my marriage

[Malcolm_McLean]

I would never do that! I was raise to respect marriage as my husband. We have very strong morals. Your “theory” is something I would expect a teenage would do.

As for my “vows” of course I ment them. It would take a idiot to marry and the vows mean nothing. As for abuse of an “annulment”, I have read a few books where the church granted annulments to husbands so they could remarry.
I feel the abuse goes both ways. Money talks.

In that case you are almost certainly really married.

You’ve got to understand that a very common pattern is that a nominally Christian girl meets a Muslim, maybe at university. The university teaches that any form of racism or cultural prejudice is completely beyond the pale. So the Muslim man socialises with the white people as an equal, mixing with women in a way that he wouldn’t be allowed to do at home. It’s exciting for him, and out of his own cultural environment he begins to adopt a more Western way of looking at things.

Then they get married. At this point, the Muslim’s family comes into play. He’s under enormous pressure not to Christianise, and he himself has very ambivalent feelings about the West. Quite commonly the woman sees a sudden change. What she thought would be a modern, equal, university professionals type relationship is in fact something entirely different. She is also distrusted by other Muslims.

At that point you tend to get trouble. He might refuse to allow her to work, or to have male friends. She might regard this as unacceptable.

It’s not inevitable, of course. Some Western women don’t mind living in an Asian manner. Some Muslim men are more Westernised. Not all Muslim families are the same. However it is sufficiently common for the relationships to break down with a high frequency, and then the woman will then seek an annullment. However if the marriage is convalidated there can be no annullment.

Do understand now why the Church is cautious? In your case I hope it is very misplaced. But marriages to Muslims go wrong so often that experience cannot be denied. There must be a certain amount of time before the priest is convinced that you won’t be knocking on his door in two years’ time, in tears, demanding that your marriage be annulled.

 

[Dempsey1919]

KimL:

Where did Jesus say that?

Well I am more worried about what Jesus has to say about my marriage.
I am now seriously considering going elsewhere ; where I am not judged by man but God.

Their is a LOT of things about the church I just dont understand.
I feel like I think about it too much; but religion is always on my mind! I have been cursed with this for 15 years.

I will decide whether to leave.

Jesus Christ established one Church to teach the nations of the world. He establised the Catholic Church and gave the Pope the keys to the Kingdom of Heaven. This is the truth.

I am pleased that you have realised the lies of Islam and embraced Christ. However, I would remind you that the Catholic Church is alone in possessing the whole truth. Only in the Catholic Church can you be certain that you are following the truth.

I know it is hard at times but remember that Jesus said it wouldn’t be easy. Anything that is worth having is hard to get. Entering the Church is not easy but by persevering you will gain peace.

Be game and stick to it. I would advise you to begin learning about the faith. Christianity is not as simple as Islam because it is not man-made. Christianity is hard to understand because it reveals truths that we as humans with limited understanding will find hard to comprehend. I recommend that you read the Catechism and the Bible. Mere Christianity by C.S Lewis is also a good starting point.

Reverting to Catholicism will be daunting and very trying but remember that this is what God wants. Bear any crosses that come your way and trust in Jesus Christ.