My wife took my crucifix down

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I always wanted a crucifix that I liked the look of and had been waiting for years to find one that also wasn’t expensive.

On Sunday I found some for sale for a very cheap price and less than six inches tall.

I hung it up over the door frame above the lounge door. When my wife and children came in my son noticed it and mentioned it, my wife’s face turned to thunder and she snapped at me that I keep hanging things like that up and this isn’t a church. She took my crucifix down and put it on the kitchen side.

All I have on the wall is a Divine Mercy image in my lounge that has always been there and a smaller one in our bedroom. There are more pictures of her family on our walls, it’s not like I have them all over the place.

My wife is a practising Catholic; I feel deflated.

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You need to ask before you make major decorating decisions.

Hubby and I have crucifixes in nearly every room BUT we decided together which ones would go where.

I wouldn’t hang something up without asking him first…that’s just rude.

Apologize to her for decorating the house without comming to a mutual agreement, let her know that it means a lot to you and you’d like to display it and work together on where it should go.
 
Can you ask her (without the children being present) why she had such a problem with it? Was it the fact that you hung something up or the fact that it was a crucifix? Her reaction seems quite disproportionate to me.
 
Sounds like more than the crucifix is at issue. She seems to be of the opinion that she can unilaterally decide what is hung up or not hung up. You and she have equal standing in the household. Certainly it would have been good to discuss with her beforehand-- not ask permission per se but give a heads up and (name removed by moderator)ut/opinion.

Discuss this like the adults you are. Tell her that you want a Catholic crucifix hung in the house and not hidden away. Ask calmly what she objects to and why and see if you can come to an agreement regarding hanging the crucifix. Is this about the crucifix or is it a power struggle of some kind? If she has made 99.9% of the choices in decorating, what hangs where, etc, then it doesn’t seem reasonable that she object to one thing you decide to hang.

If I didn’t like something my husband hung up, I would not rip it down. I would talk with him about it, suggest alternatives, etc.
 
You should sprinkle Holy Water round your house, if necessary while your wife is out shopping. Also have evening prayers and simple Bible study with your children each evening .
My sister is married to a freemason and, over the years he has stripped their home of every Catholic and Christian reminder. When I gave her a framed photo of her First Communion she put it on the TV. Next time I visited it was gone and I’ve never seen it since.
 
Satan has an aversion to the crucifix. It’s why it’s used in exorcisms.
 
Carmel said:
You should sprinkle Holy Water round your house, if necessary while your wife is out shopping. Also have evening prayers and simple Bible study with your children each evening .
My sister is married to a freemason and, over the years he has stripped their home of every Catholic and Christian reminder. When I gave her a framed photo of her First Communion she put it on the TV. Next time I visited it was gone and I’ve never seen it since.
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NO. Absolutely NOT.

Have an adult conversation.

Holy water is not voodoo. This is a husband and wife communication issue, not a spiritual battle.
 
Carmel said:
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Xanthippe_Voorhees:
Holy water is not voodoo. This is a husband and wife communication issue, not a spiritual battle.
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You refer to Catholic Sacramentals as voodoo ?
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If you’re performing a “blessing” on a shared home against the will and knowledge of the other adult in the home than yes, you are completely misusing the sacramental and treating it like a superstitious pagan practice.

One cannot secretly bless someone else’s property. @frdavid96 has spoken about this on other threads. Perhaps he can speak with greater clearity here.
 
A husband and father is well within his rights to bless his own home an pray with his children and hang up a crucifix . I don’t wish to derail this thread so I won’t be posting again .
 
Carmel said:
A husband and father is well within his rights to bless his own home an pray with his children and hang up a crucifix . I don’t wish to derail this thread so I won’t be posting again .
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A husband is part of a sacramental marriage in which he is an equal with his wife. He cannot unilaterally decide things, and that includes going around behind his wife’s back to bless things.
 
AdamPeter said:
Are there two Xantippes on ths forum now?
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Yes. I’m Xanthippe_Vorhees

And then there is the longtime poster Xantippe (without an H)

Not to be totally confusing or anything but we’re both moms 😋 And we both care for special needs kids (in her case her daughter, in my case, my niece…although not so much this year as last)
 
Ah…ok…I only just copped it.

Honestly…I didn’t think your posts sounded like the other Xantippe.

Dunno if that’s good or bad. 🤷‍♂️
 
Nah, only Xanthippe has reprimanded you. Everyone else thinks it was pretty lousy of your wife to remove the crucifix and tear you down. Have a chat with her.
 
Yeah. To be honest your wife’s reaction sounds very extreme. If it was me, I’d just put it back on the wall.
 
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