Need courting advice!

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Thanks a bunch guys, I really appreciate it. We did go to mass yesterday and it was great cause the Bishop was there! She saw how excited I was being a new Catholic and all to see the successor of the apostles in person and talk with him. We’re gonna do the friend thing for now and see how it pans out.
 
How about going to an adoration chapel and spending a holy hour? Doesn’t cost a thing.

Now for the controversial part. A priest friend who I respect dearly put it this way about dating. You shouldn’t date unless you are ready to consider marriage. In other words, if you don’t consider marriage as something you are ready for, it is unwise and potentially destructive to date someone, especially for an extended period of time. You can raise some unrealistic expectations in the other person, invite occasion for serious sin, and if nothing else make that person unavailable to find someone they are truly compatible with. The strong emotions of physical attraction can also cloud our judgement as well. This is why there is wisdom in becoming friends first, without the understanding of “going steady”. If you stay a faithful man of God, you will undoubtedly become more attractive to her. Not to put too fine a point on it, but faithful college-aged men are a rare breed. She probably considers you a “diamond-in-the-rough” as well.

There is no sense in prolonging things unneccessarily. The extended dating relationships of today are a fruit of the lack of understanding of what dating is about and of premarital intercourse and cohabitation. Marriage is delayed because it isn’t seen as essentially altering the relationship. If you don’t know whether someone is “The One” after 1 year of courting, then they aren’t “The One”. FYI, my wife was a freshman when we met and started dating, so that shouldn’t be a hinderance per se. If she is not serious about finding a husband, that WOULD be a hinderance. Good luck!👍
 
nucatholic, I am from Oklahoma and I know they have a wonderful Catholic Community on Campus. They have events all the time and you do not have to be catholic to go to them. Look up the Newman Center in your college directory. The events hosted by them are usually free. which is awesome. Hopes this helps and good luck to you. Take it slow and easy and just be yourself.
 
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