Yes they could be or there could be an issue either way the priest could have said something.
I highly disagree. The poster that asked that was obviously trying to get inside the priest’s head as to what he might be thinking. We are also taking OP’s word for it that the priest was ignoring her (or him-we don’t know). The priest may have sincerely had to discuss some things with this person or figured OP would wait. We don’t know how often OP may approach him for trivial things. I also wouldn’t assume that all priests have stellar people skills.
Nobody is gossiping, I don’t think.
i wasnt saying anyone was, its a statement, seems strange that people cant see each without people making it into something that it isnt. it wasn’t aimed at anyoneNobody is gossiping, I don’t think.
**She says she stayed long enough that everyone else had left. **I suppose THAT is what is making him uncomfortable. It would me. We’re not talking about the simple greeting after Mass, how are you, how’s the kids?
Social cues. Good to develop…whether or not your social circle includes priests or laypeople. Men or women. If you were at work and some guy was always hanging around until everyone was gone to talk to you…you’d be uneasy. Let’s give the man a break.
And yes, it is a shame that she feels this way, but I’ll bet she can easily remedy this.
“hi Father! Have a great rest of the day!” Warm, genuine smile, then walk away.
That’s what everybody does. What’s so hard?
Again, if she needs counseling, there is a proper way to ask for it. After Mass is not the time. How many priests carry their personal calendars with them? After Mass? Come on.
I understand, I wouldn’t worry about it or talk it personally since you did clarify with him that there is nothing wrong. I think people expect too much of priest. When I was in my early 20s, I attended a small non-denominational Church. One day after Sunday service, I asked a few questions of the pastor which ended up being about a 1/2 hour after. I didn’t think much of but then next Sunday, he announced that if someone needed to talk to him, they would have to make an appointment. Now, he didn’t mention my name but I felt rather humiliated and embarrassed, he said he would be no longer staying afterwards to talk. He seemed willing to talk to me and made no effort to say he had to go. Now maybe his wife socked it to him for staying and talking to a young single girl but I babysat for them and had no other thoughts or interest. All I learned from this experience is not to try and approach or discuss things with priests or pastors afterwards. While people sometimes complain about priest rudeness, I never see priests ever call out or embarass people publically like this. Whatever feelings you may have, be grateful that Catholic Priests rarely if ever try to publically embarass people.
We noticed that early on. Their behavior up front is much more predictable than that of many of the Protestant pastors we had. At our last Protestant church, a small independent congregation, the pastor would stand at the back of the church and watch the congregation until it was time for him to preach. If he saw someone talking, he would go up to the person and ask him or her if there was a problem. He was an extremely hostile man, and there was a lot of conflict in this church. A corrections officer in addition to being a pastor, he also carried a gun while in church. My husband and I found this very disturbing.
I am a 62 year old male. I am fairly well known in the church. The parish secretary knows me by name and often at parish functions will come over to say “Hello”. I know other committee members. I have done some work for the parish mainly in the IT field as this is my profession.
My conversations with this priest used to be for a max of two minutes. Just a “Hello, How is every thing going?” Sometimes a short question if something was needed by the parish office or if the problem was solved. Nothing too taxing.
None of us can give you a reason, as we don’t know you or the priest. It might be best to make an appointment with him, or even the assistant who does speak to you, and mention it.
Maybe he didn’t appreciate that last screensaver you installed on his computer. It happens.
Yah, something happened. Being involved like you say, something must of happened. Instead of posting here, you need to ask him. He is still your brother in Christ and that’s what the Bible says to do. YOU better be ready for an answer though. Sometimes people want to know how they hurt someone and then they can’t own up to it. Best wishes.