My mother passed away last night

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Deb, I am very sorry for your loss.

Eternal rest grant unto her, O Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon her. May she rest in peace. May the souls of all the faithful departed through the mercy of God rest in peace. Amen.
 
I’m sorry to hear that. I’ll pray for you and your family.

Eamon
 
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There isn’t much more to say then what I have said in the title. Last night I got a call from a cousin asking if I had the key to my mother’s trailer. The police were outside the trailer and could see my mother laying on the floor and needed permission to knock down the door. I gave it. Within a very short time, I received another call saying that she had passed away. The coroner is going to say the death was due to complications of cirrhosis of the liver. She wasn’t an alcoholic but she had addiction to several pain medications.

I really don’t feel anything right now, just numbness. My sister, brother and I have started arrangements to have her buried near my Dad. We are also sorting through the mound of items that she had collected. She was such a horrible pack rat that some places in her home are difficult to maneuver in.

I guess that I am asking for prayers right now. Due to the fact that my mother had a difficult personality, I hadn’t spoken with her in six months. I had wanted to contact her, but she could be so hard to deal with that I dreaded speaking with her. Plus she had turned her anger toward my kids, even going so far as to tell my eight year old that she wasn’t going to heaven.

So, anyway, if you could just send up a little prayer for me and my siblings I would really appreciate it.
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Deb,
I’m so sorry to hear about your mom.
Someone else already touched on this, but I’ll mention it again. A lot of times when someone has been so ill for so long, that can be very distressing to them (as well as others who are caring for that person). Then, if someone is on a lot of pain meds, they just aren’t thinking clearly or objectively a lot of the time. I know from experience. My mom died last October from Lung Disease. She was always a very “outspoken” person, but towards the end there were definitely times when she said and did things that I got tired of listening to. Now I’m sure that part of that was because she was on a tremendous amount of pain medication.
I’ll keep you in my prayers.
-Tamara
 
(((hugs))) for Deb and family. I’m so sorry. You will certainly be in my prayers. God bless you.
 
I’m very sorry for your loss deb, my prayers for you and your family.

What surprised me though is the police needing permission to break in. Since when is that required when someone’s life is in imminent danger? That’s something I would be looking into further because the way this went down soounds totally bogus to me.
 
Hi deb1, I don’t know you but have appreciated your thoughts and (name removed by moderator)ut while I have been here on CA. I can tell you are a gentle soul. I will say a prayer for you and please accept my condolences on the passing of your Mother.
 
So very sorry for your loss. You are in my prayers.

Please, all the others, remember my DH, who lost his father today after a long bout with cancer. Dad wanted a “graveside service” with a priest, but the doctor got the local monsignor to give him the Last Rites. We’ll see how things develop, as this is in DH’s stepmother’s hands to carry out the pour over trust and all the pre-arranged funarel things.
 
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deb1:
I was just about to go to bed and I decided to get on this site one last time. For the next few days, I probably won’t be able to post. Anyway, I was so surprised that my post got responses so quickly. Thank you so much. I have been on other forums but something about this one seems like a caring family. Your kindness just blows me away.
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-I am so very sorry for your loss, you and your family will be in my prayers.
 
I shall pray for you and all your family at this difficult time. May your mom rest in peace in the arms of our merciful Lord.

Love and peace,

Mom of 5
 
You are in my prayers. Just pray for her soul and your peace. The past is complete, the future is to far ahead, and live in the moment of now.
 
Thank you all so much. Today I have to go pay an internment fee to the cemetery where my mom has four plots. I need to find out how to sell two plots to pay for her funeral. Funerals are very expensive and my mom left no life insurance.

My brother is having some difficulties with my mom’s death. He feels very guilty because he hadn’t talked to her in two years. She was not a very nice person to him and would get angry at him for dating anyone or spending time doing anything without her. My mom also was the one who told my brother not to call her anymore. But my younger brother says that he took the easy way out by not talking to mom.

I told him that our mother is no longer like she was on earth. She spent her whole life trying to hide her mental illness. There were good traits about her, she could be generous to a fault and loved to give others gifts, for example. All those traits are left and she is still herself but she is undergoing a cleansing process. My brother’s relationship with her doesn’t have to end, she can hear him and if he wants to apologize he still can. I am not certain if my theology is 100% correct as I am still learning.But it is very comforting to think that my mother might be in purgatory and all that craziness is being stripped away and what will be left just her wonderful qualities.

I did find a lot of Catholic paraphernalia in her home, including a card on Mother Theresa. I was surprised by this as my mom was so adamant about me not becoming Catholic. She had on my dad’s miraculous medal. My dad wasn’t Catholic but apparently was very interested in the Catholic church. He died in Vietnam while wearing the medallion. So, we are burying her with it and my Dad’s wedding band that was also on the necklace.
 
I’m so sorry for your loss…It’s tough to lose your Mom, no matter what the circumstances…I willl keep you in my prayres.
 
My sincere condolences. You and your family will be in my prayers.
 
I lost my father about 3 years ago and he was a very difficult person to be around also.I now try to remember the positive parts of his life. It is a difficult time for you and your family am sure, I will keep you in my prayers.
 
Oh wow, Deb. I’m so sorry. I’ll keep you and yours in my prayers. God bless you.
 
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deb1:
I did find a lot of Catholic paraphernalia in her home, including a card on Mother Theresa. I was surprised by this as my mom was so adamant about me not becoming Catholic. She had on my dad’s miraculous medal. My dad wasn’t Catholic but apparently was very interested in the Catholic church. He died in Vietnam while wearing the medallion. So, we are burying her with it and my Dad’s wedding band that was also on the necklace.
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Deb, this must’ve given you some sense of peace. I will continue to keep you, your mom, and your family in my prayers.
 
Dear Lexee,
I am really sorry to know about yours mom live in peace now. My prayers and best wishes with yours family. May God gives yours mom in His home better place, where she lives cool and calm.
 
I’m so sorry for your loss… What a blessing that she was wearing the Miraculous Medal. That must have given her some peace, too. I’ll pray for your family and for your mother…
 
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