My parents want me to date women with at least a college degree

[chevalier]

I think the point is, the average woman marries and has children in their 20s and can’t do much with whatever degree they have. In a sense, those who went to a four-year college did attend college mainly to meet “someone” who’s qualified to be their husband.

Well, here, the degree affects your social relationships, which means it affects whom you marry in the end… Perhaps a woman might want to take a degree to marry a man who has one.

By the way, in my family, I have two cases of the woman having higher formal education than the man. Then again, this wasn’t abnormal here some time ago. There was a stereotype about girls being better students and overall smarter than boys.

Btw… that comment was supposed to be a joke. Didn’t know everyone would take it so seriously!

Sorry, I was a bit on the dim side that evening.

 

[whatevergirl]

Well, here, the degree affects your social relationships, which means it affects whom you marry in the end… Perhaps a woman might want to take a degree to marry a man who has one.

By the way, in my family, I have two cases of the woman having higher formal education than the man. Then again, this wasn’t abnormal here some time ago. There was a stereotype about girls being better students and overall smarter than boys.

Sorry, I was a bit on the dim side that evening.

Are you sure that’s* just **a stereotype?

Kidding. *

 

[chevalier]

Are you sure that’s* just ***a stereotype?

Kidding.

Sometimes I think it’s true, actually, at other times I think the opposite is. And… and just sometimes it almost occurs to me that perhaps there might be something wrong about generalisations like that.

 

[PaulinVA]

So, what is the differentiating factor - the actual classes you take and the benefit of the education, or the fact that you went?

I think the Original Post was about the kind of person who goes to college, and the perceptions that people have about them. My view growing up (and now) is that middle class people, both men and women, go to college. So shoot me.

My dad was an engineer and my mom was a college professor. We live in an area where 91% of high school graduates go to college, so that, obviously, helps form my opinion. Yes, live is strange here.

 

[catherinette]

Maybe I’m just old fashioned, but WHY does a woman need a college education to be a good wife, mother, housekeeper, companion, mate, etc… ? You say you can see where they are coming from, could you tell ME where they’re coming from?

I’m a little smart alecky though, I’d probably have told them Mary didn’t have a college education. LOL

I didn’t read the whole thread, so sorry if I am refuting something that has already been refuted, but this comment struck me as extremely off base. I grew up in a small town and if I hadn’t gone away to college at 18, I don’t know what I would have been doing for the past few years, but I can’t imagine it would have helped me to eventually become a good wife and mother; from the experience of friends who didn’t leave, I probably would have gotten a job in retail or at a restaurant, then spent my weekend going to bars to try to meet people.

Instead I spent the last few years meeting some of the best friends I’ve ever had, growing deeper in my faith, learning to be more confident and independent, traveling to places I never imagined I would visit, and just in general experiencing a lot more of the world than I ever would have seen at home; oh yeah, and taking classes. Going to college shaped who I am as a person, and since I was fortunate to have a very good experience in college and meet many good Catholic and Christian friends, I think it definitely challenged me to grow as a person, both spiritually and mentally. If I am one day called to get married, I will bring those experiences with me, and have an awful lot to tell my future children, as well as be a much more capable and competent helpmate for my future husband. I guess another point is that for myself, and I’m sure for many other people, my family worked awfully hard to provide me with the opportunities for higher education that they never had themselves; so ultimately going to school is something I’m doing not only for myself, but also out of respect for my parents and for their hard work. I would think respecting one’s family would also be a good quality for one to have if one plans to get married one day.

 

[dulcissima]

Well, most college-educated women went to college mainly to meet men who could support them and their future children for the next 20 years.

Or so I’ve heard.

Hmmmm, at the college that I work at, women make up 67% of the student population. At most campuses women far outnumber the men. So, I am guessing that if women are going to college mainly to meet men, they should come up with a better plan.

 

[ComputerGeek25]

I didn’t read the whole thread, so sorry if I am refuting something that has already been refuted, but this comment struck me as extremely off base. I grew up in a small town and if I hadn’t gone away to college at 18, I don’t know what I would have been doing for the past few years, but I can’t imagine it would have helped me to eventually become a good wife and mother; from the experience of friends who didn’t leave, I probably would have gotten a job in retail or at a restaurant, then spent my weekend going to bars to try to meet people.

Instead I spent the last few years meeting some of the best friends I’ve ever had, growing deeper in my faith, learning to be more confident and independent, traveling to places I never imagined I would visit, and just in general experiencing a lot more of the world than I ever would have seen at home; oh yeah, and taking classes. Going to college shaped who I am as a person, and since I was fortunate to have a very good experience in college and meet many good Catholic and Christian friends, I think it definitely challenged me to grow as a person, both spiritually and mentally. If I am one day called to get married, I will bring those experiences with me, and have an awful lot to tell my future children, as well as be a much more capable and competent helpmate for my future husband. I guess another point is that for myself, and I’m sure for many other people, my family worked awfully hard to provide me with the opportunities for higher education that they never had themselves; so ultimately going to school is something I’m doing not only for myself, but also out of respect for my parents and for their hard work. I would think respecting one’s family would also be a good quality for one to have if one plans to get married one day.

I think this is the compelling reason to go to school. I think attending college opens many doors for people that they wouldn’t otherwise have.

 

[BadTurkey]

After a lot of thinking, I have resolved to date only women with a four-year college degree. It’s not meant as an affront to women who don’t fit that bill, but I just feel that it’s what’s best for me. Thank you all for your (name removed by moderator)ut.

 

[TheRiver]

I’d say bunk their advice on this one mate, a girl with a degree doesn’t guarantee you any kind of happiness, it’s best to play it by ear with what you want, each girl is a different, there are plenty of weird girlies out there with degrees, and plenty without.

My mum is a bit like that, though she suggests it, she doesn’t really force me or anything or make a habit of it, so it’s all cool. I guess they just want what’s best for you, but it’s not always right.

Date around man, you’d be surprised with who you’ll fall in love with.

 

[chevalier]

There are plenty of adult women without full degrees in royal houses of Europe, you know.

 

[LynnGM]

Bad Turkey,

i think you came to the right conclusion. I support your decision to date women with at least a college degree. I’d also say it’s okay to date women with associate (two year) degrees.

I have a master’s degree. When I was single, I only dated men who had a 4 degree or higher. When I was working on my BS, if I went out with an older guy (mid 20s to my being 21), I’d make sure he already had his 4 year degree.

 

[BadTurkey]

Bad Turkey,

i think you came to the right conclusion. I support your decision to date women with at least a college degree. I’d also say it’s okay to date women with associate (two year) degrees.

I have a master’s degree. When I was single, I only dated men who had a 4 degree or higher. When I was working on my BS, if I went out with an older guy (mid 20s to my being 21), I’d make sure he already had his 4 year degree.

Thank you. I think otherwise your life experiences would be too different to be compatible. Certainly there’re exceptions; it’s one thing being open to God’s will, but I think it’s justified to not want to waste time on someone with whom you know things will likely not work out.

 

[shannyk]

I think otherwise your life experiences would be too different to be compatible

With all do respect, that’s ridiculous. I can understand why for practical reasons you’d want someone with a degree, or becasue you want someone who values education (which going to college doesn’t really guarantee anyway) but in the sense of life experience and compatability, I think it’s silly.

To each his own I guess, good luck

 

[BadTurkey]

With all do respect, that’s ridiculous. I can understand why for practical reasons you’d want someone with a degree, or becasue you want someone who values education (which going to college doesn’t really guarantee anyway) but in the sense of life experience and compatability, I think it’s silly.

To each his own I guess, good luck

Personally, I think it’s very legitimate. That’s four years of experience that one person wouldn’t have, and that’s not trivial. Furthermore, it’s not just four years of your life, it also greatly affects the way you think, your life goals, your maturity, your friends, and many, many other things.

 

[chevalier]

Personally, I think it’s very legitimate. That’s four years of experience that one person wouldn’t have, and that’s not trivial. Furthermore, it’s not just four years of your life, it also greatly affects the way you think, your life goals, your maturity, your friends, and many, many other things.

It is, but it’s not absolute and the compatibility has to be with you, not with your family’s expectations, if you ever are to be happy.