My LONG Story and why I am interested in being Catholic!

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I was born in the country of Guatemala. (Country below Mexico) I say this because it plays a big role in my future. However, as a baby I came to the USA because I was adopted. I was always interested in my biological family and wondered about Guatemala.

As a child/preteen I always thought that Christians were the same. I never knew about Catholics or Protestants, I never knew about other denominations. I just thought that all Christians were like the church I attended and they believed the exact same things.

In 6th Grade I was doing a project about any country I chose. I chose Guatemala. One of the requirements was to identify the religion in the country. I printed off a bar graph, and it was divided into 3 sections, they were Roman Catholic, Christianity, and Other. I did not know what Roman Catholic was, all I knew was that it was the predominant religion there. Christianity was much lower. I was confused.

In 7th grade, I still didn’t know about denominations. I thought that Christians were Christians. However, I had a Catholic English Teacher. I asked a friend what it was she said that Catholics were Christians.

One day it was Ash Wednesday and I remember my bus driver, who was also Catholic, talking about giving up a certain food for Lent. I remember seeing ashes on her forehead. I remember getting home and telling my a. mother, “The bus driver had dirt on her forehead.” That’s really what I said because I didn’t know what it was! My a. mother said it was ashes from being Catholic.

I remember the teacher saying that she was going to give up coffee for Lent since she had an addiction to it. I didn’t know what she meant by Lent though. At that point I just thought that it was a “weird” kind of Christianity because I, a Protestant, did not observe Lent or Ash Wednesday.

A month later I remember her reviewing for the end of year state testing. But one day she was doing something to entertain us since she didn’t have anything else to do. We did palm reading. She said that she didn’t want to offend anybody, it was just for fun.

I remember her asking a question that really opened my eyes that day. She said, “Who in here is a Baptist?” Literally, EVERYONE raised their hand EXCEPT me. I had no idea what that was. I soon realized I was a Baptist because I attended and grew up in a Baptist Church which is what everyone is in my area.

I still didn’t understand Protestants or Catholics. A few weeks later I was in Social Studies class and we were talking about different denominations in Christianity. He explained many but I don’t remember what he said about them, except Baptist, because I was a Baptist. He said that when we are baptized we go underwater completely.

I’m now in high school. I don’t have a good relationship with my adoptive family. We argue, and a few months ago, I got into an argument about my OCD and Emetophobia problem (Fear of throwing up) They say it’s all in my head and that I need to quit worrying. I was mad and decided I was going to move to Guatemala, change my name back to my birth name, and meet real family.

Ironically, a week before this happened I told a new friend that I was born there and the adoption and she asked me, “Are you ever going to move there when you are an adult?” and my reply, “I don’t think so. I will probably visit Guatemala, and meet my biological family but I probably won’t live there.”

Then I remembered Guatemala being predominately Roman Catholic.

I asked my Baptist friend and was hoping to get opinions from her. I remember the first time I told her. I said: "What would think if I were to convert, not really religions, but – " I did not get to finish. She said, “Don’t you ever consider changing religions!” and I told her I would never do that. Then I finished and said “…but attending a Catholic Church” and she said, “I don’t know.” I asked a person who I found out was Catholic that same day, in my class. I was talking to her and the Baptist friend, and I asked what was the difference between Roman Catholics and Catholics? She said “They are two different things, they believe in different things, they are not the same” I was shocked! I thought, well if they are different things, I shouldn’t think of joining a Roman Catholic Church in Guatemala. So I quit thinking about it.

Then I thought, why do they both use the word Catholic? I looked it up and never got good answers. Until, I found Catholic Answers and thought, maybe I will get actual answers from other Catholics. I understand now.

I finally got to ask my Baptist friend again about it. She said negative things about Catholics and said I shouldn’t convert and that we would just Skype so that I would stay Baptist. I never said anything rude, I never got into an argument, I defended the reasons. I have not converted to being a Catholic, but for some reason I use the pronoun “We”. She talked about “Worshiping Mary” and I was about to say, “We don’t worship Mary, we just pray and ask…” but I caught myself and said “They…”

Later I apologized and said I never meant to offend her. I just wanted to talk and see what her opinions were. She said thanks and that she accepted my apology. She called other denominations, “stupid”, but she believes that Baptists are only correct.

I never talked about it again. I just kind of, not really forgot, but was not questioning as much about converting until a kid wanted to talk about the Blood Moon and how he thought it looked “Satanic” because it was red and “bloody looking” but I saw it and it was not that red. Then they talked about other denominations and I was involved so you can probably tell how it went. Ever since, I have actually seriously thought about converting to Catholicism.

That’s my story and hopefully God will lead me to the right path and show me which way to go, and yes, I am sorry for it being very long!

Thanks… God Bless You!
 
Very interesting, I love to hear about when people become interested in Catholicism! I shall pray for you and I hope that you can continue to learn, and someday join. 😃
 
I was talking to her and the Baptist friend, and I asked what was the difference between Roman Catholics and Catholics? She said “They are two different things, they believe in different things, they are not the same” I was shocked! I thought, well if they are different things, I shouldn’t think of joining a Roman Catholic Church in Guatemala. So I quit thinking about it.
Hi khmsct. Firstly, I’m sorry that you are having difficulty with your adoptive family and that you are suffering from those phobias. I know they are more common than one might think but can be overcome with therapy.

Secondly, there is no difference between Catholic and Roman Catholic. We are all just Catholic. The term Roman Catholic actually originated from an attitude of Protestantism that was derogatory… similar to the European Protestants use of “papists”.

When I was young (I’m in my 50’s now), if someone referred to us as ‘Roman’ Catholics my mother were very swiftly correct them by saying ‘we are just Catholics’. I think with the advent of Protestant conversions to the Catholic Church, it has slipped into popular use unwittingly, however I will still discourage it firmly when I hear it used.
 
OP, pardon me for sounding blunt, but it sounds like you’re looking for roots, or a connection to your heritage and have found a connection between your birth family and the Catholic Church.

While this is a noble endeavor, please be careful about using the Church to widen a gap between you and your parents.

First, I’m not criticizing you. Far from it! Your biological ethnicity is worth exploring if it can help you find a sense of “self,” but again, please be respectful of your adoptive parents’ feelings.

You see, if your adoptive parents are Baptist (even nominally), investigating the Church could be perceived as a bit of rebelling, and searching for autonomy from them.

All young adults go through an initial period of “finding themselves,” but the Catholic faith spans wider across the globe and farther back in time to creation itself.

If you are feeling a pull, no matter how small, to deepen your spiritual life, then I encourage you to find your extended family in the Catholic faith.

Catholicism is not just a connection to Guatemala or your heritage, it is the foundation of Western Civilization. It connects us all as God’s family throughout the ages.

This is bigger than your Latin Catholic family in Guatemala, or my Orthodox Catholic roots in Russia. This spans centuries and transcends what we call “family” in a spiritual sense that traces back to the dawn of time.

You do have a role His Universal Church it and are loved for who you are. God told His prophet Jeremiah, “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you”(Jeremiah 1:5, NABRE). God knows every hair on your head and wants you to know that you have an adoptive family who chose you, a biological family who choose life, and His family that includes every Christian walking the earth today, as well as a family of Saints in heaven ready to pray on your behalf.

I encourage you to study the scriptural foundations of the Catholic Church, and to develop a “prayer life” wherein you start to talk to God and His saints. We are here to answer your questions and to pray for you and each of your families.
 
Dear khmsct99, it appears that throughout the years, God has been gently calling you to the Catholic faith. Perhaps you have a Catholic biological family member who prayed very much for the child who was adopted that she would find her way to the Catholic faith.

Thank you for sharing your faith journey with us.
God bless you dear one.

Kind wishes and prayers,
Trishie
 
I’ve always told people who are anti-Catholic that Jesus Christ founded the Church on Peter (historically the first pope, although the word ‘pope’ wasn’t being used yet) and promised that the gates of Hell would not prevail against it (Mt. 16:18). Then 1500 years later, there is a protestant revolt over human sinfulness in the Church and different founders of Protestant denominations claim to be founding a church more in accordance to God’s will than the one Jesus Christ (God) founded. Now there are thousands upon thousands of protestant denominations, and while many are good, there is much misunderstanding of the Truth that only the Catholic Church possesses.

If you’re interested, look up Who founded your religion, which was published by the late Ann Landers who was Jewish.

God bless.
 
welcome and we excited about you interest.

some advice:
take time and pray about it
you can read the catechism of the cahtolic church online
you can attend RCIA classes just to learn more without converting
and most importantly, only convert if you believe the catholic church to be true and trust its teachings. don’t do it just to feel close to your birth family or to get away from your adoptive family or things like that. you may want to take your time, this may not go over well with your family and since you are sitll underage, you do need to obey them to a certain extent. and don’t forget all the good things that they have done for you either. take care and god bless. i will pray for you
 
I’m now in high school. I don’t have a good relationship with my adoptive family. We argue, and a few months ago, I got into an argument about my OCD and Emetophobia problem (Fear of throwing up) They say it’s all in my head and that I need to quit worrying. I was mad and decided I was going to move to Guatemala, change my name back to my birth name, and meet real family.
Hello, young friend! 🙂 Welcome!

Perhaps you are being called to become Catholic. I pray that you do, but if you don’t, know that God loves you either way.

I want to address a couple ‘other’ points in your post.

Lots of high school age people don’t have a good relationship with their family, adoptive, foster, biological/birth… I think we as adoptees have that added dynamic as well, but even if we weren’t adopted, it doesn’t mean everything would be hunky-dory with our parents. My relationship with my parents as a teen was rocky; my brother (also adopted; no blood relation to me) did not have a rocky relationship. My own teens: both had rough patches; neither of them were adopted.

I don’t know the issues with your family, but I recommend remembering that they are your ***real ***parents and family. You probably meant ‘birthfamily or biological family’ but just wanted to mention this. They are the ones who’ve raised you, loved you, nurtured you, took care of you…parenting is more than blood relation. I have found some of my relatives; it’s been quite a ride, an emotional roller coaster I wouldn’t wish on anyone. At your age, (which no one at that age wants to hear) it’s better to wait until you’re officially an adult for some things, and finding your birthfamily would be one of them. I know that with my results of connecting with my birthfamily would have been difficult as a teen, and nearly impossible without a good solid family of my own (parents, husband, etc).

I don’t know how my mom handled me as a teen; I know I couldn’t have. Thankfully, as parents, we are sometimes able to have the strength to make it through our teens’ years.

God bless you.
 
OP, pardon me for sounding blunt, but it sounds like you’re looking for roots, or a connection to your heritage and have found a connection between your birth family and the Catholic Church.

While this is a noble endeavor, please be careful about using the Church to widen a gap between you and your parents.

First, I’m not criticizing you. Far from it! Your biological ethnicity is worth exploring if it can help you find a sense of “self,” but again, please be respectful of your adoptive parents’ feelings.

You see, if your adoptive parents are Baptist (even nominally), investigating the Church could be perceived as a bit of rebelling, and searching for autonomy from them.

All young adults go through an initial period of “finding themselves,” but the Catholic faith spans wider across the globe and farther back in time to creation itself.

If you are feeling a pull, no matter how small, to deepen your spiritual life, then I encourage you to find your extended family in the Catholic faith.

Catholicism is not just a connection to Guatemala or your heritage, it is the foundation of Western Civilization. It connects us all as God’s family throughout the ages.

This is bigger than your Latin Catholic family in Guatemala, or my Orthodox Catholic roots in Russia. This spans centuries and transcends what we call “family” in a spiritual sense that traces back to the dawn of time.

You do have a role His Universal Church it and are loved for who you are. God told His prophet Jeremiah, “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you”(Jeremiah 1:5, NABRE). God knows every hair on your head and wants you to know that you have an adoptive family who chose you, a biological family who choose life, and His family that includes every Christian walking the earth today, as well as a family of Saints in heaven ready to pray on your behalf.

I encourage you to study the scriptural foundations of the Catholic Church, and to develop a “prayer life” wherein you start to talk to God and His saints. We are here to answer your questions and to pray for you and each of your families.
I see what you are saying. However, I actually have learned the history and read scripture and I can honestly say that I have found it to make a lot more sense to me. That was actually what I was going to put on the original post, but since there is a 6000 character limit, I didn’t get to add that in. Also, I thank you for reading. Also, I wouldn’t want to rebel against the adoptive parents, we have had decent times together, but there have been bad times as well. Anyways, thanks for reading 🙂
 
Hello, young friend! 🙂 Welcome!

Perhaps you are being called to become Catholic. I pray that you do, but if you don’t, know that God loves you either way.

I want to address a couple ‘other’ points in your post.

Lots of high school age people don’t have a good relationship with their family, adoptive, foster, biological/birth… I think we as adoptees have that added dynamic as well, but even if we weren’t adopted, it doesn’t mean everything would be hunky-dory with our parents. My relationship with my parents as a teen was rocky; my brother (also adopted; no blood relation to me) did not have a rocky relationship. My own teens: both had rough patches; neither of them were adopted.

I don’t know the issues with your family, but I recommend remembering that they are your ***real ***parents and family. You probably meant ‘birthfamily or biological family’ but just wanted to mention this. They are the ones who’ve raised you, loved you, nurtured you, took care of you…parenting is more than blood relation. I have found some of my relatives; it’s been quite a ride, an emotional roller coaster I wouldn’t wish on anyone. At your age, (which no one at that age wants to hear) it’s better to wait until you’re officially an adult for some things, and finding your birthfamily would be one of them. I know that with my results of connecting with my birthfamily would have been difficult as a teen, and nearly impossible without a good solid family of my own (parents, husband, etc).

I don’t know how my mom handled me as a teen; I know I couldn’t have. Thankfully, as parents, we are sometimes able to have the strength to make it through our teens’ years.

God bless you.
🙂 Thanks for the advice really. I actually have already planned out a lot of my life (I do that) and I guess when I meet them it will be in my mid 20s. I would really like to finish high school, earn a master’s degree in teaching, and then earn the money I need. So it will be a while. But thank you so much for the advice.
 
most importantly, only convert if you believe the catholic church to be true and trust its teachings. don’t do it just to feel close to your birth family or to get away from your adoptive family or things like that. you may want to take your time
To be honest, even though I have had bad times with the adoptive family, I have had many good times as well. 🙂 like any family. But I have actually looked into Catholicism and makes a lot more sense than what my current status is. I do believe it to be true, I actually like the way it teaches, the way they do everything really. Currently, my pastor (when he does his sermons) barely reads out of the Bible. I can’t remember the last time he read out of it in the sermons… maybe a month ago? But that is just in sermons, I am not sure about other days. So, even though it does sound like it is the connection of the birth family, because to be honest, I am not sure what they are. But I trust in it, I understand way more, and I feel that this will greatly increase and improve my relationship with God.
 
Dear khmsct99, it appears that throughout the years, God has been gently calling you to the Catholic faith. Perhaps you have a Catholic biological family member who prayed very much for the child who was adopted that she would find her way to the Catholic faith.

Thank you for sharing your faith journey with us.
God bless you dear one.

Kind wishes and prayers,
Trishie
Thank you very much 😃 I have noticed that through out the years I have been “exposed” to Catholic people that I never knew about. The 6th grade project, the 7th grade teacher, the bus driver, and even today my social studies teacher was talking about the Catholic and things they believed in (in a positive way) so yes, you could be correct. Thanks!! 😃
 
I see what you are saying. However, I actually have learned the history and read scripture and I can honestly say that I have found it to make a lot more sense to me. That was actually what I was going to put on the original post, but since there is a 6000 character limit, I didn’t get to add that in. Also, I thank you for reading. Also, I wouldn’t want to rebel against the adoptive parents, we have had decent times together, but there have been bad times as well. Anyways, thanks for reading 🙂
This is all wonderful, I just want to point out, however, that one of the Ten Commandments is to honor thy mother and father. The Catholic Church is very clear on this issue, and honoring and obeying one’s parents during the age of minority is part of Catholic teaching. So, your first job, should you want to become Catholic, is to honor and obey your parents. I’m not saying you should ignore what is happening in your heart, but I am saying that you may not be able to fully explore this until you become an adult.

That said, I think that you could find a lot of help in the Catholic church with the issues that you have. The Catholic church gives Christians access to Christ that no other church has - the Eucharist, which can be such a strong force in helping you overcome the OCD and Emetophobia. But that doesn’t mean you can’t ask Jesus today to come into your heart and help you overcome these things and/or influence your parents to help you get the help you need.

It sounds like you are being pulled to the Catholic church, and it is inevitable, you just have to follow the will of God and instructions of the Church in doing it.

Thanks for sharing with us. Good luck to you! I will pray for you.
 
This is all wonderful, I just want to point out, however, that one of the Ten Commandments is to honor thy mother and father. The Catholic Church is very clear on this issue, and honoring and obeying one’s parents during the age of minority is part of Catholic teaching. So, your first job, should you want to become Catholic, is to honor and obey your parents. I’m not saying you should ignore what is happening in your heart, but I am saying that you may not be able to fully explore this until you become an adult.

That said, I think that you could find a lot of help in the Catholic church with the issues that you have. The Catholic church gives Christians access to Christ that no other church has - the Eucharist, which can be such a strong force in helping you overcome the OCD and Emetophobia. But that doesn’t mean you can’t ask Jesus today to come into your heart and help you overcome these things and/or influence your parents to help you get the help you need.

It sounds like you are being pulled to the Catholic church, and it is inevitable, you just have to follow the will of God and instructions of the Church in doing it.

Thanks for sharing with us. Good luck to you! I will pray for you.
Yes! I actually have adoptive siblings as well, and when they don’t follow what our parents say I actually tell them they need too. I feel terrible when lying so I don’t lie much, but people lie, it’s human nature, but I try not too, because when I do, I usually say that I did and I feel terrible for it, it makes me so mad when others do it. I’m not those annoying kids that scream and that you find on the news about them being so bad they were forced to leave and move in with someone else. That actually gives me nightmares, literally. We joke around sometimes, we go places together, eat out, and even have family time… but, like all families, there are conflicts. But I try to obey them, it just makes me mad when we argue over the little things, like the OCD and Emetophobia. That’s mainly all we ever argue about, unless it’s something else. The last I argued would have been… probably when I made the decision of Guatemala. (So like my original post, several months ago) Before that, probably the beginning of the school year in August and before that maybe, last school year. So not often.
 
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That’s my story and hopefully God will lead me to the right path and show me which way to go, and yes, I am sorry for it being very long!

Thanks… God Bless You!
Thanks for your story :tiphat:

If I’m asked why I’m Catholic, I say it’s the same reason I remain Catholic.

Because from the very beginning the Church is the Catholic Church and Jesus started it. And here are the reasons for my answer.

Acts 9:31 the church throughout all ἐκκλησία,καθ’,ὅλης ,τῆς ,Judea and Galilee and Sama’ria…"

iow the Church Jesus started ἐκκλησία , τῆς] throughout all καθ’kata ὅλης holos] is the Kataholos Church = Catholic Church. The English word Catholic is a transliteration of the Greek katholikos which is a compound word from kata, which means according to, and holos, which means whole. http://www.catholic.com/tracts/what-catholic-means
  • St IgnatiusBp of Antioch, ~69 a.d. - ~107 a.d., ordained by apostles, disciple of St John the apostle, called the Church the Catholic Church Epistle to the Smyrnæans (ch 8) of which schismatics won’t be going to heaven Epistle to the Philadelphians (ch 3) . As an aside, Ignatius calls himself Catholic in the Catholic Church because that’s what he learned from John.
  • St Polycarp, Bp Smyrna, disciple of St John called the Church the “Catholic Church” The Martyrdom of Polycarp
  • Muratorian canon earlychristianwritings.com/text/muratorian.html uses “Catholic Church”
  • Irenaeus ~180 a.d. wrote “Against Heresies” called the Church the “Catholic Church” Adversus haereses [Bk 1 http://www.newadvent.org/fathers/0103110.htm”]Chapter 10v 3], and also Irenaeus who was taught by Polycarp, teaches all must agree with Rome [Bk 3, http://www.newadvent.org/fathers/0103303.htm”]Chapter 3, v 2-3]
  • Cyprian~250 a.d. calls the Church the Catholic Church Epistle 54
  • The Nicene Creed, 325 a.d., it’s a matter of faith to believe in the “One Holy Catholic Apostolic Church”
  • Augustine ~395 There are many other things that most justly keep me in her * bosom. . . . The succession of priests keeps me, beginning from the very seat of the Apostle Peter, to whom the Lord, after His resurrection, gave it in charge to feed His sheep, down to the present episcopate. And so, lastly, does the name itself of Catholic, which, not without reason, amid so many heresies, the Church has thus retained; so that, though all heretics wish to be called Catholics, yet when a stranger asks where the Catholic Church meets, no heretic will venture to point to his own chapel or house.Against the Epistle of Manichaeus Called Fundamental (ch 5 v6)
  • etc
The same Church Pope Francis is over today, 267th successor to St Peter.
Jesus says He wants perfect unity i.e. no division in His Church John 17:20-23 , and since the HS only teaches what comes from Jesus John 16:12-15 , the HS then isn’t the author of all the confusion we see by individuals splitting from the Catholic Church and causing all the 10’s of thousands of sects (divisions) we see in Christianity.

As an aside, the Baptists are a protestant religion. They were started by John Smyth in the 17th century.

My Prayers ascending for your journey.*
 
Yes! I actually have adoptive siblings as well, and when they don’t follow what our parents say I actually tell them they need too. I feel terrible when lying so I don’t lie much, but people lie, it’s human nature, but I try not too, because when I do, I usually say that I did and I feel terrible for it, it makes me so mad when others do it. I’m not those annoying kids that scream and that you find on the news about them being so bad they were forced to leave and move in with someone else. That actually gives me nightmares, literally. We joke around sometimes, we go places together, eat out, and even have family time… but, like all families, there are conflicts. But I try to obey them, it just makes me mad when we argue over the little things, like the OCD and Emetophobia. That’s mainly all we ever argue about, unless it’s something else. The last I argued would have been… probably when I made the decision of Guatemala. (So like my original post, several months ago) Before that, probably the beginning of the school year in August and before that maybe, last school year. So not often.
I wasn’t accusing you of being disobedient, and I apologize if what I wrote came off that way. I just wanted to point out that you might have to wait to become Catholic if your parents do not approve.

I am concerned about the OCD and Emetophobia. Do you have any idea why they are dismissive of those issues? Regardless - I want to say that I am very impressed that you are taking a proactive approach to addressing your health and these issues. You sound like a very mature, put together high school kid. Maybe we could help you figure out how to approach this with your parents?
 
I wasn’t accusing you of being disobedient, and I apologize if what I wrote came off that way. I just wanted to point out that you might have to wait to become Catholic if your parents do not approve.

I am concerned about the OCD and Emetophobia. Do you have any idea why they are dismissive of those issues? Regardless - I want to say that I am very impressed that you are taking a proactive approach to addressing your health and these issues. You sound like a very mature, put together high school kid. Maybe we could help you figure out how to approach this with your parents?
You are correct on waiting. I wouldn’t do it right now just because of that reason. As for the OCD and Emetophobia, I’ve struggled for it for 10 years… and so they are probably tired of my “rituals” of excessive hand washing and not touching public doorknobs and things like that. The Emetophobia, if someone were sick at my house I would be in my room hiding and this can cause me to not eat as much just because I don’t want to leave my room and such. So they’re probably annoyed about it. Thanks as well! 🙂
 
You are correct on waiting. I wouldn’t do it right now just because of that reason. As for the OCD and Emetophobia, I’ve struggled for it for 10 years… and so they are probably tired of my “rituals” of excessive hand washing and not touching public doorknobs and things like that. The Emetophobia, if someone were sick at my house I would be in my room hiding and this can cause me to not eat as much just because I don’t want to leave my room and such. So they’re probably annoyed about it. Thanks as well! 🙂
As a mom, and as a teen that assumed things of my parents at times growing up, they may or may not be ‘tired’ of these things. They could be concerned for you, tired of it for you. As I had some of my own special needs, while my parents might have been concerned about it, they still loved me, and were concerned for me. 🙂
 
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