My son's anger and defiance

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Please pray.

In many ways, he’s a very good kid, good grades, doesn’t drink, smoke, go to wild parties. He values his faith.

But he also has a lot of anger and a temper, and when I say or do anything about it, gets defiant and in my face. Tonight, it involved physically hurting one of his younger brothers.

Please pray for peace in my family and for peace in my children’s hearts.

Thank you.
 
Sounds like me.

I’m sorry, I’m not a prayer here, just relating…

If I can, I will try to pray for your son…
 
faithfulwannabe said:
Sounds like me.

I’m sorry, I’m not a prayer here, just relating…

If I can, I will try to pray for your son…
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Anger and temper sounds like you?

I will pray for you, too. Please, pray for my son if you can.

My kids have had a rough few years, between me divorcing their father (infidelity, lies, financial lies), and me refusing to be around my alcoholic family. I think they blame me for it all, because they don’t see all the many, many things that led up to this point in each case, and all the ways I tried to make peace and live at peace with these situations, until it was just impossible. 😦
 
Perhaps he needs to speak to a professional, you know, someone outside the family, about the divorce, etc. Maybe you could try family counseling. Praying for you!

Our Father, Who art in Heaven,
hallowed be Thy Name.
Thy Kingdom come.
Thy Will be done, on earth as it is in Heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread
and forgive us our trespasses,
as we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from evil. Amen.

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou amongst women and
Blessed is the Fruit of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners,
now and at the hour of our death. Amen.

Glory be to the Father,
and to the Son,
and to the Holy Spirit,
as it was in the beginning,
is now, and ever shall be,
world without end. Amen.
 
I’m so sorry to hear your situation.

Yes, anger & temper sounds like me… Hee

Maybe your family situation could be one of the factors that contribute to his spurting anger. Just my guessing.

My family’s situation isn’t any better as well, sometimes when I think too much, my head is going to explode and I released it to my surrounding in a very unpleasant manner that when I think back, it’s very rude… I think it has to do with the way he has to channel his thoughts in a more subtle way. But of course it needs time and prayer helps a lot.

I hope your son will be better and your family’s situation can turn out better.
 
Sounds like you have had a lot to deal with and I will gladly pray for your intentions.

Memorare

REMEMBER, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to thy protection, implored thy help, or sought thy intercession was left unaided. Inspired with this confidence, I fly to thee, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother; to thee do I come; before thee I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in thy mercy hear and answer me. Amen.
 
My prayers are with you.

Get him into a three day/ week sport this summer so he can burn off some steam and bond with otger boys.
 
Our Father, Who art in heaven, hallowed be Thy name; Thy kingdom come; Thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread; and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us; and lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.
Amen.
 
holyrood said:
Please pray.

In many ways, he’s a very good kid, good grades, doesn’t drink, smoke, go to wild parties. He values his faith.

But he also has a lot of anger and a temper, and when I say or do anything about it, gets defiant and in my face. Tonight, it involved physically hurting one of his younger brothers.

Please pray for peace in my family and for peace in my children’s hearts.

Thank you.
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Of course you need prayers, but you also need some professional counseling as a family. Your son (how old is he?) needs some ultimatums as well. There is no excuse for hurting others just because your angry and he needs to get this under control.

The next time he gets abusive call the police, and warn him that you will do just that. If you husband was violent tell your son he does not need to imitate that behavior and you expect better of him. I know you are not in an easy place, but the sooner you lay some ground work for your son to deal with his anger the better. And don’t expect the other siblings to put up with it.
 
holyrood said:
Please pray.

In many ways, he’s a very good kid, good grades, doesn’t drink, smoke, go to wild parties. He values his faith.

But he also has a lot of anger and a temper, and when I say or do anything about it, gets defiant and in my face. Tonight, it involved physically hurting one of his younger brothers.

Please pray for peace in my family and for peace in my children’s hearts.

Thank you.
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Would counseling be an option?
 
holyrood said:
Please pray.

In many ways, he’s a very good kid, good grades, doesn’t drink, smoke, go to wild parties. He values his faith.

But he also has a lot of anger and a temper, and when I say or do anything about it, gets defiant and in my face. Tonight, it involved physically hurting one of his younger brothers.

Please pray for peace in my family and for peace in my children’s hearts.

Thank you.
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Praying for your intentions.
 
A prayer for parents

Most loving Father, the example of parenthood, teach us what to give
and what to withhold. Show us when to reprove and when to praise.
Make us gentle and considerate yet firm and watchful.
Keep us from weak indulgence, or from great severity.
Give us the courage to be disliked sometimes by our children,
when we must do necessary things which are displeasing to their eyes.
Give us the imagination to enter into their world
in order to understand and guide them.
Give us all the virtues we need to lead them by word and example
in the path of righteousness. Amen.
 
This prayer that I will say for your family is one that I have said many times for mine. The behavior of our oldest daughter is similar, although she is defiant in faith and claims to have none. She has come close to being physical with her younger siblings and has even threatened my wife. I pray for peace for you all.

Prayer for Peace in our Family

Lord Jesus, be with my family. Grant us Your peace and harmony, an end to conflict and division. Gift us with compassion to better understand each other, wisdom and love to assist each other, and trust and patience to live peacefully together. Grant that through the intercession of Your Mother, Mary, and St. Joseph, our family may become a holy family accepting each other, working together in unity, selflessly dedicated to one another and to You. Amen.
 
PaulScotus said:
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Prayer for Peace in our Family

Lord Jesus, be with my family. Grant us Your peace and harmony, an end to conflict and division. Gift us with compassion to better understand each other, wisdom and love to assist each other, and trust and patience to live peacefully together. Grant that through the intercession of Your Mother, Mary, and St. Joseph, our family may become a holy family accepting each other, working together in unity, selflessly dedicated to one another and to You. Amen.
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Amen.

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Loving God please help this young man to learn how to redirect his frustrations, disappointments, and struggles, into more positive avenues.
Bless him with the grace and insight her needs to use his strong spirit with the development of empathy and kindness.
Guide his family in ways that prevent him from seeing himself as incorrigible or misunderstood, but in understanding of the difficulties of this stage of his development, so that he has more chance of becoming the well-rounded person he can be if all is handled for the best.
No child comes with a manual, therefore loving God please guide him, his siblings, and his parents each day towards the most wholesome responses and outcomes.
 
Saint Michael, the archangel, defend us in battle, be our defense against the wickedness and snares of the devil, may God rebuke him, we humbly pray. And do you, O’ Prince of the Heavenly host, by the power of God thrust into Hell Satan and all the other evil spirits who prowl about the world for the ruin of souls.

Amen.

†

Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.

Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.

Give us this day our daily bread.

And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.

And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.

Amen.

†

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.

Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.

Amen.

†
 
Thank you for continuing prayers. There have been consequences. He’s 17. He has lost the use of my car until he repairs the damage he did to his brother’s bedroom door. His phone was taken away the other night for his disrespect.

I did ask him if he’d like to talk to a counselor. He doesn’t want to. He does choose on his own to do a ‘one on one’ with a church group in the area, so he’s already talking to someone.
 
Our Father, Who art in Heaven,
Hallowed be Thy Name.
Thy Kingdom come.
Thy Will be done, on earth as it is in Heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread
and forgive us our trespasses,
as we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from evil. Amen.

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou amongst women and
Blessed is the Fruit of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners,
now and at the hour of our death. Amen.

Glory be to the Father,
and to the Son,
and to the Holy Spirit,
as it was in the beginning,
is now, and ever shall be,
world without end. Amen.

Memorare to St. Joseph
Remember, O most pure spouse of Mary, and my dearly beloved guardian, St. Joseph, that never was it known that anyone who invoked your care and requested your help was left without consolation. Inspired with this confidence, I come to you, and with all the ardor of my spirit I commend myself to you. Do not reject my prayer, O Foster Father of the Savior, but graciously receive and answer it. Amen.
 
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