My Mother Doesn't Like That I Am Pro-Life

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My mother and I got into an argument, because I am pro-life, and she says she doesn’t want me to be pro-life. She says that I am not respecting women. But that’s not true, I care about women. I’m confused. :confused:

I recently signed up to pray for the local parish’s respect life ministry. They called, as they couldn’t read my bad handwriting for my email. My mother said that she doesn’t want me to volunteer to have a sign, and be on the local green (I didn’t sign up to volunteer, only to pray.)

Am I disrespecting my mother by having different views than her? :confused:

How can she be in control of my views if I am of the age to vote (18.) :confused:

I would like to note that my mother is not a practicing Catholic. Should I have posted this topic in Moral Theology instead?
 
I don’t know how old you are, so a lot of that will depend on your age. That being said, is there some specific reason why she thinks being against abortion is disrespectful to women?
The founding foremothers of the American suffragette movement, including (but not limited to) Susan B. Anthony, Alice Paul (the author of the original Equal Rights Amendment), Elizabeth Cady Stanton, and Victoria Woodhull were all adamantly against abortion (or infanticide, as they sometimes called it back then). The current organization of N.O.W. certainly doesn’t want people to know this tidbit of information.

I highly recommend you, and your mom, if she’s willing, to research the national group, Feminists For Life. They are non-sectarian (IOW, they aren’t coming from a religious point of view), and have some wonderful resources about classical feminism and why abortion is NOT pro-woman at all. It may help soften her resistance to your pro-life stand.

If she doesn’t want you going anywhere to pray for an end to abortion, you can still do it in the comfort of your own home (and mind). I truly think that praying for an end to the heinous murdering of millions of children per year is more in line with God’s will than refraining from doing so out of honoring your mother’s will.
 
Melod,

Being an adult, means that you determine your own views and behaviors. If your mother disagrees with you views that is her right. But she does not have a right to tell you how to think, especially when it comes to moral decisions. To discuss each other views and to disagree is common. But there also needs to be respect in the discussion – for the others opinion and not the “I am older / your parent / more experienced / whatever; and you will believe as I do.

I am not sure if your Family is Catholic, but if they told you that you are not allowed to go to a Catholic Church any longer because they do not believe as you. Would you stop? I pray not, sometimes being adult means that you have to hold to your beliefs regardless what others say or think – even family.

Also this will most likely not be the last time that you disagree with your mother. Even when married – couples have different views. It does not mean that you are disrespecting them or no longer love them. The thing to do is respect their views as they should respect yours and not try to control you or your life.

So the short answer is “no, you are not disrespecting your mother.”

I pray that God grants you peace and strength to hold on to your beliefs and morals.

Winter
 
You would be disrespecting your Father (in heaven) by having different views than Him. Keep that in mind.
 
You are 18. If you live in your parents’ home, you need to follow reasonable house rules, but this issue is beyond her authority now.

When you were younger, she could have forbidden you to go there, but she could not have forbidden you to believe the truth!
 
Praying to the Holy Spirit to give you guidance, direction, strength, fortitude & wisdom to stand up for your convictions. God bless you.
 
Always pray. Perhaps you can agree with her to do a mutual study into the issue. You can watch videos together, read a pro life book together, try to understand why people who are pro choice hold to their position. Take the opportunity to share the beauty of life with her by learning with her. You can mutually enrich your relationship together!

Ever seen the movie/documentary “40”?

Another interesting (half hour) documentary is called “180 the Movie” (presented by an evangelical apologist but a lot of the arguments could be used by anyone.)

Mordocai
 
And you don’t like that your mother is happy that unborn children are killed to suit their mothers. Babies have rights too, not just the mother. If the rights of one trample on the rights of others, that is wrong. You are both adults, and it’s not her place to impose her beliefs on you. Best to be right with God. It isn’t disrespect to love God above all.

You can state your case with your mother but if she is resolutely unable to accept your beliefs as valid, she needs to respect your opposing views. Respectfully agree to disagree if there is no hope of her also respecting the rights of people who are still small and defenseless.

God bless you and your mother
 
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