Need help forgiving my husband!

[EasterJoy]

I think the explanation might have sounded plausible if he did not have a history of disposing of books and other possessions belong to the OP and to the children. I really do wonder if he assumes all material objects in the home are within his control.

Of course, I could be projecting based on my own past ./…

There is a mindset that even occurs among roommates who borrow without asking: What’s mine is mine, and what’s yours is mine, too. You don’t have to be a certified control freak to have a self-centered view of the world that often fails to consult conscience or take the feelings of others into consideration. In other words, I mean that the OPs husband might be violating a conscience that he kept dormant while doing this deed, while you’re describing someone who would find this act no violation of conscience at all.

The point is that while you may be right, the OP is still bound to avoid rash judgment. It is true that there gets to be a point where a story strains belief, if one is fully acquainted with the situation, even if one takes the most charitable take that reason allows. The need to avoid rash judgment does not mean one is forced into false gullibility. There is a line, yes, and the OP may see what you are suggesting in her own situation. There are other possibilities, but yes, knowing what she knows, you may be right on the mark.

 

[AnnArbor]

There is a mindset that even occurs among roommates who borrow without asking: What’s mine is mine, and what’s yours is mine, too. You don’t have to be a certified control freak to have a self-centered view of the world that often fails to consult conscience or take the feelings of others into consideration. In other words, I mean that the OPs husband might be violating a conscience that he kept dormant while doing this deed, while you’re describing someone who would find this act no violation of conscience at all.

The point is that while you may be right, the OP is still bound to avoid rash judgment. It is true that there gets to be a point where a story strains belief, if one is fully acquainted with the situation, even if one takes the most charitable take that reason allows. The need to avoid rash judgment does not mean one is forced into false gullibility. There is a line, yes, and the OP may see what you are suggesting in her own situation. There are other possibilities, but yes, knowing what she knows, you may be right on the mark.

Agreed – although I do think there is a slight difference between borrowing without permission and taking possessions to sell them without permission.

 

[EasterJoy]

Agreed – although I do think there is a slight difference between borrowing without permission and taking possessions to sell them without permission.

I’m thinking more of roommates who help themselves to food and disposable items and never replace them or who “borrow” tools or personal items and never bring them back or who move out with your stuff in their baggage, but yes–selling the items rather than simply failing to return or replace them goes to an entirely different level!