My Life has been destroyed

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I’m just worried I won’t get hired with huge scars everywhere
Another reason priesthood might work but I don’t want my reason to just be nothing else works
I don’t want my life story to be it was all good until one day and then he became a depressed priest
 
Thank you so much for this
And believe it or not I’m 16/17 and growing a beard
I look pretty old and it’s even more so with the beard

The one thing i say I’m good at is sympathy and being a good friend

I know I can use that for some serious good

Just with depression it’s hard to find the hope to even think anything positive
 
I had a depression state before I was on it
I’m feeling better or not charged with if and the intense physical pain is gone

I wouldn’t bring it up to panic my family and get me of the medicine

Suicide is out of question because you can’t escape pain by making your last act a mortal sin
 
Thank you
The girl I like knows I do and I know she knows I like her
I knew she didn’t from the start
But we are best friends and she is so sorry for me
I have some great friends and that’s what’s keep me here

I like to think I’m strong so living through all of it but I really just want grow up got to confession and grace my way to heaven
 
Again: the priesthood is not a last resort, something you do when you don’t know what else to do with your life. It gets tiring that every time people are unsure of what they should do, or lacking a relationship that people say they should become a priest. The OP sounds depressed, has an addiction and acne. He needs to get all of these things under control before he will be able to make any kind of decision.

OP, consider volunteering somewhere since you like helping people. Be patient with your acne medication, it will get better. As far as relationships, you need to boost your confidence and feel better about yourself in order to draw someone to you. It is not about your appearance. Speak to your priest honestly about your porn addiction.
 
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Op: May you be filled with loving kindness. May you be well. May you be peaceful and at ease. May you be happy.
 
Cruciferi said:
My brother was on Accutane (Isotretinoin) for cystic acne. Tell your doctor that you’re feeling depressed as this is a potential side effect for this medication.
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Quoting because this is so very important!!!
 
Have you read St Pope John Paul II’s work on redemptive suffering?

https://w2.vatican.va/content/john-.../hf_jp-ii_apl_11021984_salvifici-doloris.html

That letter and two books saved my life. I am a person with a very severe, visible, incurable, untreatable condition. I understand what it feels like to look in the mirror and feel you see a monster. I have a deep devotion to Bl Margaret Bl. Margaret of Castello - Nashville Dominicans | Nashville Dominicans

The two books Fr Jaques Phillipe’s “Searching For and Maintaining Peace” and Caryll Houselander’s “Reed of God”.
 
I agree entirely with that
I said before I don’t want my reason to be because I think I’m ugly but it’s on my mind

I should wait before make a serious vocation decision

I also just to help keep the number of priests high. every priest asks the kids who will be the next priests

I think my understanding of pain is good for any vocation
 
Try avoiding junk food, sugar and soda. Drink more water. Also eat forrest fruits: blackberries, cranberries, blueberries, they have a huge impact on the quality of your skin and are very rich in vit C and will help with healing the infection. And the good oils: extra virgin olive oil, fish oil.
I had a colleague who had huge scars from acne on her face and she was very successful with men. And she was a girl, right? It’s not that hard for guys. You will probably look a bit older because the skin will not be that smooth until the scars go away. Girls don’t like babyboys. But then there baby boys who look too pretty and feminine and then there is also the attitude. The attitude is 100% up to you.
And forget what girls in their teens say to you. Nobody thinks in their teens and barely anyone really falls in love in the first place. The teens are just suffering so we can enjoy growing up and stop complaining to God that we are aging. 😜 And when we were little we were complaining grownups don’t let us play. 😝 There had to be something in for teen years. 😅 Think about it: people with great looking teen years will complain later with even more shock when they see … it all fades away eventually. (Please Note: This uploaded content is no longer available.) It really does.
Ok some things don’t just fade. However skin is not one of those things (sadly for some, joyfully for others).
 
I did some diet changes
Of course the doctors don’t think it helps but I think it does
I do have more of it now because of the accutane but I still try to avoid when I can

I have this one girl I like and I know she knows I like her
I know she doesn’t but she’s still my best friend and it’s all good even after I told her

She’s helpful in all this
But I feel bad for focusing on her and friends to cope instead of God
So I try to thank God for my friends
 
I don’t know what you mean by “focusing,” but having helpful friends is great. Friends are a gift from God to enjoy. But truly, if my son or brother were expressing the unhappiness and despair you have expressed on CAF, I would beg that son or brother to talk to a mental health professional. It’s wonderful you’re getting effective treatment for your skin. Don’t you think your mind deserves the same?
 
Do you volunteer? Maybe sign up to volunteer with Hospice or on the children’s ward at the hospital. Nothing helps like getting out of yourself and helping others.
 
Maybe but really just loving time with friends helps me a lot even if I think about things I messed up afterwards

I just don’t my family or all of my friends to know I’m depressed or feel this way
It’s a lot for them to take and they might take it the wrong way

I also don’t want my parents spending anymore on doctors and depression might get me off this great medicine

I’ve learned a lot and my hope is I can be a good person knowing what it’s like to suffer

I also have people who care like the people on this forum
 
I agree I’ve felt no change I can blame on the medicine

I’ve changed doses too and still nothing

Plus I feel much better especially physically
 
Have you seen a dermatologist as well as a family doctor? Most acne scars can be successfully removed with dermabrasion in a dermatological clinic. It’s not terribly expensive, either.
 
Your close friends and family need to know about your depression. If you were going through cancer treatment, they’d want to know. You are not a burden to them. I can guarantee you that their lives are better because you exist. Give them a chance to share this with you.
 
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