My Mother's Suicide

[LilyM]

I will offer the next Mass I attend for the intention of your mother’s soul and for you and your family at this time.

 

[AdriannaJean]

I would take some comfort in knowing that, though many people would say that suicide is unforgivable, we humans are in no position to judge who goes to heaven and who doesn’t. To presume that God’s capability for forgiveness is anything but infinite would be pretty serious heresy. In addition to that, suicide is usually the result of depression, which can harm a person’s capability to make proper decisions. And for a sin to be a sin and therefore punishable it must be committed with full knowledge and capability to understand. I don’t mean to suggest that your mother wasn’t intellectually capable, but depression affects that. Prayer is definitely in order. I will be praying for you.

 

[jmcrae]

I would take some comfort in knowing that, though many people would say that suicide is unforgivable, we humans are in no position to judge who goes to heaven and who doesn’t. To presume that God’s capability for forgiveness is anything but infinite would be pretty serious heresy. In addition to that, suicide is usually the result of depression, which can harm a person’s capability to make proper decisions. And for a sin to be a sin and therefore punishable it must be committed with full knowledge and capability to understand. I don’t mean to suggest that your mother wasn’t intellectually capable, but depression affects that. Prayer is definitely in order. I will be praying for you.

Regardless of the reason, the effect on the family must be absolutely devastating.

 

[denwiles]

Hi
I sincerely hope this is the proper place to post this- I have looked through all the forums and this one seemed correct.

My Mother- a loving, wonderful, life-long practicing Catholic put a gun to her head Sun night and ended her life. I am devastated, heartbroken and afriad I will never get the image of finding her like that out of my head. We were very close- especially since the death of my Father and younger sister 2 yrs. ago. This was so completely unexpected- well I can just not explain how shocking it has been.

More importantly, however, I am so afraid for the welfare of Mother’s soul and her relationship w/ God. I have spent hours trying to discover the Churche’s present idea on suicide, hell, purgatory etc. They seem to have changed slightly over time. Please don’t think this flip but if she is in purgatory can I pray her out? She was a good person-loved her church and attended MORE than regularly (ie, Sun of course but also Mon, Wed and most Fri before work). She was a lector (?) often read the passages at Church on Sun.

I know I can have Masses said for her- is this a particular type of mass I should ask for? And what else can I do- It breaks my heart to think of her soul in turmoil after she led such a good life and in a moment of desperation I suppose she put that all on the line.

I apologize if I have chosen the wrong forum to post in and if it is the correct forum I would so appreciate any help you can give me.
Thank you so much
Deborah******

I want to join the others in saying I am sorry and will also be praying for you. The love and mercy of God is greater than anyone could ever imagine. The Bible says He is Love and loves You so much. Cling close to Him and use this time of great sorrow to know and fall in love with Jesus. Romans 8 says NOTHING can seperate us from the LOVE of God through Christ Jesus. Nothing Means Nothing.
Father I come to you in the Name of Jesus and join the prayers being offered up for this situation. I pray you will bring great peace and comfort to your child that is hurting so deeply right now. The 23rd Psalm says “even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death you are with us” Thank you that we can come to you because of your sacrifice you did for us on the Cross. Father I pray right now that supernatural peace of the Holy Spirit will begin to fill your child as she reads this prayer. Amen

 

[mary1173]

Hi
I sincerely hope this is the proper place to post this- I have looked through all the forums and this one seemed correct.

My Mother- a loving, wonderful, life-long practicing Catholic put a gun to her head Sun night and ended her life. I am devastated, heartbroken and afriad I will never get the image of finding her like that out of my head. We were very close- especially since the death of my Father and younger sister 2 yrs. ago. This was so completely unexpected- well I can just not explain how shocking it has been.

More importantly, however, I am so afraid for the welfare of Mother’s soul and her relationship w/ God. I have spent hours trying to discover the Churche’s present idea on suicide, hell, purgatory etc. They seem to have changed slightly over time. Please don’t think this flip but if she is in purgatory can I pray her out? She was a good person-loved her church and attended MORE than regularly (ie, Sun of course but also Mon, Wed and most Fri before work). She was a lector (?) often read the passages at Church on Sun.

I know I can have Masses said for her- is this a particular type of mass I should ask for? And what else can I do- It breaks my heart to think of her soul in turmoil after she led such a good life and in a moment of desperation I suppose she put that all on the line.

I apologize if I have chosen the wrong forum to post in and if it is the correct forum I would so appreciate any help you can give me.
Thank you so much
Deborah******

I too understand what you are going through. My mother passed away of natural causes last May, and I pray for her soul on a regular basis. God knows the pain your mother was in and what was going on in her mind. No one chooses to consciously kill themselves. Nor do people want to go to Hell. Whatever drove your mother to end her life God can forgive. It is usualyy pain of the soul and mind, grief beyond comprehension that drives someone out of their mind, and in haste they, through wanting the pain to end, end their lives without forethought of the consequences to them or others around them.Your mother was in a state of insanity, the church recognizes this and God does too. Purgatory will be the place where your mothers actions and sins can be cleansed and she will start anew with the Lord once she is free from sin. Pray for her soul, I will pray for you and your family’s peace of mind and well being.
God forgive them, for they know not what they do, Amen

 

[larsenl1]

I will offer a rosary up for your mother’s soul.

I lost my brother-in-law to suicide. It is horrible to go through the pain of this kind of death in a family.

I want to tell you that one cannot put God in a box. This is a short summation of many of the postings others have given. God has no limits, no constraints. No limit on time, no limit on mercy.

Also, because my own mother is mentally ill, I have been comforted by this advice from a priest, “You cannot expect someone who is mentally ill to act like a normal person.” So simple yet so wise. The mentally ill, includes depression, need our compassion and our mercy. Constantly say prayers for your mother’s soul and do not doubt God.

 

[Bryan_O_Connell]

I,m very sorry to hear of this loss. This is unimaginable what you must be going through. My Mom died over 23 years ago when I was 7. Jesus is very compassionate and merciful. He will be with you at this time and understands what your mother was going through. The Rosary of the Holy wounds is a powerful prayer to use along with the rosary. But there is the power of the mass. You might pray especially for your mother at mass when the priest lifts the host during the consecration. May God be with you in this time of sorrow.

Eternal Father I offer you the precious blood and the Holy wounds of our Lord Jesus Christ for relief of the souls in purgatory and for conversion of sinners. Amen