone every Sunday in her life. Yet the other 6 days of the week, I see her drown herself in alcohol and infidelity. In my eyes, it defeats the purpose. I choose to remain sober, and faithful to my body and my boyfriend, and often go to Mass during the week instead of on Sunday. Please tell me if this is worse than my friend - it is something I feel a bit confused on.

It is a bit of a read, but if you do read it, I would appreciate insight. This past year has been trying on me - my parents got a divorce after 22 years, I lost my job, and I dropped out of school, but now with Faith I am back on the right track. I am going to World Youth Day to find closure on what I feel is my childhood, and look forward to a life as an “adult”. Please pray for me, and I will for you. Thank you for your time friends, and God Bless 🙂
 
Hi Stephanie.

You write very well! It would be hard to distill all those experiences and thoughts into a short article. You were able to do that, and to communicate some of your salient thoughts and questions.

I thank God that He has brought you back to the Catholic faith. I’ve been a Catholic for 30 years now (since I was 21) and I give thanks every day for it. Like you, one of the things that attracted me to the faith was it doesn’t send all non-believers to hell.

Don’t let your friend’s bad example deter you from going to Mass every Sunday. It is good to go to a weekday Mass, but that is not the same a Sunday Mass, which is, and always has been, the primary celebration of the Church. Also, try to go to confession regularly. With these two things - Sunday Mass and confession - you will find yourself progressing spiritually. You will also find that you are building up the foundations for a stable life, which can whether the storms. It does take some effort, but it is well worth it.

I am sorry to hear about your parents divorce and your recent troubles. Well done clinging to your faith through all this.

Thanks for your story!

Edmundus

ps. Welcome to the forums :), and, btw, you seem to have made a mistake in your personal details, and have put your email address as your religion. I suggest you fix that 😉
 
Interesting reflections on your part DancingMyDays. Going to weekday Masses is obviously a grace-filling habit, and cannot but lead you on and upwards so to speak. Keep it up.

God Bless,
Paduard
 
I decided my favorite thing about my teachings of Catholicism - not ONCE was I ever told to tell somebody else that they are going to Hell for not being Catholic.
I think you do need to respect the view of people who think you’re going to hell and to understand that they are sincerely trying to share Jesus’ saving message with you. As you mature, you should learn to reciprocate this desire, instead of being depressed by it and taking it personally.
That was 3 years ago, and now I am still very proud to be Catholic. It has carried me through a lot. Though now I have some things I am trying to sort out. A yearly activity at CSA is we have a panel where we can ask Priest, Decons, Nuns, and Brothers any questions we come up with. Always common is the Church’s view on Homosexuality. And a Priest answered with this: “In the Church, the purpose of marriage is Procreation. So two men or two women can not ever be married in the church. But to be married by LAW, by the STATE, is different. And to that, we have no opposition” I think is is a good answer. I was wondering if anyone has any comments/oppositions to that?
No, that’s not a good answer. I recommend you go to vatican.va and research the issue. You’ll find that this priest has misled you about the Church’s teaching. Catholics must oppose distortions of the meaning of marriage, including laws creating and approving the secular institution of ‘homosexual marriage.’
I do admit - I do not go to Church regularly. But my reason is not that I am lazy or that I find it pointless - I go to receive Communion when I feel compelled in my heart - when I need and deserve it. I have a friend who goes to church every Sunday, and throws a fit when her boyfriend doesn’t go with her due to the fact that she has gone every Sunday in her life. Yet the other 6 days of the week, I see her drown herself in alcohol and infidelity. In my eyes, it defeats the purpose. I choose to remain sober, and faithful to my body and my boyfriend, and often go to Mass during the week instead of on Sunday. Please tell me if this is worse than my friend - it is something I feel a bit confused on.
Friends helping friends is very important in all religious traditions (so far as I’m aware). You should listen to your friend and your friend should listen to you and you should seek to find the truth together and to accept mutual correction in a spirit of humility, faith, and love.

The Church does require that we go to Sunday mass every week, if this is reasonably possible. It is a spiritual discipline that we must do as a matter of loving obedience, not just a personal inspiration thing.
 
All ‘born-again’ Catholics declared themselves atheist/agnostic because they were rebellious/depressed/persecuted. I haven’t ever met a ‘born-again’ who became and atheist for a scientific/moral reason. The ones who do never went back to their religion. 🤷
 
All ‘born-again’ Catholics declared themselves atheist/agnostic because they were rebellious/depressed/persecuted. I haven’t ever met a ‘born-again’ who became and atheist for a scientific/moral reason. The ones who do never went back to their religion. 🤷
I suspect that’s because there are no scientific/moral reasons for becoming an atheist. 🙂
 
Thank you all for the replies. I went to Mass this past Sunday, and it was a very nice experience. I chose to go by myself, and to a church that I had never attended a service at before except Daily Mass. I ended up having a great experience at this Church, and am considering making it my permanent one. World Youth Day is getting closer, and I am anxious for what awaits. Thank you all very much 🙂
 
Thank you all for the replies. I went to Mass this past Sunday, and it was a very nice experience. I chose to go by myself, and to a church that I had never attended a service at before except Daily Mass. I ended up having a great experience at this Church, and am considering making it my permanent one. World Youth Day is getting closer, and I am anxious for what awaits. Thank you all very much 🙂
Hello Dancing,

Great to see you attending Sunday Mass. 👍

You are so lucky to be attending World Youth Day in Spain. It changed my entire spiritual life when I attended Sydneys World Youth Day.

I highly recommend it to all 16-35 year olds to attend. It will blow you away, the Catholic youth of the world together, discovering the faith through the worship photo exhibitions, debates, lectures etc.

The Olympics for Catholics. Please let us know how you enjoyed the experience.
 
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