My sister is deleting me on Facebook because of a post about homosexuality

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Hi everyone. I am somewhat upset right now. My sister is going to delete me from Facebook because of a post I made about homosexuality and “gay marriage”. I made this post as a way to evangelize. Here is exactly what I made in my first post:
This is to anyone who supports “gay marriage”. Statistics show that unchaste homosexuals have a much higher rate of STDs, including HIV, than the heterosexual population. Statistics also show that rampant promiscuity exists within the culture of homosexual unchastity. There are many other statistics that show that living the unchaste homosexual lifestyle is very unhealthy. Do you really think that God would support a “marriage” which encourages unchastity and other serious health problems?

Before you respond, please keep in mind that unchastity is condemned by God for ALL people and not just homosexuals.

Also, this is not hateful. Rather, it is loving. I believe that it would be much more hateful to support a very unhealthy lifestyle for those who are attracted to the same sex than to support chastity which is very healthy.

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I am quite upset with the fact that she’s considering deleting me from Facebook and I would appreciate some advice.
 
maybe next time you decide to preach the gospel you should just go out and feed some homeless people
 
Just so you know, I am not going to stop preaching the Gospel on Facebook or anywhere else. I feel like God has called me to do it and I am going to continue to do it.
 
I would suggest that you talk to your sibling offline, in person or on the phone, about the fact that you are hurt by her decision to remove you as a FB friend and try to have an adult discussion about how you can remain FB friends.

But, if she ultimately deletes you, c’est la vie.

Regarding FB, I personally do not ever post religious or political items to my FB, nor do I respond to those who do (although I haven’t thus far “unfriended” anyone over anything they have posted).

I choose to use FB as a place to see cute pix of my nieces and nephews, connect with old friends, enjoy pix and stories of friends & family’s goings-on. My FB world is a peaceful place of puppies and sunshine and I want no part of religious and political debate there.

FB is not where I choose to engage in religious discussion nor where I care to see any of that stuff from friends/family. Perhaps your sibling has a similar approach to FB as I do, but she takes it from ignoring to removing those who consistenly post on those topics from her field of vision. I don’t know, you will have to ask her. But, ultimately, that is her perogative.
 
What’s the big deal of being deleted from anybodies Facebook site? It is not the end of the world, relative or no relative.
Ignore your sister, and do not, in any way, provoke her. Show a little maturity.
As for your “mission”, why not talk it over with your confessor before continuing?
There are many other ways to evangelize, without upsetting people.
Under no circumstances should you appear “holier than thou”. Not only is that Unchristian behavior, that just drives people away.
 
Hi everyone. My sister and I made up. I told her we could just agree to disagree and I promised not to bring it up around her. She unsubscribed my Facebook posts rather than unfriending me. All is well with her and I now. We talked privately on Facebook.

Also, the big deal about a family member unfriending me on Facebook is that I wouldn’t get updates about my sister and my nephew on Facebook. My sister and I live about 30 minutes away from each other and because of my disabilities, I’m not able to visit her as often as I like. I try to call her on the phone, including earlier, but it is often much more easy to get a hold of her on Facebook than it is to get a hold of her on the phone.

Also, I am sorry if I did act immature in this thread or anywhere else. I didn’t intend to do so. Unfortunately I am quite immature which I think is because of my mental illnesses. when I get upset like this, I act even more immature. 😊

And last, but not least, I am going to talk to my spiritual director about religious posts and things on my Facebook timeline. I think perhaps I should stop doing that so as not to upset more people. I’m not sure. I do have Facebook pages that I operate which are about Catholicism which I can post things like this to with very little or no problems at all though. That’s another way that I evangelize on Facebook. But yeah, I will talk to my spiritual director, Fr. Ray, about this when sometime soon.

Thank you all very much for your advice. I do appreciate it. Sometimes when I get upset about things I am not able to think rationally. I think that is partly due to my mental illnesses but it might also be partly human nature too. I’m not really sure whether or not its a normal part of human nature because I do not have a normal human mind. 😊
 
Sadly, your sister disagrees so solidly with you on this issue that she wants to “penalize” you by de friending you on FB.

Since these beliefs are normally very solidly held, you cannot convince her otherwise.

But FB is just a flipping waste of time anyway. So although it hurts…try to count it toward your penance and keep fighting the good fight.

FWIW. IMNAAHO.

ICXC NIKA
 
I would agree with 1ke. Facebook is not the place for political or religious devisive statements. When I see them, I don’t respond. sharing pictures and good news is the better route. You may feel like you want to make a statement, but that may come with a cost. Employers now are looking at these social media sites and if they have a diversity policy, might be grounds to fire you. Likewise it might be grounds not to hire you. Maybe because I’m older and not of the newer media savy generation, but you really need to think about what you post on any of these sites where your actual name is connected to it.
 
1ke said:
Regarding FB, I personally do not ever post religious or political items to my FB, nor do I respond to those who do (although I haven’t thus far “unfriended” anyone over anything they have posted).

I choose to use FB as a place to see cute pix of my nieces and nephews, connect with old friends, enjoy pix and stories of friends & family’s goings-on. My FB world is a peaceful place of puppies and sunshine and I want no part of religious and political debate there.
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I completely agree.

…well, maybe not completely…puppies don’t interest me very much.
 
FB is not the place for this type of evangelization. What do you hope to accomplish by it? You do realize that you don’t win any hearts this way, don’t you? Actually, you do more harm than good.

Perhaps you could listen to our Holy Father who has advised that we stop dwelling on sexual matters and concentrate on spreading the gospel that Jesus preached, one that tells of God’s love and forgiveness and exhorts us to help those in need.
 
Honestly, I don’t Facebook, and I haven’t used my Twitter account in over a year and a half. But - and this is important - I have no problems bringing up my political and religious views when the time suits itself.

For example, I’m in the Knights of Columbus, and I’m the pro-life director of my council (in Albuquerque). I spent as much time as I could pushing for the 20-week abortion ban that failed, including door-knocking, sign-waving, mentioning it at every council meeting, and, most of all praying. I even fasted the day of the vote. I was quite upset when the vote failed. Regardless, last night, after our monthly meeting, I got into a rather heated discussion with another Knight discussing the reasons for the defeat of the ban. He was pretty much saying that it was a woman’s issue and that we men should have no say in it, even though he is against abortion, and I was trying to tell him (through my stuttering speech) that the only reason it’s a woman’s issue is because we men have made it that way. The discussion got rather heated, but we both walked away from it.
 
I find Face Book a bit hard, too. I got on it wondering what it was all about and why not use e-mail. It is good to get some pictures, but other than that, I don’t much use it.

I tried, once, to put things I liked, I once put on it a quote by Aristotle about adolescents being like they are in a constant state that resembles drunkenness, which I thought was hilarious, but nobody else seemed to like.

I look at what other people are posting, and it’s things like…went out of house…came back…drank cup of coffee… What people normally write about on FB most of the time seems very trivial. These kinds of posts will get “like”.

Some are on there by the hour. At least on the forum, I come away feeling I’ve either prayed for somebody or learned something.

People who are looking for depth don’t normally seem to go to Face Book. They come to the Catholic Answers Forum! 😉
 
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What’s the big deal of being deleted from anybodies Facebook site? It is not the end of the world, relative or no relative.
Ignore your sister, and do not, in any way, provoke her. Show a little maturity.
As for your “mission”, why not talk it over with your confessor before continuing?
There are many other ways to evangelize, without upsetting people.
Under no circumstances should you appear “holier than thou”. Not only is that Unchristian behavior, that just drives people away.
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I find God’s truth is often so radically different than our culture that people are easily upset by it. We still need to say the truth. What’s the saying. When good people are silent, evil wins. Even Jesus who taught with great love, and charity was hated for his message. We must accept that, as Christians, this is part of our lives. Even when we are very loving, and truthful people will become angry. That’s OK. It’s part of the process of human interaction. Remain loving, kind, and truthful. :hug3:
 
I would avoid making posts about religion or politics on Facebook. When people make such posts (usually anti-religious and very liberal) I just hide them from the feed. I don’t think we’re at a point where talking about these issues is going to win any souls. We need to change our lives and lead by example in the way we act (be kind to everyone, volunteer, etc.) because people are so used to immorality being accepted that they become angry at anyone who follows Christian morality.
 
first off, like the others before me, FB is hardly an important aspect of your life. just because Billy Sue deleted your friendship on FB doesn’t mean jack squat. it’s a social media site. big deal (not trying to sound harsh, im just saying, in the end, its really not a big deal). also, i discourage others from evangelizing on the internet completely. not because i don’t want people to not get offended or anything, it’s just really REALLY hard to effectively evangelize over the internet because it is so one dimensional and impersonal. you dont get the effects from actually speaking face to face with the person, such as eye contact, tone of voice, and everything else needed for delivering an otherwise powerful message. that’s the issue with the internet and technology, it’s so impersonal and everyone can say whatever they want, while remaining anonymous and hiding behind a computer screen. arguments literally go over people’s heads today because everyone is so individualistic; the internet dramatically increases that individualism too. lastly, we the call to evangelization isn’t necessarily talking about words; st francis said “preach the Gospel at all times, when necessary use words” meaning that our own lifestyle should reflect whether we are truly living like Christ. if we ar truly living the Gospel, there will be no need for verbal evangelization because people will see it within us in our actions and love. “they will know we are Christian by our love.” you may be the only Bible someone will ever read, actions speak louder than words, so live the Gospel, don’t preach it. everyone has heard of the Gospel, but it’s a totally different thing to see it actually being lived out. that is where the most conversions occur is when someone witnesses an authentic Christian actually living the Gospel. 👍
 
I think your wish to evangelize is wonderful, and I’d like to commend you for it! :)👍:clapping::yup::bounce:

We need more people who care to evangelize. Now, as to what the best way to go about it would be? I don’t know.
 
Don’t agonize over Facebook friendships. If someone removes you from their friends then that is their prerogative and it has no effect on you. Facebook is a trivial divergence try harder to invest less emotion towards it.

I don’t think the whole “Facebook evangelization” tactic that you are working on is going to be particularly effective. The gospel message is so personal that it takes more than a smattering of information on a virtual wall to properly connect people to God. I understand that you feel like you can spread your message using Facebook as a tool but I think you may want to look for different methods.

Do your best to cultivate a relationship with your sister that doesn’t equal to a group of online messages. Work towards loving her more and in a psrsonal way so that she can see that you do what you do out of love.
 
1ke said:
I would suggest that you talk to your sibling offline, in person or on the phone, about the fact that you are hurt by her decision to remove you as a FB friend and try to have an adult discussion about how you can remain FB friends.

But, if she ultimately deletes you, c’est la vie.

Regarding FB, I personally do not ever post religious or political items to my FB, nor do I respond to those who do (although I haven’t thus far “unfriended” anyone over anything they have posted).

I choose to use FB as a place to see cute pix of my nieces and nephews, connect with old friends, enjoy pix and stories of friends & family’s goings-on. My FB world is a peaceful place of puppies and sunshine and I want no part of religious and political debate there.

FB is not where I choose to engage in religious discussion nor where I care to see any of that stuff from friends/family. Perhaps your sibling has a similar approach to FB as I do, but she takes it from ignoring to removing those who consistenly post on those topics from her field of vision. I don’t know, you will have to ask her. But, ultimately, that is her perogative.
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Totally agree. This is my position also–no politics or religion. If I post something remotely religious, it’s on my own timeline only. My FB world is like yours only with cat videos, posts for missing animals, and anti-animal cruelty petitions. I think the thing that we sometimes forget in social media, including CAF, is that all words have repercussions. That guy that I called a moron on FB may turn out to be the interviewer for my next job. Stranger things have happened…
 
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Totally agree. This is my position also–no politics or religion. If I post something remotely religious, it’s on my own timeline only. My FB world is like yours only with cat videos, posts for missing animals, and anti-animal cruelty petitions. I think the thing that we sometimes forget in social media, including CAF, is that all words have repercussions. That guy that I called a moron on FB may turn out to be the interviewer for my next job. Stranger things have happened…
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Well, if that guy you called a moron on FB and he saw it, you won’t get the interview. Schools and employers are now scanning these social media sites and they are firing people for things posted on them. While it is noble to want to “stand up for truth” and evangelize, FB really is not the effective way to do so, all it does is cause divisiveness among “friends”. A city mayor near where I lived once posted something about gays and marriage (not supportive lets say), it hit the media and she eventually lost her office over it. A teacher at my son’s previous school decided to vent about the principal which got back to her, she was fired. FB is a nice way to keep in touch with people you do not regularily see as well as old friends but to start to evangelize or make statements will only backfire and you will not see the desired results.
 
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