My Mother is now making me leave the Church

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Sadly today I had a discussion with her where she is trying to get me to go to my GrandMothers Church and go to youth group. Now I told her that I don’t want to because its not Catholic and she said " its only about Jesus, not Religion!" (This is a non denom Church). I told her that I would never give up the faith for such heretics that I would die for the faith, she said I am taking it too far and that I became a radical extremist fundimentalist. Now she is having me leave the Church. 😦 I don’t know what to do anymore. She said I have no right to share my religious beliefs with others and convert them to the Church. She is now having me leave Catholicism. I’m just so depressed now.😦

Thank you everyone for all your help in giving me advice for how to increase my faith. May God Bless you all.

BVMFatima
 
BVMFatima said:
Hello,

Sadly today I had a discussion with her where she is trying to get me to go to my GrandMothers Church and go to youth group. Now I told her that I don’t want to because its not Catholic and she said " its only about Jesus, not Religion!" (This is a non denom Church). I told her that I would never give up the faith for such heretics that I would die for the faith, she said I am taking it too far and that I became a radical extremist fundimentalist. Now she is having me leave the Church. 😦 I don’t know what to do anymore. She said I have no right to share my religious beliefs with others and convert them to the Church. She is now having me leave Catholicism. I’m just so depressed now.😦

Thank you everyone for all your help in giving me advice for how to increase my faith. May God Bless you all.

BVMFatima
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May I ask how old you are?
 
She cannot command you to abandon your faith. Nor do you have to attend any other church to please her or anyone else. Continue to attend Mass, pray, and be a loving child, but obeying our parents does not include violating our consciences. Hang in there. God will see you through this trial if you are faithful. We will pray for you.

Our Father…

Hail Mary…

St. Michael the archangel…

Glory be…
 
It will not be long before your mother can no longer make these sorts of decisions for you. Please, continue to pray (esp. the Rosary, I’d recommend), know that if you have to miss Mass because of your mother’s orders that it’s not your fault, and know that the time is coming in when she cannot compel you to stop going to Church.

You’re not leaving the Church at all; you’re being forced away from it for a short time. It could be that God wants you to learn peace and faith even in the midst of hardship. It won’t last forever, I promise.
 
Della said:
She cannot command you to abandon your faith. Nor do you have to attend any other church to please her or anyone else. Continue to attend Mass, pray, and be a loving child, but obeying our parents does not include violating our consciences. Hang in there. God will see you through this trial if you are faithful. We will pray for you.

Our Father…

Hail Mary…

St. Michael the archangel…

Glory be…
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This. Adding my prayers as well.
 
Della said:
She cannot command you to abandon your faith. Nor do you have to attend any other church to please her or anyone else. Continue to attend Mass, pray, and be a loving child, but obeying our parents does not include violating our consciences. Hang in there. God will see you through this trial if you are faithful. We will pray for you.

Our Father…

Hail Mary…

St. Michael the archangel…

Glory be…
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If I don’t I will be grounded. I may have to convert to Protestantism or Islam to please my mother because she loves these religions.
 
BVMFatima said:
If I don’t I will be grounded. I may have to convert to Protestantism or Islam to please my mother because she loves these religions.
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I would say, gently, that many Catholics in the world have suffered more than being grounded for the sake of their faith. It didn’t stop them.
 
One cannot be forced to renounce ones faith …even for ones Mother.

Any no one can erase the indelible mark that is upon your soul from Baptism.

No water, no fire, no storms…nothing. You belong to Christ and will be Catholic…

But I would suggest avoiding such language as “heretics”…

…look at other Christian communities as* fellow Christians* (no matter the various kinds of error present in them). Such is how the Catholic Church looks at them.

Love your Mother and respect her.

And remember that no one can make you not a Catholic.
 
Bookcat said:
One cannot renounce ones faith …even for ones Mother.

Any no one can erase the indelible mark that is upon your soul from Baptism.

No water, no fire, no storms…nothing. You belong to Christ and will be Catholic…

But I would suggest avoiding such language as “heretics”…

…look at other Christian communities as* fellow Christians* (no matter the various kinds of error present in them). Such is how the Catholic Church looks at them.
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But Protestantism is a heresy in itself, I don’t see the problem to be honest.
 
Do not follow your Mothers command.

Remain a faithful Catholic.

You’re 16, you can drive… If hard times are pressed… I don’t recommend it, but if you have to… tell her you’re going to a Protestant service, but go to a Catholic Mass instead. Tell her the pastors sermon was great. (Wouldn’t be lying there 😉 )

Talk to a priest, maybe your mother and the priest can get into contact.

If you have to go Wednesday Nights to a protestant service… go to Church to adore the Sacrament for an hour. 🙂
 
JD27076 said:
Do not follow your Mothers command.

Remain a faithful Catholic.

You’re 16, you can drive… If hard times are pressed… I don’t recommend it, but if you have to… tell her you’re going to a Protestant service, but go to a Catholic Mass instead. Tell her the pastors sermon was great. (Wouldn’t be lying there 😉 )

Talk to a priest, maybe your mother and the priest can get into contact.

If you have to go Wednesday Nights to a protestant service… go to Church to adore the Sacrament for an hour. 🙂
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The thing is it has to be my Grandmother’s church, and I would have no choice but to go.
 
Bookcat said:
The Church does not call Protestants heretics…
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It does.

But not directly.

Protestantism is a heresy, and all adherents to Protestantism is therefore: Heretics.

We just don’t say it directly.
 
JD27076 said:
If hard times are pressed… I don’t recommend it, but if you have to… tell her you’re going to a Protestant service, but go to a Catholic Mass instead. Tell her the pastors sermon was great. (Wouldn’t be lying there 😉 )

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Such would be a lie and not something they can do.
 
JD27076 said:
It does.

But not directly.

Protestantism is a heresy, and all adherents to Protestantism is therefore: Heretics.

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Actually no.

The Church does not use that language here…

One must also distinguish between material heresy and formal heresy…
 
Bookcat said:
The Church does not call Protestants heretics…
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It has many times in the past, anything that is not Catholic teaching is heresy. The Protestants do have truth, but that alone is Catholic truth. If the Protestants are not heretics, then Jehovah Witnesses and Mormons must be Christians, which they arnt. Some protestant Churches do not Baptize in the trinitarian formula, thus they are not Christians, which would be Jehovah Witnesses, Mormons, And SDA and many others. You can’t tell me Once saved always saved is not heresy.
 
How the Church approaches our fellow Christians who are not in full communion with us…

Catechism of the Catholic Church

Wounds to unity

817 In fact, "in this one and only Church of God from its very beginnings there arose certain rifts, which the Apostle strongly censures as damnable. But in subsequent centuries much more serious dissensions appeared and large communities became separated from full communion with the Catholic Church - for which, often enough, men of both sides were to blame."269 The ruptures that wound the unity of Christ’s Body - here we must distinguish heresy, apostasy, and schism270 - do not occur without human sin:

Where there are sins, there are also divisions, schisms, heresies, and disputes. Where there is virtue, however, there also are harmony and unity, from which arise the one heart and one soul of all believers.271

818 "However, one cannot charge with the sin of the separation those who at present are born into these communities [that resulted from such separation] and in them are brought up in the faith of Christ, and the Catholic Church accepts them with respect and affection as brothers . . . . All who have been justified by faith in Baptism are incorporated into Christ; they therefore have a right to be called Christians, and with good reason are accepted as brothers in the Lord by the children of the Catholic Church."272

819 "Furthermore, many elements of sanctification and of truth"273 are found outside the visible confines of the Catholic Church: "the written Word of God; the life of grace; faith, hope, and charity, with the other interior gifts of the Holy Spirit, as well as visible elements."274 Christ’s Spirit uses these Churches and ecclesial communities as means of salvation, whose power derives from the fullness of grace and truth that Christ has entrusted to the Catholic Church. All these blessings come from Christ and lead to him,275 and are in themselves calls to "Catholic unity."276

scborromeo.org/ccc/p123a9p3.htm#I
 
So – please avoid that language. I does not represent how the Catholic Church approaches those not in full communion with us from the events of the past centuries…

And that sort of language will not get you far with your relatives…and well bring negative responses…

and it well also … misrepresents the Church too And gives the wrong impression.

One is to be a light – and use the language the Church uses — and work for better understanding and full communion
 
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