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My son is 34 years old and is mentally handicapped. He couldn’t understand RCIA classes, but I would love for him to be baptized. He will go where ever I ask him to go & I feel my other son would be sure he continued in the Church when I am gone. What does the Church say about my son??
 
He can be baptized. Not sure about communion, but I think he might be able to.
 
Have you talked with a priest? I looked up Code of Canon Law and from what I can make from it, he can receive. They had a commentary in it that even if someone could not conceptulize what is going on, they still could see the reverence and partake of Commuion somehow. It also said that some areas may have procedures or guidelines in seeing if one can receive Commuion or not if handicapped.

If you want I can provide you with the commentary quote, I just did not type it in this post.

God Bless.
 
If a Roman Rite priest won’t administer baptism, Communion, and Confirmation, find an Eastern Rite priest. “Understanding” or “comprehension” is not a requirement for Easterners, and they commune and Chrismate infants regularly.

That being said, if there isn’t a pastoral provision in place for this sort of situation in the Roman rite [edited]
 
If a Roman Rite priest won’t administer baptism, Communion, and Confirmation, find an Eastern Rite priest. “Understanding” or “comprehension” is not a requirement for Easterners, and they commune and Chrismate infants regularly.

That being said, if there isn’t a pastoral provision in place for this sort of situation in the Roman rite [edited].
There is, it’s just left to the discretion of the priest. I am thinking I may and have to go and get the CIC after all. The commentary underneath the corresponding canon was lengthy and hence I did not type it out.

The provision is present. I will post it in the next reply of this thread.

God Bless.
 
This section was under Canons 913-914 Reception of Commuion by Children

This section is the commentary.

The Mentally Handicapped.

THe issue of the use of reason is especailly problematic in the case of the mentally handicapped. Other than the presumption that it is attined at the age of seven, the Code does not define the “use of reason” or limit the understanding of it to any one epistemology, such as that of Aristotle and the Scholastics. Traditionally the use of reason has been viewed in terms of the acquisition of abstract, cognitive skills, but the law does not excluse a broader definition which places primacy on symbolic and intuitive ways of knowing. For example, mentally handicapped persons may not be able to cenceptualize and articulate the difference between the Body of Christ and ordinary food, but they can sometimes appreciate the sacredness of the Eucharistic food in the center of the reverence shown the sacrament by their families and the Christain community. Some dioceses and conferences of bishops have policies which permit the distribution of Communion to such persons. In the absence of a local policy, pastors should not arbitrarily deny the sacraments ot the mentally handicapped who are suitable prepared and dispoed “accroding to their capacity.” [c. 913 paragraph 1] and who are supported by the faith or community.

Seems to me the OP’s son is going to be well supported by her and her family. Everything is a go taken from the commentary. My advice and counsel to the OP talk the priest, if you have any difficulties I would then approach the Bishop.

God Bless.
 
If a Roman Rite priest won’t administer baptism, Communion, and Confirmation, find an Eastern Rite priest. “Understanding” or “comprehension” is not a requirement for Easterners, and they commune and Chrismate infants regularly.

That being said, if there isn’t a pastoral provision in place for this sort of situation in the Roman rite [edited].
I agree. There was this case just a couple of months back where a kid (13 or 14) was denied Communion because of his mental disability. The Western praxis emphasizes on the recognition of the Eucharist for one to receive. In the East, its not important. God’s graces work on these people nonetheless. Why deny them the Sacraments?
 
There is, it’s just left to the discretion of the priest. I am thinking I may and have to go and get the CIC after all. The commentary underneath the corresponding canon was lengthy and hence I did not type it out.

The provision is present. I will post it in the next reply of this thread.

God Bless.
In the CIC there is something about not giving Communion to someone unless they can comprehend the Eucharist. Like for children, it can be given to one younger than 7 if they are in danger of death and can tell the difference between regular food and the Eucharist.
 
In the CIC there is something about not giving Communion to someone unless they can comprehend the Eucharist. Like for children, it can be given to one younger than 7 if they are in danger of death and can tell the difference between regular food and the Eucharist.
That’s under the norms yes, but there are some extenuating circumstances, again it’s up to the priest or bishop. Now you got me interested in looking up the viaticum laws.
 
That being said, if there isn’t a pastoral provision in place for this sort of situation in the Roman rite that is despicable.
Despicable? as in “deserving to be despised : so worthless or obnoxious as to rouse moral indignation”?
A bit strong me thinking 😃
 
My son is 34 years old and is mentally handicapped. He couldn’t understand RCIA classes, but I would love for him to be baptized. He will go where ever I ask him to go & I feel my other son would be sure he continued in the Church when I am gone. What does the Church say about my son??
of course he can be baptized. If his mental capacity is that of an infant, he would probably be baptized as an infant (under age 7 or 8) and would never need confession. He may be confirmed at the same time but it is not required. Depending on his level of understanding and function he may be a candidate for first communion as well. Speak to the pastor about his individual situation. His brother could be his godparent.
 
There is a group home near our church and several of their residents attend and receive the Eucharist. My son, who is autistic, has a limited understanding of it but still knows that “the bread is Jesus.” The group home residents are much lower-functioning than him but they have all been confirmed. So I don’t think it would be a problem.
 
any unbaptized person without exception is a candidate for baptism, that is canon law.

and for other parents with similar questions, the US bishops have a pamphlet on sacraments for persons with disabilities, which you can get from their website usccb.org.
 
That being said, if there isn’t a pastoral provision in place for this sort of situation in the Roman rite [edited]
I should explain myself here (and have gotten permission from the mods to do so)

I didn’t express myself very well. I used a word that was meant to be shocking, by which I mean to show the extreme unlikelihood (IMO) that there wasn’t a provision in place for this situation. My comment was meant to be a vote of confidence in your church. “That would be _____, and obviously the Romans aren’t _______, so I’m sure something is in place.”

I realize I did it very badly, and I’m only bringing it back up in order to apologize to anyone who might’ve been offended, and to ensure nobody in the future would be.
 
My son is five years old and has Down’s syndrome. He was baptized as an infant. I don’t think any priest would have any qualms about baptizing your son. My priest did say that my son may or may not be able to participate with receiving Communion as it will depend on his level of reasoning and understanding. My son attends Mass with me every week and I teach him how to make the sign of the cross. We pray for meals and he is very fervent…its quite sweet. 🙂 The Catholic church teaches we should baptize our children as infants, they do not reason nor understand, so I cannot imagine it will be an issue. Good luck.
 
That’s under the norms yes, but there are some extenuating circumstances, again it’s up to the priest or bishop. Now you got me interested in looking up the viaticum laws.
In the case of the story that hit the news, the priest denied the teen who had a mental disability. Its sad. Why deny Christ to someone who obviously has no sin and incapable of doing sin. Truly Christ’s graces cannot be limited by one’s limitations.

And Eastern Catholic or Orthodox priest will not think twice in this case. If the person is Baptized and Chrismated, they will be given the Eucharist. Its as simple as that.
 
My son is five years old and has Down’s syndrome. He was baptized as an infant. I don’t think any priest would have any qualms about baptizing your son. My priest did say that my son may or may not be able to participate with receiving Communion as it will depend on his level of reasoning and understanding. My son attends Mass with me every week and I teach him how to make the sign of the cross. We pray for meals and he is very fervent…its quite sweet. 🙂 The Catholic church teaches we should baptize our children as infants, they do not reason nor understand, so I cannot imagine it will be an issue. Good luck.
I really believe that reasoning should not be an issue at all. Unless one’s condition make them likely to spit out what they are fed, then there’s no reason to withhold Communion. In the next life they will be perfected by God and will be united with Him in communion, so why deny that on earth?
 
In the case of the story that hit the news, the priest denied the teen who had a mental disability. Its sad. Why deny Christ to someone who obviously has no sin and incapable of doing sin. Truly Christ’s graces cannot be limited by one’s limitations.

And Eastern Catholic or Orthodox priest will not think twice in this case. If the person is Baptized and Chrismated, they will be given the Eucharist. Its as simple as that.
the case that made the news did not tell the entire story, there were complications (if we are talking about the same case, you have not provided a link) they did not cover the issue of his level of understanding, and the boy was autistic. And it was about communion, not baptism. The child has to be physically able to receive either the consecrated bread or wine, and have the basic understanding of who Jesus is, want to receive him and understand the difference between Eucharist and ordinary bread and wine. Every case has to be evaluated individually, and the situation can change. The autistic children in our program who have not received cannot do so physically, but they are confirmed at the proper age. Believe me even non-verbal children can communicate love of Christ and desire for him eloquently. There are no barriers whatever to baptism, and yes in the Eastern rites the child will be communicated (if it is physically possible) and chrismated at the same time.
 
Remember, O most loving Virgin Mary,
that never was it known,
that anyone who fled to your protection,
implored your help, or sought your intercession,
was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence,
though burdened by my sins,
I fly to you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother.
To you I come, before you I stand,
sinful and sorrowful.
O Mother of the Word Incarnate,
despise not my petitions, but in your mercy,
hear and answer me.
Amen.
 
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