Need help w/JW's!!

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I need help!! I was raised Catholic, but then strayed away from the Church for several years…make a long story short, religion was not a big part of my life & I married a man who’s mother is a JW. Which, ironically, is what brought me back to the Catholic Church. I knew the Witnesses were wrong, I just didn’t know about what exactly - so my husband told me to prove it to him. Well all that research I did on them, is what brought me to realize that one True faith 🙂 My husband is not a practicing JW, however, he believes WHATEVER his mother tells him - JW’s are the only ones “in the truth” :rolleyes:
I’ve read the book by Jason Everett on Answering Jehovah’s Witnesses & done all kinds of research work to try to get my husband to see the real truth behind the WBTS, but to no avail. So I thought I’d try w/his mother…that’s where my problem is. For some reason she has a very negative attitude against the Catholic Church. When I was trying to ask her how JW can be the one true religion when it was started by a random man in the 1800’s & the Catholic Church has had an unbroken succession since Peter - her response “Oh that’s not true, they’re just making that up.” Just to give a small piece of what I’m dealing with. I need help on how to try to get through to her and my husband; or at least just my husband. I want them to see the same proofs I’ve found for the Church but how to do it in a way that does not seem biased? If that is even possible or makes any sense. I want us to all attend church together (we have 3 children) & I want my childred & husband to be baptized, etc. - all of the beautiful things the church has to offer, but how??? Any suggestions would be WONDERFUL!!!
 
Well, I wish you success but don’t get your hopes up.
Having “studied” with the jws and known many personally, I don’t think you can get them to believe anything no matter what you do, say or explain. They have been convinced that the wt is their source of infallible info .
Pray for DH and his mother but let the rest up to God. You can refute their beliefs in a calm manner but only the Holy Spirit can make a dent in them.
My DH is an agnostic and we’ve been together 16 years with no change in him. I just pray for him and go my merry Catholic way.
I would love for him to see God’s light and go to Mass with me but I cannot force it.
If it is meant to be, it will be.
 
I have to agree with catsrus. As a former JW, I can tell you that when I was active there wasn’t much you could’ve said that would’ve made me think that the JW’s were wrong… my mind was made up (brainwashed) and I was 100% certain that I had the “truth.” I say forget about your Mother in law… if she is attending meetings & going out in service, you’re never going to get through to her with words. And by the way… of all religions, she is taught that the Catholic Church is the WORST. 😦

Your husband may be different though… if he isn’t active. My suggestion would be for YOU to be the best Christian possible. You should go to mass and take your children. Get them baptized… instruct them in the Faith… and pray pray pray for the Holy Spirit to open your husband’s eyes. Perhaps you could leave some anti-witness apologetic type material in the house… maybe he will get curious and read it? I wouldn’t push though.

I will pray for your family.
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This is a tough one. Many JW’s are raised to hate the Catholic Church. It won’t matter what you say or what evidence you can present. You will need lots of patience and prayer. As was said, leave the materials around and be a good Catholic yourself. If it comes up calmly correct their misconceptions. As one prof of mine said “paint a leaf”. It all starts one leaf at a time.
 
I was in almost the exact same situation as you are! My
ex husband was never baptized, but his parents are jw’s
and my family is Catholic. I tried to get along with his parents, and it never went well. I even went so far as to
become one of them ( not because I wanted to from the
heart, but because I wanted them to accept me, and like me ) and that made no difference whatsoever. Even
the fact that I was a very good witness never even phased on them. The thing I can tell you is from personal experience in that type of situation especially with your husband, he likely wont change his attitude.
My ex didn’t. He refused to believe anything good about our faith, and he never stood up for me when he should have. Iam not saying yours will or wont, it is a different kettle of fish. But for the mother in law, She has to see it on her own. jw’s are very stubborn people, especially if they are very heavily indoctrinated like my ex inlaws are. The way you can set an example for your husband to follow, is live up to your faith the best way you can. Maybe by your example, he will be “won over without a word”. It is possible. Sometimes, when in this situation, as it was for me, it is like beating a dead horse. No matter how much I tried to get them to accept me, forget it. I should never have become one of them. I regret it believe me. your situation is somewhat similar. In mine, I never thought to investigate whether what they were telling me was the truth or not. I never even thought to do so! I wished I had! My mom told me not to get involved with them, and honestly, I wished I had listened to her! Regarding your mother in law, your living up to your faith
and your example you set might help her see the WTB&TS for what it really is, the falsetower. They are not so easily converted. The brainwashing is very deeply set in, and it is hard to counter act it. Faith, example, and respect and kindess go along way. But, so does arming yourself with knowledge about what they teach. The more information you have, the better.
you have done that so far by reading the book, “Answering Jehovah’s Witnesses” by Jason Evert.
Your knowlewdge, and your example might pave the
way to a few conversions. Trust in Jesus. and keep praying to Him for their conversion. but also, don’t let
yourself get swayed by them. It is easy to do. Stick to your guns. Iam not saying their conversion is not possible, but it will take a great deal of prayer and patience on your part. Best wishes to you! you can pm me anytime. God bless you!
 
This is one main reason we should never marry outside of our own faith. Long before I became catholic, I met and married my ex. Thing was, he was penticostal and I wasn’t. That and the basic facts that as far as he was concerned I was married and he wasn’t. He was into porno big time. And alot of other stuff besides. But the major force behind it all was our different beliefs.
 
Thanks so much to everyone for all of your kind words & suggestions!!! I think what I need to do is just keep praying about it!! I’ve tried the anti-Witness material stuff & my husband was starting to believe me until his mother told him none of it was true & that I got misinformation b/c most of the stuff I found off the internet. And it’s amazing that every question I try to ask her, she completely avoids & changes to another question or quotes some random Bible verse that doesn’t even pertain to the discussion. Oh well, I don’t want to give up on her & my little brother in law. I decided to try instead of showing my husband everything that was wrong w/the Watchtower, that I would show him everything that was RIGHT w/the Catholic Church. I guess I just have to be patient & not expect them to just open their eyes & convert overnight!! 🙂 Thanks again everyone!!
 
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