My wife refuses to have sex with me

[flyingfish]

Did your wife ever enjoy sex with you?

 

[Aramis]

My wife and I are both Catholics. We go to church every Sunday and I attend confession every week. I also do a Holy Hour every week. My wife and I both want children and are against birth control methods. We have tried to conceive for over a year now, and nothing has worked. My wife has now given up on sex. She told me a few months ago, “What’s the point in having sex if I can’t get pregnant?” Here are some other things she has mentioned:

1. Marriage is only about having children
2. Sex cannot be enjoyable
3. Foreplay is not allowed
4. Talking about sex is not allowed

She mentioned that I talk to her father about my sexual urges and let him “teach” me on the way of the Lord. Funny thing is, her father had a vasectomy 22 years ago after the birth of her brother, and it was non-medical related. Only because they couldnt afford another child. I will not take advice from him.

Can someone shed some light on this?

Also,is fertility treatments considered sin?

Thank you all and God Bless

She’s wrong on all four points. She needs to actually read Humanae Vitae. She also needs to read the CCC.

Starting here (link) - the Chapter on the Sacrament of Marriage

CCC ¶1654 says…
“Spouses to whom God has not granted children can nevertheless have a conjugal life full of meaning, in both human and Christian terms. Their marriage can radiate a fruitfulness of charity, of hospitality, and of sacrifice.”