Need God's Help and Guidance from this addiction

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And this still has me stumped. A surgeon leaving the patient during surgery - to text/call. He would have to scrub up again to go back in to continue the surgery. The liability to the patient, the hospital, and the surgeon. It’s like a lawsuit waiting to happen.
 
Won’t your boyfriend find you if you are at work today?
But I am confused, you said you were going to the shelter today since it’s the only day it’s open.

Please, explain how you are “addicted” to your boyfriend that has broken your finger, has been married twice (still awaiting your answer about his annulments) has no job (where is he everyday including today if he is not at work?) and is manipulative and controlling and forcing you to support him, but you are willing to give up your own child? Who does that? Every mother I know would do **anything, whatever it takes **to see their child and be with them. But not you. You want to give up your son to your ex, to be with this loser.

But you are trying so hard.
 
Walking_Home said:
And this still has me stumped. A surgeon leaving the patient during surgery - to text/call. He would have to scrub up again to go back in to continue the surgery. The liability to the patient, the hospital, and the surgeon. It’s like a lawsuit waiting to happen.
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Yeah, and the hospital didn’t renew his contract, so there are no other hospitals? No doctor I know is going to just say "oh well, I guess I can’t work anymore. They don’t give up the $ that easily…not after going to college for 4 years, medical school for 4 years and at least 6 years of residency. 🤷 “oh well, guess my girlfriend can support me. She can pay my child support too.”

:rolleyes:Yeah, right.
 
needguidance99 said:
I’m trying to change that. I feel like an addict though – I can’t even think straight. no more texts every few minutes – no more contact from him. No more – anything. It’s bizarre but I feel like i’m a fish out of water.
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Do you really think anyone has sympathy for that? :eek:
 
Actually because he had a criminal charge on his record no other hospitals have been willing to hire him a salary. Instead they only offer him credentialS and he went into private practice.

He has been offered other jobs out of the area but he refuses to leave. His family is there and he says he won’t leave his parents (who have a lot of money).
Irishmom2 said:
Yeah, and the hospital didn’t renew his contract, so there are no other hospitals? No doctor I know is going to just say "oh well, I guess I can’t work anymore. They don’t give up the $ that easily…not after going to college for 4 years, medical school for 4 years and at least 6 years of residency. 🤷 “oh well, guess my girlfriend can support me. She can pay my child support too.”

:rolleyes:Yeah, right.
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needguidance99 said:
Actually because he had a criminal charge on his record no other hospitals have been willing to hire him a salary. Instead they only offer him credentialS and he went into private practice.

He has been offered other jobs out of the area but he refuses to leave. His family is there and he says he won’t leave his parents (who have a lot of money).
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Well there you go.
 
needguidance99 said:
Yes but I have been staying with a friend of mine. I went to see if I could get a support group. And my girlfriend took me there. So yes. I did.
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I pray that the friend you’re staying with is a she and not a he. And you never mentioned how you met him or where.

Every poster told you this is a match made in Hades. Or you want to write the next Netflix thriller mini-series.

Threads like this can discredit a lot of legitimate threats from abused women. Please keep this in mind.
 
My friend is a woman! I reached out to her yesterday and confided in her about my relationship. Not easy because she thought he was such a catch! She didn’t know what I’ve described of course.

And this is my life! Not Netflix. I mentioned my mom has nothing to do with me these days and she is devout catholic. My therapist who is a Christian counselor and catholic calls her a hypocrite.

So I ask for supper here. I am doing everything I can to stay strong.
 
needguidance99 said:
Yes but I have been staying with a friend of mine. I went to see if I could get a support group. And my girlfriend took me there. So yes. I did.
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Was the shelter able to put you in a support group so you can be with others battling this same issue of domestic violence and emotional abuse?

Mary.
 
And he has not come after me at all anymore. In fact his social media shoes he is out partying with his best friend.

He posted quotes about closing doors That hold you back. Painful since all I was doing was helping him!
 
needguidance99 said:
I mentioned my mom has nothing to do with me these days and she is devout catholic. My therapist who is a Christian counselor and catholic calls her a hypocrite.
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So now you are going to throw your mom under the bus. If my “child” left my grandchild to go be with a negative valued man that physically and mentally abused them, I would probably feel the way your mom does too. I am sure that she gave you plenty of Catholic based advice that you disregarded so you could go off to be with Dr. StrangeLove. On the contrary, your mom, as a devout Catholic, probably said things you didn’t want to hear because you know she was following the laws of her faith, and you have not.

Your.counselor who is “Christian and catholic” (whatever that means) is not very respectful of your mother’s beliefs. I suppose she feels that as a mother she should love you so unconditionally that she supports you in all of the damaging decisions you seem to make?
 
Your mom, I doubt, was a hypocrite. She was probably triying to avoid the drama and hurt of rational suggestions.

You said you found out he is partying with a friend? This doesn’t sound like a man who cares about his actions or what he did to you. Why are you checking up on him?
 
Irishmom2 said:
So now you are going to throw your mom under the bus. If my “child” left my grandchild to go be with a negative valued man that physically and mentally abused them, I would probably feel the way your mom does too. I am sure that she gave you plenty of Catholic based advice that you disregarded so you could go off to be with Dr. StrangeLove. On the contrary, your mom, as a devout Catholic, probably said things you didn’t want to hear because you know dhe was following the laws of her faith, and you have not.

Your.counselor who is “Christian and catholic” (whatever that means) is not very respectful of your mother’s beliefs. I suppose she feels that as a mother she should love you so unconditionally that she supports you in all of the damaging decisions you seem to make?
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I think our posts crossed, but I completely agree. We chose the same path of tough love. Christ never said to stay in a place that does not welcome you. He said we should wipe the dust off our sandals and move on to those that support us.
 
Block him on Facebook. Block him on your phone.

DOES he know where your friend lives?

Given you are on Facebook, there is a group that can be a great support. But you must block him.

Are you going into work? How far is work from his house?

He will hav had criminal charges before he met you then, given his contract was not renewed before he met you.

Ask the police what those are when you get your no stalking order

I am sitting in church 🙏 For you.
 
Sadly, I no longer know fact from fiction. All practical advice is falling on deaf ears.

OP, I think you dignity as a person is worth so much more than you are getting from Dr. WhoEver. But if you truly feel you can save him from himself, I wish you all the best.
 
Yes, I have been going into work and trying to keep forward motion.

He doesn’t know EXACTLY where my friend lives–
and I honestly think he’s done with me again. I left. He said if I ever left again – that he would never speak to me again.

He’s done with me. He knows that I’ve been a mess for awhile, I suppose.

And now I am back in my son’s city and that is where my main company’s home base is. So, I’ve been going into the office this week.

Before, I have been working remotely a lot to be near my ex fiance. So we are now hours apart.
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Block him on Facebook. Block him on your phone.

DOES he know where your friend lives?

Given you are on Facebook, there is a group that can be a great support. But you must block him.

Are you going into work? How far is work from his house?

He will hav had criminal charges before he met you then, given his contract was not renewed before he met you.

Ask the police what those are when you get your no stalking order

I am sitting in church 🙏 For you.
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Please stop blaming yourself. You are not a mess. You took the first good steps for you. You are done with him. Not the other way around. Stop giving him permission to run your life.

Been to Mass or Confession yet?
 
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