Natural conception in your 40s?

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Is there anybody out there who has successfully conceived and given birth to a child in your 40s? My husband and I are 41 and 42 years old and trying to conceive a child naturally. We were married later in life, just started trying, have no other children, and have not seen a fertility specialist (yet).

I would really just love to hear from a Catholic couple that was able to conceive in their 40s and what they recommend.

Just looking for encouragement and hope! Thanks.
 
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Is there anybody out there who has successfully conceived and given birth to a child in your 40s? My husband and I are 41 and 42 years old and trying to conceive a child naturally. We were married later in life, just started trying, have no other children, and have not seen a fertility specialist (yet).

I would really just love to hear from a Catholic couple that was able to conceive in their 40s and what they recommend.

Just looking for encouragement and hope! Thanks.
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My mother was 46 when she had me. Although she had 3 before me she was 34 when she conceived my eldest sister. My niece was 42 when she conceived her little boy. He was 2 last week, so don’t give up hope.
 
I had my last two at 43 and 44. I’m 45 and still have all appearances of being extremely fertile, even as indicated by recent bloodwork that assess such things. I am not typical, however.

For most woman, fertility seems to drop drastically after 40, and most especially after 43/44, so I wouldn’t waste any time. But it certainly is possible. Do you know what age your mother went through menopause? It’s thought to be a general indicator of the length of potential fertility, although many other factors also come into play.

Do you know NFP? I would utilize it to maximize your chances to achieve pregnancy. It will help you p(name removed by moderator)oint which days of the month are most likely to result in conception and read your own fertility signs. I conceived my now 2 year old using NFP to identify the best days, and it took only 2 cycles. If you haven’t learned NFP already, I’d recommend Taking Charge of your Fertility (TCOYF) , a easy to learn book on fertility awareness. It will help you QUICKLY learn how to chart and maximize the potential for pregnancy. I’ve learned NFP both through CCLI, and through TCOYF, the TCOYF is simpler and easier. TCOYF is secular, and it does mention that if you are trying to avoid pregnancy, an option is to use barriers during the fertile time, which is obviously NOT a Catholic option, but if you ignore this, it’s a very good resource.

Another book that may be helpful is Fertilty, nutrition and cycles which can give you some good information about the affect of nutrition/supplements to improve your cycles. For instance, B6 helps many women improve the quality and quantity (which can be problematic as you age) of cervical fluid which can increase chances of conception. It can also increase the length of your luteal phase, which is helpful if you have a LP that may be too short to support implantation. B6 has a dramatic effect on my cycles.

Best of luck to you and your husband!
 
I’m not Catholic, but I had a set of twins and then a singleton in my 40s, all conceived without difficulty. I suspect I’m still quite fertile, if my cycles are any indicator. My husband was 47 when the youngest was born.

Are you having trouble, or are you just thinking ahead?

Best wishes to you both!
 
Hi Miranda.

Yes. My mother did.🙂 I was conceived when my mom was in her forties. I have also conceived children in my forties, (resulting in both live birth and also miscarriage.)

If you are concerned about your fertility, I suggest you learn Natural Family Planning. NFP can teach you to recognize your most fertile times. It’s not just for avoiding pregnancy–it can also be used to help conceive. If you have any problems concieving, a Catholic NFP-only doctor would likely be far more likely to help you work within the Church guidelines on sexuality than a “fertility specialist”.

May God bless you and your husband!
 
My co-worker who is 43 tried to conveive for 10 years but was unsuccessful so she decided to adopt a 4 year old girl a year ago. Now to her surprise , she is pregnant for the very first time
 
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My co-worker who is 43 tried to conveive for 10 years but was unsuccessful so she decided to adopt a 4 year old girl a year ago. Now to her surprise , she is pregnant for the very first time
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God knew she was to be the mother of that 4 yr old! If she had conceived prior, she probably would not have adopted.
 
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God knew she was to be the mother of that 4 yr old! If she had conceived prior, she probably would not have adopted.
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Correct !!! Despite the fact that she tried and couldnt have a baby for 10 years, she never blamed God rather she accepted his will and moved on with her life. Right now she is 4 months pregnant. It truly is a miracle and God has rewarded her for her faithfullness.
 
I had a baby at 41. My sister did too, and my cousin had two in her forties.
 
My husband and I married within the last 7 months and I am currently in my 4th month of pregnancy. I am 41 and he is 49. Like you, I have no previous children or pregnancies so I did not know if I would be able to get pregnant. I prayed and asked God’s will be done. I completely agree with the previous poster who said to learn your cycles, etc. Then pray!

I am overjoyed with this baby and hope you and your husband can experience the same joy.
 
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