My teen son wants to be a vampire for Halloween

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My 16 year old son’s girlfriend suggested they go trick or treating as a vampire and vampiress. I told my son I didn’t want him going as a vampire. He said he did when he was 6. He’s right. He wore a red and black cape. No makeup, no teeth, no blood, not even anything in his hair.

When I found out they wanted to go to Spirit (of all places) to look for costumes, I thought I had the discussion ended when I do not have room in the budget for a Halloweeen costume, especially one he was only going to wear for a couple of hours. Why not wear what we have. A hot dog and a bottle of mustard. No, wait, since you LOVE ketchup, your girlfriend can be the bottle of ketchup. How cute is that. Well he was buying it until I showed his girlfriend the costumes. Her reply? “I’m afraid of bulky costumes.”:eek: 🤷

The next day he said his girlfriend said she would SEW him a cape and he can get some makeup and she’s going to be a bat.

So, is it sacreligious to be a vampire? Do I let her win and let go of this fight? I don’t want him to be a vampire but he tells me there is nothing wrong with it!
 
My only concern is that the costumes are modest - she is not going to be some kind of sexy Elvyra with lots of cleavage and a short skirt?

As long as they both are going to behave in a modest manner, I’d not pick this as a fight.

Vampires, ghosts, monsters - these are fairy tales, dressing up as this or a unicorn or a fairy princess all morally neutral.
 
**16 is a tough age! Both for teens and their parents. I think the time of dictating behavior is over. Now you have to sit back (unless something clearly immoral or dangerous is going on) and watch him learn to rely on his own judgment…hopefully you have laid a good foundation for him. It is time for him to make mistakes and learn from them. This may or may not be one of them.

But having him choose sides between you and his girlfriend is a recipe for disaster. You can’t win that one. So, let him know that you are uncomfortable with it but let it go. Ultimately it is up to him.**

**As for the choice of vampire, it is a purely fictional character and appropriately “cool” enough for a 16 year old boy, lol. As long as he doesn’t decide to dress as a devil worshipper or commit illegal or immoral acts then I would just let this one go. **
 
So where do y’all live that 16 year olds go trick or treating??
 
I think you should let you 16 year old son make his own decision on a costume. A vampire does not mock the faith, it’s a fictional character.
 
Let him be the vampire…you’re gonna have bigger battles.
 
BamaRider said:
So where do y’all live that 16 year olds go trick or treating??
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Oh boy…you have no idea…People where I live go trick-or-treating at 20

I have been dresing up every halloween as something. But since around my 16th, my dad has always disapproved. I don’t understand that…I don’t go trick-or-treating. I just take my siblings around the block and simply dress up myself! I answer the door too. so dressing up is acceptable, but taking candy is not.

anyways, now that THAT is out of the way…

I say unless a costume is immodest…its fine.

I am going to be Dr. Gregory House this year. He’s far worse than any vampire
 
Personally I think 16 is too old for trick or treat. At 16 I was going to shaparoned parties.
 
At 38, I still wish I could go trick or treating. There’s something about Halloween candy that makes it taste better than if you buy it on your own. 😃
 
Are you sure they aren’t going as Edward and Bella?
Cause that;s pretty much regular clothes and the slip-on vamp teeth they sell at Hot Topic.
 
gelsbern said:
At 38, I still wish I could go trick or treating. There’s something about Halloween candy that makes it taste better than if you buy it on your own. 😃
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Sneaking some while you’re waiting for the kids to come is almost as good - or so I’ve heard. :rolleyes: :whistle:

I’m with everyone else - no big deal. And yes, Dr. House is worse than any vampire. What are you going to do for your costume, just dress in a t-shirt and jeans and go around insulting people? 😛
 
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It’s just Halloween.

Ironically Yours, Blade and Blood
 
I hear you MOM heart. My kids are grown know. I look back and seeing things from this perspective. I know I made some mistakes in being a bit to controlling. I don’t mean you don’t have a valid perspective on this. I look back at some Halloween pics of the kids now and boy do I wish I hadn’t let them dress in some scary looking dress. By the time they are 16 you pretty much have to speak your peace calmly. My kids tell me now it never helped a bit when I had to right about everything. We laugh but its true.
 
BamaRider said:
So where do y’all live that 16 year olds go trick or treating??
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Come up here. We have multi-generational trick or treating. Only old fogies like me don’t dress up.

I do tend to leave the cob webs on the house at this time of year, so’s I don’t have to pay for halloween decorations. The spiders are free, too.😃
 
jmcrae said:
Sneaking some while you’re waiting for the kids to come is almost as good - or so I’ve heard. :rolleyes: :whistle:

I’m with everyone else - no big deal. And yes, Dr. House is worse than any vampire. What are you going to do for your costume, just dress in a t-shirt and jeans and go around insulting people? 😛
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Ya gotta have a cane, and a pocket full of pills. Then you can insult people. :rolleyes:
 
A hot dog and a bottle of mustard?? I have trouble understanding why any teenage girl would want to go trick-or-treating as that.

I think the vampire/vampiress thing might be from the Twilight books - which are actually pretty good fiction. Buying costumes really isn’t worth it in general though - and if you can’t afford to buy them, then don’t. 🙂 That being said, I don’t think it’s too big of a deal (depending on the modesty of costumes).
 
I agree with everyone else. Let him go as a vampire. It’s just a cool fictional character. Don’t make a fuss over this. Just tell him it’s fine.

Save the disapproval for alcohol, drugs, and reckless driving that some kids get involved with at Halloween. Dressing up in a cape and false fangs and covering everything with blood is kids’ stuff, just for fun. The real tragedy is drinking and driving and getting in a car crash on Halloween.

Actually, if you’ve ever read Dracula, it’s an excellent “heroic quest” story of Christians vs. the devil. I personally think there’s more under the surface, but on the surface, it’s just a great battle, and GOOD wins.

So when your son cowers from a crucifix as he pretends to be a vampire, he is merely demonstrating the power of Jesus!

I still have the hugest crush ever on Barnabas Collins. In fact, suggest that they go as Barnabas and Angelique (they can find both the old and new series online in lots of different sites).

Now if he continues to act like a vampire AFTER Halloween, refusing to remove the teeth, sleeping in the cape during the daytime, shunning crucifixes, etc.–you have trouble! That’s what happened to poor Bela Lugosi (Dracula)!
 
OutinChgoburbs said:
Ya gotta have a cane, and a pocket full of pills. Then you can insult people. :rolleyes:
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I drew the line at the bottle full of pills…

I have the cane, the clothes, and the voice

“You are a ray of sunshine on a cloudy day”😉
 
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