My newly Catholic boyfriend wants to become a priest!

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Oh My…this thread just got too funny.

Funny - but I don’t think I have seen the OP come back since posting her question.

When I was a teenager, I wanted to become a nun. Then I had sex…If I am truly honest with myself, I think I choose sex over God. I am married with 2 children, and I still wonder if I made the right choices. I also ponder if I will explore religious life when my husband passes away and my children are grown. I didn’t know, until maybe senior year of HS, that women could still serve as nuns/sisters after having been married. The rule is that the spouse must be deceased and your children - if any - are over the age of 21.

While none of us can possible know what our future holds, I will continue to pray and meditate on where the Lord is calling me in this life.
 
Almost EVERY male convert I know has spent atleast some time discerning priesthood. Some get as far as the semenary and decide it’s not for them. Others become brothers…and a few have become priests. Three of the young men converted to BE Catholic priests…two are and the other one is married.

They have been in various states in their lives, in different relationships or not in any at all.

LET THIS RUN IT’S COURSE! Weither or not he comes back more in love with you than ever or is lead to God, you have to let him discern on his own. Most good Catholics had a chance to discern throught their entire lives, in their youth, etc. Converts are growing rapidly and need to “put on all hats” in order to settle comfortably in their vocation.
 
jennifer6185 said:
Hi. I’m having a bit of a problem. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost three years now. We have discussed marriage and starting a family and are basically waiting until he has finished school and we are able to afford living on our own as a married couple. When we met, he did not practice any faith. I have been Catholic my entire life. Last year, he entered the RCIA program and has become Catholic. My being Catholic had a lot to do with him choosing this faith, but ultimately he chose Catholicism and it seems to be a good fit. .
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Jennifer,

The process to the priesthood is long and hard. First, there is the urge to the calling and then a period of discernment. Ever heard the phase in the Bible…“many are called but few are chosen”…this refers to those called to the priestly ministry. Many are called but few eventually make it to ordination. I think him being invited to visit the seminary is just one step to find out if he is being called. He most likely will be given a talk about the hardships and sacrifices needed to be a priest and once a priest. Once he gets this info, he will have a chance to decide for himself. The seminary priests will not force him, it will be his own choosing. Before one gets accepted, (I am not sure if this is still the case), a seminary candidate is interviewed, evaluated, asked why he wants to be a priest. The evaluation and discernment is a continuous process all throughout.

I would not break up with him yet as some have suggested. I would give him space and time to think. Let him discern. And pray for the Lord’s guidance, for him and your self.
 
Hello Jennifer,

I am a new Catholic too. I am also discerning the priesthood, but I am not in a relationship either. In fact, the relationships I have been through, especially the last one, helped me to see what I am like in a relationship. And also to see how, for me, there is no greater love than the love I receive from Jesus Christ in the Blessed Sacrament. This is my opinion of course, but if your boyfriend is truly called, his heart will already be consumed by Christ Jesus. Just like mine. In fact, I met a girl as I was coming into the Church and I had to tell her that my heart was already taken. Do I regret it? No way because Jesus is already becoming my lover, my beloved, my all in all.

Before he started discerning he should have told you, so that he would not be dating two people at the same time. For example, I live in a formation house for the priesthood at the current time, waiting to go to seminary. At times I have felt a deep desire to be a Franciscan Friar as well. If I were to contact the Franciscans right now, and at the same time, live in this house taking advantage of the diocese’s gift they have given me…well I think this is unfair to both sides. But most unfair to the one I am dating…Jesus.

So you see, even though the center of marriage is Christ, and the center of the priesthood is Christ, it is like double dating to do both at the same time. It is to say,

“I love you so much dear. I want to marry you…but I also want to date this other girl and if things don’t work out with us I might marry her. Is that cool?”

This might be a perfect moment for a break. It will be difficult and hard. You may cry a lot, but sometimes that is when we can grow the most. If God really has worked in his life to call Him, would you not be so HAPPY that he chose to use you as his instrument to speak to this man? How wonderful it is that this man came to know the fullness of Jesus Christ through one of his humble servants! And if he was truly called to this supreme honor, you would only have God to thank that he let you be a HUGE part of this.

Finally, Trust in Jesus. Pray in front of the blessed Sacrament. Prostrate yourself in front of our Lord and ask him what to do. Give these problems to the most immaculate heart of blessed mother. Do all these things and have patience. God is with you, Jennifer. God is with you. Don’t lose your faith. It is so much more important than we can ever know. It is the life force that holds us together. Please don’t let go of it.

May the Lord God always bless you with his love and his grace through his most beloved son Jesus Christ.

Lance
 
Take heart. I was in a similar situation just after college. See, wanting to be a priest and going ahead to become one are two related but very different things. I understand your position. Spending three years with someone with the aim of marriage at the back of the mind is a huge investment. You might feel like you don’t deserve this. Then again, you faith, the faith you profess in God should be unwavering at this moment.

Just to (maybe) jog you memory: how did you feel when your boyfriend became Catholic? Happy, I guess. You saw a Catholic family in the offing. You probably thanked God for the faith in you. Thank him too for the faith He’s showing your boyfriend. Perhaps more importantly, pray that may HIS will (not yours or your boyfriend’s) be done.

In the meantime, accord your boyfriend any support you can. Remind him to do the same for you. From your post, he seems to know what he’s causing you to go through. The road to happiness is, not unusual, through pain.

I’ll say a prayer for you and your boyfriend as he discerns his vocation.

Peace.
 
I was in a similar position once.

My boyfriend of a couple of years/fiance started to wonder if he was called to the priesthood.

I, foolishly, did not insist on breaking up. For some time he was torn between marriage to me and pursuing a priestly calling. The thing is, you cannot discern two state-of-life vocations at the same time.

Discernment requires thoughtful time and dedication. It is walking a little ways along a path, to see if it is the right path for your journey. You cannot walk along two divergent paths at the same time. You cannot date a person and pursue a clerical/religious life calling. It is like trying to date two women at the same time to see which you should marry. Disastrous!

It is not fair to you, and it is not fair to him.

He may not be called to the priesthood, but he may. Let him go and give him time to find out. You will be doing yourself a favor, too, because he certainly cannot clearly discern a calling to marry you if he’s distracted by desire for priestly life.

What happened in my circumstances? We finally, after much painful to-ing and fro-ing, broke up. After a few months, he told me he was definitely called to the priesthood. A few months after that, he started dating another girl, to whom he is now married.

Turns out he wasn’t made for the priesthood, and was made for the vocation of marriage - just not marriage to me.

I have since married another man. Wonderful, gentle, intelligent, devout Catholic man who is also the best hands-on daddy for our children. He is a much, much better match for me, and I thank God daily for the gift of him.

Let go of your own emotions and desires, and place everything in the hands of God.
 
jennifer6185 said:
Hi. I’m having a bit of a problem. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost three years now. We have discussed marriage and starting a family and are basically waiting until he has finished school and we are able to afford living on our own as a married couple. When we met, he did not practice any faith. I have been Catholic my entire life. Last year, he entered the RCIA program and has become Catholic. My being Catholic had a lot to do with him choosing this faith, but ultimately he chose Catholicism and it seems to be a good fit. Last week he told me that he had met with a priest because he felt he was being called to the priesthood. I was stunned. I did not see this coming at all. I broke down hysterically crying because I was totally blindsided. I think about the future and all I see is my life with him. I see us getting married, having children, raising our family and growing old together. He is the love of my life and I cannot imagine my life without him in it. As he continued to tell me about this, he also broke down crying. He told me that he loves me and wants to marry me have children raise our family and grow old with me. Sometimes I feel like maybe he’s not really feeling a call to the priesthood but he is simply experiencing his new found faith and it is just a lot to take in. I don’t understand how he can feel that way about me and still want to become a priest, knowing that we won’t have each other in our lives anymore. Needless to say, I am heartbroken about this situation and I feel very insecure about our relationship and about my faith now. Because I showed him the Catholic faith I am unfortunately questioning my own faith. I don’t understand how God could bring someone into my life and have me fall in love with them and want to spend forever with them just to take them away. I worry that I am going to do something or say something wrong that will push him away from me and towards the priesthood when he still seems so confused over it all. I also worry that if he goes to visit the seminary (which the priest suggested) they will try to persuade him to become a priest instead of letting him decide for himself. I feel very lost and confused and was hoping that someone will give me their thoughts as an outsider looking into the situation.
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Zowee! You’ve got a tough one. You must be strong, because I don’t think God would give you anything you’re too weak to handle. You might want to meditate on the story of Abraham being told to sacrifice his son Isaac. My prayers are with you.
 
dear jennifer6185

i empathise with you situation. i am currently going through kinda the same thing you are experiencing.

she is currently discerning whether she is been called to religious life or married life.

although it is painful, you have to let him discern his vocation.i’m sure, you want to be married to somebody who knows that they were meant for married life, and that they were meant for you.

although painful, you need to love him by supporting him as he discerns. you have to be Christ like and love him more than you love yourself.

i sincerely hope that things work out for both of you. i’ll have you both in my prayers.

Kind regards

quami
 
Oh my that is heartwrenching for you 😦 but follow the saying “If its love let it go. If its meant to be it will find its way back to you” There is something I tell my husband whenever he need to make a decision…he talks to me first. We way the pros and cons…then he asks…“WHAT SHOULD I DO?” I tell him “Its up to you. I dont want to say one thing or the other and then you tell me later I didnt allow you to do this or that its my fault for anything.” You have to let him go hun, you dont want him hating you or being resentful of you if you do get married in the end. Its gonna be hard, I know it is, but tell him you are breaking up with him so he can find himself. Oh boy…you have me crying over here for you but still, you know what you have to do. I know you do. Talk to him and tell him as much as it really pains you that you are letting him go. Like someone else said, and I know its gonna be hard, but your gonna have to gonna go on. The priests and the seminary know what they are doing and they are good at discerning situations. They might tell him he is not really “there” and like you said, he may just be really connecting to his new found faith but is confused. Either way…I will pray for the both of you. LOTS AND LOTS OF HUGS TO YOU MY DEAR!!!
 
jennifer6185 said:
Hi. I’m having a bit of a problem. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost three years now. We have discussed marriage and starting a family and are basically waiting until he has finished school and we are able to afford living on our own as a married couple. When we met, he did not practice any faith. I have been Catholic my entire life. Last year, he entered the RCIA program and has become Catholic. My being Catholic had a lot to do with him choosing this faith, but ultimately he chose Catholicism and it seems to be a good fit. Last week he told me that he had met with a priest because he felt he was being called to the priesthood. I was stunned. I did not see this coming at all. I broke down hysterically crying because I was totally blindsided. I think about the future and all I see is my life with him. I see us getting married, having children, raising our family and growing old together. He is the love of my life and I cannot imagine my life without him in it. As he continued to tell me about this, he also broke down crying. He told me that he loves me and wants to marry me have children raise our family and grow old with me. Sometimes I feel like maybe he’s not really feeling a call to the priesthood but he is simply experiencing his new found faith and it is just a lot to take in. I don’t understand how he can feel that way about me and still want to become a priest, knowing that we won’t have each other in our lives anymore. Needless to say, I am heartbroken about this situation and I feel very insecure about our relationship and about my faith now. Because I showed him the Catholic faith I am unfortunately questioning my own faith. I don’t understand how God could bring someone into my life and have me fall in love with them and want to spend forever with them just to take them away. I worry that I am going to do something or say something wrong that will push him away from me and towards the priesthood when he still seems so confused over it all. I also worry that if he goes to visit the seminary (which the priest suggested) they will try to persuade him to become a priest instead of letting him decide for himself. I feel very lost and confused and was hoping that someone will give me their thoughts as an outsider looking into the situation.
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Hey let him go visit the seminary if he is meant to become a priest he will become one and maybe you should focus on something else I would end the romantic part of this relationship keep on praying for him because we do need more good holy priests and if you are meant to get married you will whether it be to this young man or to someone else and if it is Gods will for you to remain single and celibate for the rest of your life he will give you the grace to do that also and i don’t mean that you have to become a nun either never getting married is n ot the worst thing that can happen to you and please be respectful and supportive if infact he gets acalling to the priesthood you never know in years to come he could be the priest that is there when you most need a priest for spiritual direction and comfort I have a friend who dated a young man before he went into the priesthood 60 years ago and when she was losing her battle with cancer and eventually passed on it was he that came and visited her and gave her the comfort that she needed at that time and she never married and she was on e of the most positive people that i ever knew but she did have the faith do let God do his will in her life and the life of the man that eventually became a priest
 
Hello,

I too have decided to enter the Priesthood. My situation is very different though. I am well known in my Catholic School for my own “discernment” so to speak of the Priesthood. What is even stranger is I am in love with a girl. I know it isn’t meant to be, and she knows that too. Of course I ahve thoughts about ‘us’ together. However NO girl can hold a candle to God and His Church.

~ Pius :knight1:
 
woodland_poet said:
Sadly, I think that if the young man were not serious, a priest would not have even had him look at the seminary. Do these priests know that he is in a relationship? I think that fact that he’s discerning the priesthood means that he’s not discerning marriage. I also find it deeply troubling that the young man has not broken off his relationship with this women before discerning priesthood.
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Since she said that he has not finished school, odds are he is something between 20 and 25.

I have met far, far too many in that age range who are not entirely sure what part of the body the seat of their pants is attached to. Or as my mother would say, they can’t tell their head from a hole in the ground…

He is a recent convert, who sounds like he has been struck with the emotional weight of the Church, and is awestruck. He is not the first convert to suddenly think he may have a vocation to the priesthood (and some do); and if he finds he doesn’t have more than an emotional attachment, neither will he be the first to so find.

And as to why the priest may be directing him, well, that could be a whole 'nother can of worms. It may be that he has stopped dating her. She may just not have stopped dating him…
 
It seems that everybody (priests included, sometimes even especially) reacts very enthusiastically whenever a young man expresses any interest in the priesthood. This can hold true, even when the young man is apparently already in a relationship with a woman.

And the young men themselves sometimes try to have it both ways. My ex enjoyed being “wooed” by the priests and bishop in our archdiocese. I think, that along with some feeling he may be called to the priesthood, he also enjoyed all the attention (such as the monthly lunch with the archbishop, etc.) I remember once coming out of Sunday Mass and chatting with someone, while he chatted with the priest. Upon joining them, I realised the priest was talking to him about vocation to the priesthood, encouraging him to attend a dinner/discernment evening or some such thing. My boyfriend stood there, lapping it up, and failed to introduce me as his girlfriend. Yes, we were definitely still dating at that time. I was quite peeved with the situation.

It seems some men also like to keep their options open - a very modern tendency. Thus, they can have the attention and benefits of a romantic relationship and the attention and benefits of the Church encouraging them to consider a priestly vocation. It must make them feel very special.

It is altogether too common that people (particularly men, since the priesthood is such a hot-button vocation these days, more so than female religious life) try to have their cake and eat it too. It really is only possible to discern one state of life vocation at a time.

I know the Jesuits in Sydney, Australia, actively encouraged a divorced young Catholic man (mid-30’s) to discern a calling to the order through priesthood, while the young man was (as far as they knew) still married. He had applied for an annullment, but had no guarantee his marriage (to another Catholic in the church would be found not to have been valid. The Jesuits encouraged his discernment to the priesthood so actively (retreats, meetings etc.) and arranged for him to have the seminary application paperwork all prepared for the next intake, in case his annullment came through in time. What they proposed to do had the annullment not been granted, I do not know. Apologise to him for leading him on to believe in a priestly vocation? Apologise to the wife? Say, “whoops, our bad!”?

Their pro-priesthood attitude goes over the line to actually be an insult to the marital sacrament and vocation. The Holy Father has made it very clear that at all stages the validity of a marriage must be assumed, until it is undoubtedly found otherwise. To second-guess the Tribunal decision and encourage a man to consider priestly vocation during the time all must assume he’s validly married is a scandal. We can’t encourage a divorced person to date other people if there’s a chance they are indeed still married in the eyes of the Church. How can we encourage a person to discern another vocation in the same situation?

When you see such things happening, it’s no surprise that men and priests fall into discerning two mutually exclusive vocations at once.
 
sneakierbiscuit said:
It seems that everybody (priests included, sometimes even especially) reacts very enthusiastically whenever a young man expresses any interest in the priesthood. This can hold true, even when the young man is apparently already in a relationship with a woman.

And the young men themselves sometimes try to have it both ways. My ex enjoyed being “wooed” by the priests and bishop in our archdiocese. I think, that along with some feeling he may be called to the priesthood, he also enjoyed all the attention (such as the monthly lunch with the archbishop, etc.) I remember once coming out of Sunday Mass and chatting with someone, while he chatted with the priest. Upon joining them, I realised the priest was talking to him about vocation to the priesthood, encouraging him to attend a dinner/discernment evening or some such thing. My boyfriend stood there, lapping it up, and failed to introduce me as his girlfriend. Yes, we were definitely still dating at that time. I was quite peeved with the situation.

It seems some men also like to keep their options open - a very modern tendency. Thus, they can have the attention and benefits of a romantic relationship and the attention and benefits of the Church encouraging them to consider a priestly vocation. It must make them feel very special.

It is altogether too common that people (particularly men, since the priesthood is such a hot-button vocation these days, more so than female religious life) try to have their cake and eat it too. It really is only possible to discern one state of life vocation at a time.

I know the Jesuits in Sydney, Australia, actively encouraged a divorced young Catholic man (mid-30’s) to discern a calling to the order through priesthood, while the young man was (as far as they knew) still married. He had applied for an annullment, but had no guarantee his marriage (to another Catholic in the church would be found not to have been valid. The Jesuits encouraged his discernment to the priesthood so actively (retreats, meetings etc.) and arranged for him to have the seminary application paperwork all prepared for the next intake, in case his annullment came through in time. What they proposed to do had the annullment not been granted, I do not know. Apologise to him for leading him on to believe in a priestly vocation? Apologise to the wife? Say, “whoops, our bad!”?

Their pro-priesthood attitude goes over the line to actually be an insult to the marital sacrament and vocation. The Holy Father has made it very clear that at all stages the validity of a marriage must be assumed, until it is undoubtedly found otherwise. To second-guess the Tribunal decision and encourage a man to consider priestly vocation during the time all must assume he’s validly married is a scandal. We can’t encourage a divorced person to date other people if there’s a chance they are indeed still married in the eyes of the Church. How can we encourage a person to discern another vocation in the same situation?

When you see such things happening, it’s no surprise that men and priests fall into discerning two mutually exclusive vocations at once.
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Well said.

People are human - including those who are ordained. And being human, we are all inclined to make less than clear-cut decisions. :twocents:

I would suspect this has caused pain; and I hope that you will be able to forgive those involved and one day look back and laugh - even if there is the slightest touch of cynicism in that laughter.
 
otjm said:
Well said.

People are human - including those who are ordained. And being human, we are all inclined to make less than clear-cut decisions. :twocents:

I would suspect this has caused pain; and I hope that you will be able to forgive those involved and one day look back and laugh - even if there is the slightest touch of cynicism in that laughter.
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The personal incident is long over. I am happily married, and the ex I mentioned (who was apparently trying to discern both priesthood and marriage at the same time) has also since married. No pain remains, although my concern at the inappropriate attempts to keep options open/discern two vocations by young men these days remains, and that this should be clearly addressed by priestly vocations advisers.

The situation I outlined with the Jesuits in Sydney, Australia, is very recent - a year or two. This is highly inappropriate behaviour from this order. It demonstrates a disregard for the sacrament of marriage, correct procedure, and the Holy Father’s insistence that in cases of uncertainty, the validity of the marriage must be assumed. The poor man who has since received his annulment and begun the first stages of Jesuit training told me I should not be so concerned about matters of “paperwork.” Paperwork! That is the impression of marriage he has, that has been supported by his involvement with these Jesuits. According to them, because he submitted his application the day following the notification of annulment, everything is fine. The matter of him being encouraged to discern a priestly vocation while apparently still married is not of concern, because it “all worked out.” I suppose change might only come when one day it doesn’t “all work out” and an annulment is not granted. The hurt and disappointment might lead to a change in policy…
It’s a particular shame, because the man’s discernment and involvement with the Jesuits was not kept private, so other parishioners and Catholics were aware of his discernment to the priesthood while being, for all anyone knew, still married. sigh

This kind of thing is an example of the confusion surrounding vocations these days, particularly the hot-button priestly vocation.
I sincerely hope the young lady who posted this thread is doing better, and that her boyfriend has been clearly told by his spiritual advisers/vocation advisers of the appropriate manner of discernment, to save her further hurt.
 
I feel your pain. My boyfriend is confused about what his vocation is and he’s 42. I’ve waited for him all my life and when I finally meet him and spend a wonderful 2 1/2 years with him this comes up. I’ve prayed a lot and asked my most spiritual friends their thoughts. I don’t think you have to break up with him though. As long as your leading a pure dating relationship, I think it’s okay, morally speaking. If you think it will help him or yourself ;)to put distance for awhile between the two of you then by all means take a break from dating. When your upset, just remember God has a plan for both of you, more wonderful than either of you can imagine. He’ll show both of you the way, eventually:)
 
jennifer6185 said:
Hi. I’m having a bit of a problem. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost three years now. We have discussed marriage and starting a family and are basically waiting until he has finished school and we are able to afford living on our own as a married couple. When we met, he did not practice any faith. I have been Catholic my entire life. Last year, he entered the RCIA program and has become Catholic. My being Catholic had a lot to do with him choosing this faith, but ultimately he chose Catholicism and it seems to be a good fit. Last week he told me that he had met with a priest because he felt he was being called to the priesthood. I was stunned. I did not see this coming at all. I broke down hysterically crying because I was totally blindsided. I think about the future and all I see is my life with him. I see us getting married, having children, raising our family and growing old together. He is the love of my life and I cannot imagine my life without him in it. As he continued to tell me about this, he also broke down crying. He told me that he loves me and wants to marry me have children raise our family and grow old with me. Sometimes I feel like maybe he’s not really feeling a call to the priesthood but he is simply experiencing his new found faith and it is just a lot to take in. I don’t understand how he can feel that way about me and still want to become a priest, knowing that we won’t have each other in our lives anymore. Needless to say, I am heartbroken about this situation and I feel very insecure about our relationship and about my faith now. Because I showed him the Catholic faith I am unfortunately questioning my own faith. I don’t understand how God could bring someone into my life and have me fall in love with them and want to spend forever with them just to take them away. I worry that I am going to do something or say something wrong that will push him away from me and towards the priesthood when he still seems so confused over it all. I also worry that if he goes to visit the seminary (which the priest suggested) they will try to persuade him to become a priest instead of letting him decide for himself. I feel very lost and confused and was hoping that someone will give me their thoughts as an outsider looking into the situation.
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I feel for you dearest! How hard that must be!

Actually the Church doesn’t allow people who have just become Catholics to become priests or nuns, because oftentimes its really that: the beginning high. Believe me… I have severel friends who converted to the catholic church and I also did, and many of us had that phase where we were in love with the thought of ourselves as nuns or priests.

Your boyfriend will need at least 2-3 years of discernment and spiritual direction to figure out if he remains steady in this desire of his.

About your relationship. Thats so tough.
I know a lady who finally found the love of her life and was engaged, only then to receive a very strong calling to religious life. She is now a nun, and well, I guess her fiance had to heal a lot but also he had to understand, because they both wanted to serve God above all else.

Your boyfriend might have a vocation… And he might not. Either way, God is not forcing any one man to enter the supernatural vocation of priesthood. The marriage is always a choice, and no one can take that choice away from your boyfriend.

However, I would assume he has greatly disillusioned you by putting your whole relationship in question.
I don’t know if I would want to be with a man after he did such a thing… it seems too much back and forth, with him talking about being priest one moment and weeping on you the next… anyway, I am harsh now, we are all just people of flesh and blood.

I’d say you leave him this day. Let him in peace. Go and heal from this relationship and look for a man who does not have doubts about what he is called to. There are plenty of men out there who will not feel called to two things at the same time.
I know this, because I know severel men who are called to be priests and they stay away from dating… they are my friends but they don’t play around. Then there are others who are clearly on the way to marriage.,

A woman needs a man who knows his own heart.
 
SonCatcher said:
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I have watched as a woman I know let a man she truly admired go so he could follow God’s call. I could sense the great difficulty she had. I am sure it took a lot of courage. I don’t know how she bore it except for God’s grace.

Jennifer, you should seek God’s grace, too. You might talk to your priest for encouragement.

saveusfromhell, thanks for sharing your insight from one who nearly chose the priestly path. Here’s a tip from another: Now that we have chosen our vocations, it doesn’t do us any good to second-guess our decisions. 😉
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I understand saveusfromhell…I am in the same postion…although a woman. I am happily married, mother, grandmother (with a wee grandchild on the way)…thank you Lord…but I know that I know that my calling was different. I was in the convent for 2 years before getting married three years later. Now I am a novice in the ocds…

I have been given the best of both worlds…🙂
 
That is a scary situation unique to Catholicism it seems, especially if you’re dating a young man. :eek:

I guess if the man is 40+, you’re a bit safer.
 
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