Need Help in Defending Marriage

[lucybeebee]

How do I defend marriage versus cohabitation from a secular perspective? There is a guy at work who is living with his girlfriend and her two children. He has said that he want to have five children with five “baby mommas” and that he has no intentions of getting married because his girlfriend would lose the welfare benefits. Religious approaches don’t seem to help (since “anything man creates, man can change”), even though he claims to be a “Christian.” Is there any way I could get though to him?

 

[FCEGM]

How do I defend marriage versus cohabitation from a secular perspective? There is a guy at work who is living with his girlfriend and her two children. He has said that he want to have five children with five “baby mommas” and that he has no intentions of getting married because his girlfriend would lose the welfare benefits. Religious approaches don’t seem to help (since “anything man creates, man can change”), even though he claims to be a “Christian.” Is there any way I could get though to him?

You might point out to him that his plans reflect a vision of himself not as a man but as a stud. If he is a Christian he should have a greater respect for himself and for women than to go around pro-creating rather than creating the family that children need to give them love and security, especially with a good father as their role-model.

 

[StCsDavid]

How do I defend marriage versus cohabitation from a secular perspective? There is a guy at work who is living with his girlfriend and her two children. He has said that he want to have five children with five “baby mommas” and that he has no intentions of getting married because his girlfriend would lose the welfare benefits. Religious approaches don’t seem to help (since “anything man creates, man can change”), even though he claims to be a “Christian.” Is there any way I could get though to him?

So his girlfriend doesn’t want to get married out of fear of losing Welfare benefits…so in essence, he’s perfectly okay with you, as a taxpayer, paying to support his kids? Why do we have to pay for his kids? Ask him if he would still support the kids if his girlfriend quit having sex with him? You have a morally bankrupt individual on your hands, and I’m afraid only a Damascus conversion experience will get through to him. Pray for his conversion. That’s really the best you can do.

 

[gardenswithkids]

How do I defend marriage versus cohabitation from a secular perspective? There is a guy at work who is living with his girlfriend and her two children. He has said that he want to have five children with five “baby mommas” and that he has no intentions of getting married because his girlfriend would lose the welfare benefits. Religious approaches don’t seem to help (since “anything man creates, man can change”), even though he claims to be a “Christian.” Is there any way I could get though to him?

His view of marriage isn’t the only problem–it’s his view of fatherhood. I’d bet your co-worker didn’t have an active, loving father in his life, so he doesn’t really understand what it is that he’d deny his chidren if he had 5 babies with 5 different mothers.

From the secular point of view, children without active fathers are much more likely to live in poverty (note the welfare girlfriend) and also are more likely to end up in jail. From a Christian perspective, Jesus taught us to call God, “Our Father”. Man did not create fatherhood–God created it when He created man in His image.

The government may help the poor financially, but “Uncle Sam” can’t be a father. It takes a man to be a father, and while your co-worker may be male, he is not yet a man. Until your co-worker understands fatherhood, it’s unlikely he will understand marriage. Marriage is a relationship between a man and a woman. For the sake of his future children, I hope he learns to be a man so he can be a father who images our heavenly Father.

 

[gardenswithkids]

His view of marriage isn’t the only problem–it’s his view of fatherhood. I’d bet your co-worker didn’t have an active, loving father in his life, so he doesn’t really understand what it is that he’d deny his chidren if he had 5 babies with 5 different mothers.

From the secular point of view, children without active fathers are much more likely to live in poverty (note the girlfriend on welfare) and also are more likely to end up in jail. From a Christian perspective, Jesus taught us to call God, “Our Father”. Man did not create fatherhood–God created it when He created man in His image.

The government may help the poor financially, but “Uncle Sam” can’t be a father. It takes a man to be a father, and while your co-worker may be male, he is not yet a man. Until your co-worker understands fatherhood, it’s unlikely he will understand marriage. Marriage is a relationship between a man and a woman. For the sake of his future children, I hope he learns to be a man so he can be a father who images our heavenly Father.