My parents died ,years ago

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my dad died 7 years ago ,my mom two , I was told by them prior to death that I am not allowed to visit their grave ,so I don’t , but I feel I have too , my parents were very abusive to me and my half brother growing up , we were molested and beaten and various other abuse , my parents were not catholic ,they didn’t mind I was catholic ,but mind that I would not listen to their version of the bible , which as their preacher told them since I was raped I should be intured into a slave . which I know is not true . but they believed it , pardon my rabbling , but I was wondering should I obey my parents don’t go to their grave or disobey them and go ,I tried it once ,I sat in the car .
too afraid of the backlash that my parents said they will do to me from the grave ,the horror stories isn’t appropriate to post .
 
First, hugs. You survived and I pray that you have abundant peace and security.

Your parents cannot harm you from the grave. We can never judge the souls of the dead, if your parents are in purgatory they are being cleansed, if they are in heaven they can stand before the Throne of God and ask God to bless and heal and protect you. If they went another way, they cannot impact you in any way.

If you want to go to their grave,that is your choice. You are not bound by something they said. If you choose to never visit the grave, that is also okay.

I hope that you have a good support team, your pastor, solid Catholic trained spiritual director, and a mental health professional who can help you become stronger every day.

God bless you.
 
thanks the little lady I do , I get support . I know they are at peace because I dream and feel it .
 
There will be no backlash from the grave. Rest assured, that is not possible.

If you think that visiting the grave will help you heal, then it might be a good idea. I hope you are in counseling, and if so, speak to him/her about it.

I hope you find peace.
 
I don’t see how you would want to! After such abuse. If you’re thinking of desecrating their graves, you could get in legal trouble. But if you’re going for any other reason, I don’t think that the promise you made was valid. You can go.
 
thanks legend ,no I won’t harm the grave ,I do want to decorate it tho .
 
lordie, go. Bring some flowers and say a prayer if it makes you feel better.

May God bless you and give you his peace. You certainly deserve it.
 
lordie said:
too afraid of the backlash that my parents said they will do to me from the grave ,the horror stories isn’t appropriate to post .
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The dead can’t harm you. So don’t worry on that front.

I would say go to their grave if you feel that would help you. But you don’t have to go there to pray for them. If you feel more comfortable sitting in front of the blessed sacrament, you can pray for them there.
 
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my mom used to tell me that when she died she will raise up from the casket , or arose from the grave , just to beat her kids ,my dad same thing I think it was fear they were implanting in our heads
 
They do not have power to raise themselves from the dead. Only God does and he would not so that they can beat you. Think about it. He loves you.
 
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