My uncle wont go to my wedding

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disgusting? do i eat bread and drink wine and pretend its a canabolistic act? like a said and will continue to say i dont want to argue your religion i simply want to know if i should invite them to the reception and if they would be ok to go. i dont need this harrasment when im trying to be respectful of their beleifs by finding out if they can come befor putting them in the position of having to say they cant, if they cant id rather just leave it alone and move on and hope that our relationship afterwards is as good as it was befor. my beleifs simply differ from yours. i beleive her first marriage was a poor descion made by a wonderful women who felt she needed to be loved and went the wrong way about it. her husband was an adulterer and there marriage was disolved by the courts. i will stick with her thru think and thin and show her all the love im able and will be hers and only hers for the rest of our lives and i know she will do the same. you dont need to attack me for my beleifs just help this “lost sheep” get some understanding and peace of mind please
 
wow for holy people you sure are antagonistic. trollin the forums looking for afight? and nice jab on the who told me i was a good man. very christ like of ya friend
 
i am not trying to offend, i am hurt by this and dont need to be attacked by people who pretend to be holier than thou. hopefully theres someone on this board who can look past the stuff you seem to be hung up on cause im done with talking to people who are just gonna belittle me to make them feel secure in their faith. kinda funny, you can call someone fat and normally they wont take offence unless they beleive they are fat. i call this beleif fanatical and you get all offended, makes me think you see it as fanatical too.
 
call_me_B said:
wow lots of great things being said here. i want to thank everyone for their feedback. while it still hurts that they wont be there atleast i know that it is actually founded in their fanatical religious beleifs and not just them using it to not come. now for a slight twist on the whole ordeal, my grandmas birthday is the day of my wedding, originally i told dad if they didnt come to the wedding they cant come to the reception however last night i realized we are celebrating my uncles mithers 80th on the same day. is it ok to go to the reception of adultrers or would that be showing support of adultry? im wondering cause i want to call and tell him i accept the fact that i cant make him come but that he is welcome to the reception. ayn thoughts?
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ANYWAY!

Back to the topic at hand.

I would invite them to the reception anyhow, just to be polite regardless. Why not? Worst thing could do is say no. 🤷
 
Mikey im sorry. now go away. im not trolling i posted a question and you trolled across it and revealed that your a religious nut. look at the first page and youll see very good discussion and that i was very respectful until you came along and jumped me over using the word fanatical then my beleifs were said to be discusting and so i pointed out 1 disgusting aspect of your religion. im sorry i got you on my back so please get off.
 
The reception is like an after party to the wedding. Your uncle may still have a problem with it.

Talk to him and explain you respect his views but given it’s also your granmothers birthday, you’d like it a joint celebration.

I dont know them, but if theres any possibility of things ‘‘kicking off’’ with them there, I’d think twice about inviting them, especially if a lot of alcohol is going to be involved. The last thing you want is you and your new wife left with an abiding memory of an unholy row at your wedding reception.

If they can attend in the spirit in which they are being invited then I say go for it.

And don’t use the word ‘‘fanatical’’ when talking to them 😛
 
peary asked of me:
Why is it ridiculous?
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Beacuse, as I already said:
If a thing did not exist then it does not exist, that is reality and reality does not need a tribunal to state what is or what is not. It simply is or is not.
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thank you guy. i actually called my uncle a little bit ago and he said that he loves me and will try to make it to the reception but is unsure if he can get off work. we also talked and i feel better having let him know that i dont agree with his stance and it hurts but i do love him and wont ask him to do anything he feels he cant. thank you all that helped me out with working thru this and for giving me the courage to call him. as far as there being any problems at the wedding we are all respectful enough to leave the beleifs at the door and have a good time together so i dont think that wll be an issue. thank you again it really helped alot to beable to come here and get some better understanding of my situation.
 
call_me_B said:
thank you guy. i actually called my uncle a little bit ago and he said that he loves me and will try to make it to the reception but is unsure if he can get off work. we also talked and i feel better having let him know that i dont agree with his stance and it hurts but i do love him and wont ask him to do anything he feels he cant. thank you all that helped me out with working thru this and for giving me the courage to call him. as far as there being any problems at the wedding we are all respectful enough to leave the beleifs at the door and have a good time together so i dont think that wll be an issue. thank you again it really helped alot to beable to come here and get some better understanding of my situation.
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very cool 🙂
 
call_me_B said:
ok that still didnt answer the question. and yes fanatical due to the fact that we will have many catholics present at the ceremony. but i dont want to argue religious fanatisism on a chatholic forum. my question is will they still be in good standing with god(in your beleifs) if he comes to the reception?
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The fact that you have some Catholics at the ceremony who choose to disobey God, to dishonor their Faith does not lessen the true Faith of those who do not want to see you in sin.

Have respect for what your elders believe, it will serve you well in life.
 
Dear Call me B,
I know it’s hard to hear that your uncle values his relationship with God over his relationship with you. But that’s not the case at all. He loves you so much that he wants to see that one day you will be able to inherit in the kingdom of heaven one day too and have the same relationship we all desire…one in heaven with God. That’s why he has taken the stand he has, as difficult as it may seem. I am sure of this…he has put you on his prayer list. He wants what is best for you, and the best is heaven one day. Hopefully you will to. For that’s what love is all about…not about “me” and “mine.” But “ours with God.” Good luck on your upcoming nuptials. Pray for your spouse to be as well. You will see the fruits of that prayer one day I am sure.
 
stbruno said:
Dear Call me B,
I know it’s hard to hear that your uncle values his relationship with God over his relationship with you. But that’s not the case at all. He loves you so much that he wants to see that one day you will be able to inherit in the kingdom of heaven one day too and have the same relationship we all desire…one in heaven with God. That’s why he has taken the stand he has, as difficult as it may seem. I am sure of this…he has put you on his prayer list. He wants what is best for you, and the best is heaven one day. Hopefully you will to. For that’s what love is all about…not about “me” and “mine.” But “ours with God.” Good luck on your upcoming nuptials. Pray for your spouse to be as well. You will see the fruits of that prayer one day I am sure.
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THANK YOU. of all the things that iv been told i think this is the best worded of all the replys and really gives an answer to what is really bothering me, it helps to know that this is his midset on the situation, takes away alot of the hurt cause by it. once again i cant thank you enough for your kindness and explanation.
 
Please be gentle and try to understand your uncle does not mean to hurt you and that he is only being faithful to his beliefs. Take if from someone who knows: he is agonizing over this situation. Below is a link to another CAF thread about a similar topic with personal perspective from the other side. Though it doesn’t match your situation exactly, there are some common factors. On the bright side, you and your uncle have a close, loving relationship, so I hope you can get to a point where you at least understand him and that you both will still be loving and respectful with each other.

forums.catholic-questions.org/showthread.php?t=281047
 
Please remain on topic and maintain civility and charity in all posts.
 
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