my sister is a lesbian

[RACJ]

Personally, I would be greatly saddened were she my sister. Don’t fret about your own opinions. Just as she is accepted by you, SHE must accept that your feelings are different from hers. It’s got to be a two-way street. As for your parents, realize that their grief over the situation may never totally ease. They are human, and probably dreamed of natural grandchildren from her.

 

[Amartmal]

She knows, it is hard for us to accept that.
I don’t want to support her sins, I just don’t want to leave her alone or reject her. She accepts my feelings, opinions. She still wants to be a part of our family. She wants to be happy, and she is, with a woman.
I told her that it’s not easy to cope with it, but I would always be for her. “Support” means: don’t judge, help when she needs even now. Pray for her".

 

[Dorothy]

Judging is different than correcting; we are told to correct by our Lord Jesus Christ. Of course, the correction needs to be loving…not throwing thunderbolts from a mountaintop.

 

[Amartmal]

You are right. She knows that it is a sin.I will pray, I trust God and I believe that HE WILL HELP her. You are good and kind people. I’m so grateful.

 

[EMILYOCD]

You love her no matter what even if she is sinning
just love her and pray for her
you both are in my prayers

 

[Amartmal]

Thank you. God bless you

 

[Dorothy]

God bless you too!

 

[Prodigal_Son]

You are right. She knows that it is a sin.

One of the keys here is for her to realize that loving and being loved by a woman is not a sin – that is, that friendship is not a sin. Sex and romance are not appropriate, but I think she already knows that. The question is how to make a bridge for her, so that she can little by little humble herself to obey God. You don’t want to be sharp with her, but you also don’t want to indulge her. It’s a balance.

 

[Tigg]

One of the keys here is for her to realize that loving and being loved by a woman is not a sin – that is, that friendship is not a sin. Sex and romance are not appropriate, but I think she already knows that. The question is how to make a bridge for her, so that she can little by little humble herself to obey God. You don’t want to be sharp with her, but you also don’t want to indulge her. It’s a balance.

Let’s be clear here. Same sex and romance are **SIN! ** and sugar-coating this reality does no one any good. The rest of your post I can agree with and I think the OP already has a good balance of not affirming her in that sin, while lovingly praying for her and showing her that she cares.

 

[Prodigal_Son]

Let’s be clear here. Same sex and romance are **SIN! ** and sugar-coating this reality does no one any good. The rest of your post I can agree with and I think the OP already has a good balance of not affirming her in that sin, while lovingly praying for her and showing her that she cares.

I wasn’t sugar coating. Of course they are sin. But I was talking about the notion of a friendship. Sex and romance are appropriate to a marriage, but they are not appropriate to a friendship.

 

[DepecheMode]

My friends, this is the reason so many people, including Catholics are changing their views. The obvious and true lesson here is to keep loving your sister unconditionally. We must be open and tolerate that not every person/religion considers homosexuality a sin. I’ve seen some horrible cases of parents literally disowning their children simply because they came out.

So yes you can continue to pray for you sister, but realize she deserves your love, support and that SHE may not consider being lesbian a sin. In fact, Why don’t you get to know her partner and you might find you have a lot in common and more importantly be happy for her.

 

[Dorothy]

My friends, this is the reason so many people, including Catholics are changing their views. The obvious and true lesson here is to keep loving your sister unconditionally. We must be open and tolerate that not every person/religion considers homosexuality a sin. I’ve seen some horrible cases of parents literally disowning their children simply because they came out.

So yes you can continue to pray for you sister, but realize she deserves your love, support and that SHE may not consider being lesbian a sin. In fact, Why don’t you get to know her partner and you might find you have a lot in common and more importantly be happy for her.

I do not agree with what you said, because with God all things are possible.

It is a fact that some “believers” are hateful and do not react according to the mind of Christ. That is not a reason for “change” to take place in what is considered sin. It will always be sin. When a person thinks something is not a sin, it still hurts them!

God loves us unconditionally, and He knows sin hurts us! He has made His grace available, and it has been working out fine for those who avail themselves of it.

Meanwhile, love, prayer, caring and truth needs to all work together, powered by God’s gracious.gift of Himself.

 

[Tigg]

My friends, this is the reason so many people, including Catholics are changing their views. The obvious and true lesson here is to keep loving your sister unconditionally. We must be open and tolerate that not every person/religion considers homosexuality a sin. I’ve seen some horrible cases of parents literally disowning their children simply because they came out.

So yes you can continue to pray for you sister, but realize she deserves your love, support and that SHE may not consider being lesbian a sin. In fact, Why don’t you get to know her partner and you might find you have a lot in common and more importantly be happy for her.

This Catholic is not changing her views one little bit nor am I fooled by the flowery but very deceptive enticement of the words “mercy and tolerance” which has introduced iniquitous and human elements to the meaning of goodness as God wishes us to perceive it. The opening poster identifies as Catholic, so obviously her sister is as well. No one is saying her orientation is a sin, but if she fully understands church teaching but disregards it to pursue a lifestyle leading to death, just how loving and happy should we be for her then?

Thanks for your previous post, Dorothy!

 

[DepecheMode]

This Catholic is not changing her views one little bit nor am I fooled by the flowery but very deceptive enticement of the words “mercy and tolerance” which has introduced iniquitous and human elements to the meaning of goodness as God wishes us to perceive it. The opening poster identifies as Catholic, so obviously her sister is as well. No one is saying her orientation is a sin, but if she fully understands church teaching but disregards it to pursue a lifestyle leading to death, just how loving and happy should we be for her then?

Thanks for your previous post, Dorothy!

Hmm, guess what, not everyone believes leading a homosexual lifestyle “leads to death.” In fact, quite the opposite. I know many Catholics and non Catholics alike who aren’t just tolerating, but are beginning to accept that gay people can indeed be happy and lead a lifestyle of LIFE AND LOVE. It’s quite sad that anyone would think the latter. Open your eyes, God is Love and Love is good. Not everyone believe homosexuality is a sin, and as the old Catholic guard is passed to the younger generation, expect a great change, and trust me, you bigots are not going to like it. Being Gay is Ok, and falling love is a not a sin, whether it be with a man or woman.

Love is love. There is nothing wrong with Homosexual Love. This message will be heard and the younger generation believes it, as well as many open Catholics who are having friends and family come out. You can’t change the tide. SSMarriage will be the law of the land for every state soon.

Sorry to burst your bubble to the older, bigoted, nontolerant religious right. Your time is at and end. I pray that you open your eyes someday. And no amount of banning, or trying to silence our voices will quell the search for equality. You can believe in your God, but my God is Love, and Love will always win. WHo are you to judge what love is right or wrong.

/ban the poster but you can’t ban the message. Homosexuality and Masturbation are OK, healthy and normal. THIS is the truth.

Amen my brothers and sisters. Pray for me. Pray for you to open your eyes and hearts.

 

[Dorothy]

This Catholic is not changing her views one little bit nor am I fooled by the flowery but very deceptive enticement of the words “mercy and tolerance” which has introduced iniquitous and human elements to the meaning of goodness as God wishes us to perceive it. The opening poster identifies as Catholic, so obviously her sister is as well. No one is saying her orientation is a sin, but if she fully understands church teaching but disregards it to pursue a lifestyle leading to death, just how loving and happy should we be for her then?

Thanks for your previous post, Dorothy!

And, thank you for yours!

May the Holy Spirit of Truth guide us all.

 

[Tigg]

Hmm, guess what, not everyone believes leading a homosexual lifestyle “leads to death.” In fact, quite the opposite. I know many Catholics and non Catholics alike who aren’t just tolerating, but are beginning to accept that gay people can indeed be happy and lead a lifestyle of LIFE AND LOVE.

I was once corrected by a gay person who posts to this forum that there is no such thing as a gay ‘lifestyle,’ so let me clarify. By lifestyle, I mean a sexual relationship with the same gender. You, of course, are perfectly free to align yourself with the agenda of the gay lobby and the secular world view, but I think I’ll just stick to the immutable teachings of Christ .

 

[Prodigal_Son]

And no amount of banning, or trying to silence our voices will quell the search for equality.

It’s not us that is doing the silencing. Do your research.

 

[ack]

You mentioned that your sister is very young, and I would guess that you’re almost as young yourself. Your family can pray and hope that your sister will change her ways…but realize that, being a member of your family, she will be part of your life as long as you’re both alive.

Given that this situation may last for 50 years or more, I would urge you to take the long view, and don’t do anything rash that may have repercussions decades down the road.

If a good opportunity arises, encourage her to strengthen her faith and reconcile with the Church.

However, if she’s unreceptive to your guidance now, avoid cutting her out of your life or giving ultimatums or “tough love”. If your relationship is irrevocably damaged, this could prove damaging 10 or 20 years down the road, when she may be more receptive to your advice. Homosexual relationships are often unstable and a future breakup may give you a good opportunity to invite her back into the faith life.

 

[WilT]

God bless you for this is the answer. Truly loving a person means that we are as concerned about their eternal life as we are about this earthly one. If someone is allowed to live a life of sin, but in danger of losing their soul in the process, how can it possibly be said we love that person if we do not minister to them with truth? Love involves honesty and always wants what is best for them according to God’s plan.

 

[WilT]

Do not support her state of sin! Do not accept her “orientation” . You are a Christian. If you really love her and care for her, you wouldn’t be thinking about her feelings, but her soul! Pray and pray hard for her conversion to the Holy Spirit while doing some mortification and offerings to God for the conversion of your sister. She must know that her beloved sister does not accept her state of sin and that you want the best for her: conversion.