My relationship has become a little mundane- advice?

[jlyn1110]

I agree with others who have suggested volunteer work and other types of “together” hobbies. Does your college or a local parish have a ministry for college-age people? My fiance and I had a lot of fun going to movie nights, dinners, Theology on Tap events, ice skating, bowling, 2am breakfasts at a diner…you get the idea. That way, you’ll be spending time both together and with other people.

If you’re both caught up on all of your schoolwork (which I know is challenging for Engineering students!) think about planning a Saturday adventure. Research an interesting locale that neither of you has been to, take the GPS (or a map), pack some snacks, and go exploring! We discovered hiking trails, carhop-style restaurants, minigolf courses, and miles of scenic roadways.

As a fellow convert, one thing that was (and still is!) so special to me was the time my (Cradle Catholic) fiance spent explaining the daily life aspects of the faith, or helping me to understand something that came up in an RCIA session. Remembering those conversations makes attending Mass together so special.

 

[Havard]

“Many things—such as loving, going to sleep, or behaving unaffectedly—are done worst when we try hardest to do them.” - C.S. Lewis

Don’t think “am I being loving, am I being passionate?”, just think about him and his ultimate good. And the love will undoubtedly flow!

 

[Langdell]

“Many things—such as loving, going to sleep, or behaving unaffectedly—are done worst when we try hardest to do them.” - C.S. Lewis

Don’t think “am I being loving, am I being passionate?”, just think about him and his ultimate good. And the love will undoubtedly flow!

That’s a wonderful quote and very apt.

I’ve been married for 28 years, after dating my wife for four years (while we were in college). I’ve gone through many periods of being “bored” by my wife, and I’m sure she could say the same about me. But we’ve always (or almost always) kept up our loving behavior towards each other, and our delight in each other has always returned after a while.

That being said, only you can tell whether your current lack of interest is just temporary or a sign that this boyfriend isn’t the one to be your husband. Three years seems to me to be a fairly short period for the excitement to have lasted, but I have only one relationship to judge by!

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