My sister is a Lesbian

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Me and my younger sister both grew up in the catholic faith. For years I thought both her and I were strong catholics. She then went to the same college as me, and thats when things started to change. She tried to hide it from me at first but she started dating another girl on campus. Its been a year and at this point me, my mom, my dad, and my grandpa know. I firmly believe in the idea that marriage should be between man and woman like the good lord says, and even though my sister has come out, I stand by her but I still stick by that code. Even though I’m all right with her dating this other girl, I don’t support it. My problem is that all the people in my school keep saying I’m harsh and not being understanding. I guess I really just want some guidance. Can anyone offer any help?
 
It’s tough. I have a niece who is “married” to another woman. What’s tough for me is that homosexual or heterosexual, this is a bad relationship. She unfortunately has cut me out of her life and my only reasoning is that because I did not go to her “wedding” in Massachussets and I did go to her brother’s (traditional) wedding. I haven’t heard from her since – she’s deleted me as a friend on Facebook and changed her cell phone number.

All you can do is pray for her. Hopefully she’ll be understanding and accepting of your beliefs. With my niece, she wanted full acceptance and nothing less. She wasn’t content to have family gatherings and have everyone get along and be polite. I pray that one day she’ll come around and be part of the family again.
 
I commend you for sticking by your faith, yet being understanding with your sister. I will tell you right now that your position won’t make you many friends. Stick with it though. Hopefully, one day, your sister will see that she has wronged God and will return to Him. Until then, all you can do is pray.
By the way, welcome to CAF.
 
Pray for her.
You’re not being harsh. Goodness, we can’t so much as drink water these days without being called harsh or intolerant.
Pray.
 
Its very predictable to be judged as ‘harsh’ or judgemental" if you don’t wholeheartedly support eh gay lifestyle by the clamoring masses who want to be “free to make their own choices” ie become enslaved by the devil in perverse sexual practices. My grandson recently 'came out" with a vengeance and a huge chip on his shoulder. In my heart, I know that he knows he’s wrong to engage, but he is trying to mute his conscience and objects to any person who is faithful to the teachings of the Bible. He is judging all Christians but we are not to judeg him. makes no sense at all. Perhaps he will somehow receive the grace he needs to turn away from sins of the flesh in God’s time; not mine. i will continue to pray for him.
 
Stick to your beliefs, but pray for her and continue to love her always. 🙂
 
Who cares what other people think, as long as you love, support and pray for your sister.

Other ‘people’ are generally idiots anyway. 😛
 
MJPalomo said:
Me and my younger sister both grew up in the catholic faith. For years I thought both her and I were strong catholics. She then went to the same college as me, and thats when things started to change. She tried to hide it from me at first but she started dating another girl on campus. Its been a year and at this point me, my mom, my dad, and my grandpa know. I firmly believe in the idea that marriage should be between man and woman like the good lord says, and even though my sister has come out, I stand by her but I still stick by that code. Even though I’m all right with her dating this other girl, I don’t support it. My problem is that all the people in my school keep saying I’m harsh and not being understanding. I guess I really just want some guidance. Can anyone offer any help?
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How is it that the people in your school are sp au fait with your “harsh attitude” to her - whatever that means. Its a personal thing between you and her - why on earth would you go around “airing” it - apparantly publicly 🤷

In any case it is none of their business. BTW just support her and leave the rest to God - he is her saviour not you. If she knows your moral views then you have done your duty to God in that regard and can get on with being her brother rather than her messiah.
 
I know this really isn’t answering your question, but just because she is dating a girl does not necessarily mean she is a lesbian. She could be a bisexual. I am a chaste bisexual woman in a straight male/female sacramental marriage. Now I really don’t believe that one can go from gay to straight. Now I do believe many bisexuals do tend to identify as either gay or straight due to the fact we are told we must “choose sides” or haven’t come to terms with our sexuality. So I think the “converts” are really just bisexuals who happened to be more attracted to the same sex as the opposite. I know I will probably get talked down for saying these things, but I am so over what other people think of me. Just thought you may want some insight from a person who actually has same sex attraction.
 
TrixieMcGee said:
I know this really isn’t answering your question, but just because she is dating a girl does not necessarily mean she is a lesbian. She could be a bisexual. I am a chaste bisexual woman in a straight male/female sacramental marriage. Now I really don’t believe that one can go from gay to straight. Now I do believe many bisexuals do tend to identify as either gay or straight due to the fact we are told we must “choose sides” or haven’t come to terms with our sexuality. So I think the “converts” are really just bisexuals who happened to be more attracted to the same sex as the opposite. I know I will probably get talked down for saying these things, but I am so over what other people think of me. Just thought you may want some insight from a person who actually has same sex attraction.
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I don’t see why you would be talked down, at least here. You’ve clearly recognized God’s design for sexuality and are living it out, which is far more than what most people, regardless of their orientation, are doing. No reason you should be drowned out or disrespected.
 
The_Bucket said:
I don’t see why you would be talked down, at least here. You’ve clearly recognized God’s design for sexuality and are living it out, which is far more than what most people, regardless of their orientation, are doing. No reason you should be drowned out or disrespected.
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Well on this site I have changed my name twice. The first time was due to harassment because of me being a bisexual even though I am chaste.
 
Well on this site I have changed my name twice. The first time was due to harassment because of me being a bisexual even though I am chaste.
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That’s incredible and sad. If anything, you should be commended for being chaste in your relationship as well as figuring out your sexual identity. I apologize on their behalf for what was said to you.
 
TrixieMcGee said:
Well on this site I have changed my name twice. The first time was due to harassment because of me being a bisexual even though I am chaste.
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Echoing ccmnxc, that’s just ridiculous and awful. That kind of thing really bothers me in the same way that it bothers the HECK out of me when I see Protestants that have no problem with divorce and don’t really emphasize chastity before marriage go ballistic about gay marriage and homosexuality in general. Since when is one grave sexual sin worse than another (except maybe when it comes to rape or molestation but I mean mortal sin is mortal sin)?

The folks that defend marriage the best are incredibly gentle and loving towards everyone and that obviously extends to those with same-sex attraction.
 
MJ, I think that you are a class act. People engaged in activity contrary to God’s will usually try to push the guilt onto those who do right. If you’ve noticed, folks who engage in alcohol or drug abuse are anything but welcoming toard those who abstain from such activity. There is something wrong with YOU, in their compromised minds! 🤷 God Bless, Rob
 
MJPalomo said:
Me and my younger sister both grew up in the catholic faith. For years I thought both her and I were strong catholics. She then went to the same college as me, and thats when things started to change. She tried to hide it from me at first but she started dating another girl on campus. Its been a year and at this point me, my mom, my dad, and my grandpa know. I firmly believe in the idea that marriage should be between man and woman like the good lord says, and even though my sister has come out, I stand by her but I still stick by that code. Even though I’m all right with her dating this other girl, I don’t support it. My problem is that all the people in my school keep saying I’m harsh and not being understanding. I guess I really just want some guidance. Can anyone offer any help?
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Advice? If one of the people at school try to engage you in this type of discusion, just use the movie star reply, “The relationship between me and my sister is a private family matter. Thank you for respecting our privacy.” With a BIG smile.
 
MJPalomo said:
My problem is that all the people in my school keep saying I’m harsh and not being understanding.
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It is in the bible that we will be hated for following Jesus. This is not the last time you will be in disagreement with secular society. Don’t gives these people the time of day
 
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