Need prayer

[AlaAnnie]

The day has arrived that I must make a decision about continuing in my marriage. Well, actually, that would be better stated that “we have to decide about our marriage”. Our 5th anniversary is Friday. It’s been a tough 5 yrs. In December, I filed for divorce. In February, we started Retrouvaille. Retro helped, but has not gotten us where I hoped we would be. I’m still not in a place where I want to stay with him as we currently are. And, neither is he. I’ve been stalling my attorney. Today, I got word from him that I need to make a decision to proceed or the judge will dismiss it soon. I had already decided that husband and I need to have a “decision” talk tonight. So, I’m here asking all of you to please pray for God to lead us down the right path here. I’m scared to death.
Thank you.

 

[Della]

I sent your prayer request to the Carmelite Sisters of Sacred Heart Monastery in Hudson, WI.

I’m assuming you two have talked to your priest about your marriage difficulties? Have you tried marriage counseling? Do either of you have unrealistic expectations of what marriage is supposed to be? I also assume you’ve asked yourselves these questions.

I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers today. God bless you and your husband as you decide what is best for you and your family.

 

[bekahlou]

Do you guys have children? My prayers are with you.

 

[mariam1976]

AlaAnnie - I dont know what to tell you except that I will pray that the Holy Spirit will guide you through the process and I hope the Holy Spirit convinces him about what is right…

God bless you my dear and stay strong…

 

[AlaAnnie]

Thank you all. To answer some of the questions - we have been in couples counseling and individual counseling for most of our married life. We have both been married before. I was a widow. And, he was divorced. I have two children from my first marriage. He has none. We are in our mid-40s. So, we both know a little about life. Although, the older I get, the more convinced I become that I was smarter at 20.

 

[nana3]

Tomorrow I will be going to Holy Hour after Mass and will remember you and your husband in my prayers before Jesus. I do not know your whole situation, but I too had a tough first 5 years of marriage with my husband. In fact, I wanted a divorce almost monthly. It was living hell sometimes and I cried a lot and we fought all the time. After some counseling and individual counseling for him and medication, we are much happier now. We do have a beautiful 7 yr old daughter and have been married for 8 years. It will be 9 years in August. My dh listens to Steve Wood a lot and his CD’s have helped him to become a better husband and father. I do believe what Steve says is true about if bad marriages stick it out, they become good marriages. I don’t know what your reasons are for a divorce, nor am I looking for an answer, but really pray about whether it is possible to stay married.

I will pray for you and that the Holy Spirit will inspire you to help you decide, but please don’t hurry a decision based on what the judge may do about your case. You could always file again if you need to. I am so glad that I didn’t file and did just stick it out, for we are happier now than when we first married. We still need to work on things, but we are not so unhappy as we both were once.

 

[dulcissima]

I’ll be praying for you. Do you think he just wasn’t ready to have kids? I know it can be a big adjustment if you’ve been a bachelor for a long time. I know it is hard to know what to do, when you’d like to have hope but are finding none.