My responsibility to tell another Catholic he should not receive Communion?

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I am heading to Mass in about 25 minutes and I am bringing a friend who has fallen away from his faith as of late. I doubt he has been to confession. Is it my responsibility to tell him not to receive the Eucharist, or do I leave it up to him since he is Catholic and should probably already know. I don’t want him feeling like I am judging him of his actions?

Any advice? 🤷
 
If it’s not to late I would inform him as nonchalantly as possible.
 
SMA_12 said:
I am heading to Mass in about 25 minutes and I am bringing a friend who has fallen away from his faith as of late. I doubt he has been to confession. Is it my responsibility to tell him not to receive the Eucharist, or do I leave it up to him since he is Catholic and should probably already know. I don’t want him feeling like I am judging him of his actions?

Any advice? 🤷
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So you do not know. You have no right to ask the question either.

It is not your responsibility.
 
But… couldn’t you mention that to receive communion you need to be right with God first?

“just a reminder, to receive communion as a catholic you need to be free of mortal sin” something like that?

Isn’t that part of teaching and evangelizing?

If I invite a lutheran into the church or some other christian I think it is our obligation to let the guest know.
 
If you are a friend you assume the best. You don’t say anything about your concern unless he brings it up. Then you offer kind advice.
 
As I was taught as a little boy about 70 years ago: the eleventh commandment is: Thou shalt mind thy own business.
 
michaelmas said:
But… couldn’t you mention that to receive communion you need to be right with God first?

“just a reminder, to receive communion as a catholic you need to be free of mortal sin” something like that?

Isn’t that part of teaching and evangelizing?

If I invite a lutheran into the church or some other christian I think it is our obligation to let the guest know.
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There is a large difference between going to Mass with a Protestant versus with a Catholic. With a Protestant, you are always correct in the conclusion that your guest should not receive the Eucharist, because, by definition, a Protestant is not in communion with the Church.

With a Catholic, you have no way of knowing for sure whether or not he or she should receive unless that person confides in you and asks your advice. You should not assume that a confirmed Catholic needs to be “taught” how sin affects one’s readiness to receive the Eucharist.
 
I am just asking this out of curiosity, but shouldn’t we warn our neighbors about receiving the Eucharist if they are in a state of sin? I know that the OP’s example might not be that good of one because the situation is not really clear or not whether his or her friend has received the Sacrament of Confession. Anyways, say that you know the person has missed Mass for so long and has not gone to Confession. Would it still be wrong to point this out to them?

I guess I’m playing the devil’s advocate here.
 
These answers seriously baffle me.

If I have a friend that I know has fallen away and has probably not gone to confession - especially if I am aware of some of the things he or she is involved in, I should not say anything?

I’m sorry, but if this is my friend, then I will say something at least once.

I would say, “You know you have to go to confession before receiving if you’ve committed any grave sins right?”

Would you like to go to confession together before mass?

Or something like that.

If the friend says, “No, I’m cool”, then that’s up to him or her.

I would be doing my friend a grave disservice especially if he wasn’t even aware that he shouldn’t receive. Some people figure they can just ask for forgiveness in the pews.
 
George_Stegmeir said:
As I was taught as a little boy about 70 years ago: the eleventh commandment is: Thou shalt mind thy own business.
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:rolleyes: If you had minded it a bit better you would have known these:
The 7 Spiritual Works of Mercy
To counsel the doubtful
To instruct the ignorant
To admonish the sinner
To comfort the sorrowful
To forgive all injuries
To bear wrongs patiently
To pray for the living and the dead
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Thanks for the advice everyone. It turns out he cancelled on me last minute anyways. I wasn’t going to say anything unless I was sure I needed to, and that’s why I asked y’all, I wasn’t sure. (and I should have been more clear, I am 99% sure he hasn’t been to confession, as right before I invited him he was telling me about his trip to Vegas earlier in the week.)

I am still curious though as hopefully he will come next week…
 
SMA_12 said:
Thanks for the advice everyone. It turns out he cancelled on me last minute anyways. I wasn’t going to say anything unless I was sure I needed to, and that’s why I asked y’all, I wasn’t sure. (and I should have been more clear, I am 99% sure he hasn’t been to confession, as right before I invited him he was telling me about his trip to Vegas earlier in the week.)

I am still curious though as hopefully he will come next week…
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Instruct the ignorant, and
Admonish the sinner.

(I’m not calling him that as an insult but rather to call to mind the works of mercy which is termed exactly that way.)
 
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