Need prayers to get over grief

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Hi, I’m a 19 year old who lost his mom almost 5 years ago. It will be 5 years the 25th of November. Each year I get more and more depressed and it gets harder to cope with the lose of my mom. Everyday, I face it and it keeps getting worse. I stopped turning to therapist cause it just don’t seem to help my cause anymore. I don’t know where to run to but God. I sit and listen everyday to see if he has something to say to me but I don’t hear him. At times I think I can feel my moms presence near me and it’s like my problems are all gone. And it seems like death is always on my mind. It’s not like I’m contemplating on suicide, cause I’m not, but I just feel more and more okay with the thought that if I die, I’m okay with it. Is this normal? I guess I’m just one big mess.
 
You’re not a mess Tomo. It’s hard to lose your Mom.
If anyone loves you without question, it is one’s mother. You miss that.
You were only around 14 when you lost her and it is hard not to have your mom around in these years.
I lost my mother when I was eighteen but I had several brothers and sister younger than me. The youngest was four.
It’s not easy to get over and leaves a big gap in your family and life.
Five years isn’t very long. The teens are vulnerable years where if anyone is going to understand you it will be your loving Mom.
So don’t be too hard on yourself.

Of course you feel very flat. I remember watching a truck side-swiping the bus I was travelling in, months after my mother died. Glass fell into my lap. I felt nothing, no fear or alarm. The bus driver asked us to get off the bus. I simply brushed off the glass from my clothes and walked off. It meant nothing to me.

I was one of the eldest so I was helping Dad and the kids all I could. And I cried for them. But it was a few years before I cried for three days because I had lost my mother. Grief takes time. I still think of my mother so very often.
Try to have and interest in things especially being kind in little ways to others.
Please don’t hope and wait for signs. That seldom happens. Honor your Mom by living and valuing the life you have thanks to your Mom.

I ask God to help you begin to heal and to flourish, and to help you find people who care for you and you in return, so that life is more wholesome for you.
I’m sorry you are suffering Tomo, but I do understand.
 
Hail Mary, full of grace,
the Lord is with you;
blessed are you among women,
and blessed is the fruit of your womb, Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God,
pray for us sinners,
now and at the hour of our death.
Amen.
 
It’s not that unusual for someone to grieve the ones they love. I know people who have been grieving for over twenty years. Knowing that we have a family in heaven (the saints) has helped me through morning and I think that it can help you too.

I’m praying for you Tomo …
 
Tomo, I am so sorry for your loss. My mom is gone four years this November, and I am considerably older than you are. However, that doesn’t change the fact that I miss her all the time. Trishie is right; nobody loves us like our mothers. Please know that your mom is still with you in many ways. Let yourself grieve for your mom. There is no specific time that you should finish this process, so just pray all that you can and I will pray for you.

Heavenly Father, please heal Tomo’s pain and suffering. Hold Tomo’s mother in the palm of Your hand. Let the Holy Spirit be here to guide and show Your compassion and love for all of us here who carry on in trying to do Your will. Even in times of sorrow, I praise You, Lord, for all the times that You carry me and Tomo. I ask that Tomo’s angels be around him now in this most difficult time. I ask all this in the name of Your most precious son, Jesus.

Peace,
Trinity
 
Holy Mother Mary please be with Tomo each day. Embrace him with your love and compassion. Please ease his mind and soul. Grant him peace and ease his suffering while he still mourns the loss of his mother

Hail Mary, full of grace.
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit of thy womb,
Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God,
pray for us sinners,
now and at the hour of our death.
Amen.
 
Hail Mary, full of grace,
the Lord is with thee;
blessed art thou amongst women,
and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God,
pray for us sinners,
now and at the hour of our death.
Amen.
 
Praying for you, Tomo, that Our Lord may comfort you with His loving presence. May Our Lady, our spiritual Mother, give you the strength you need to get through this trial; may she always be with you!

Jesus, King of Mercy. We trust in your protective love for Tomo.

We take refuge under thy protection, holy Mother of God; do not despise our prayers in time of necessity, but always free us from all dangers, o blessed and glorious Virgin. Amen.
 
Hail Mary, full of grace.
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit of thy womb,
Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God,
pray for us sinners,
now and at the hour of our death.
Amen.
 
PATER NOSTER,
qui es in caelis,
sanctificetur nomen tuum.
Adveniat regnum tuum.
Fiat voluntas tua, sicut in caelo et in terra.
Panem nostrum quotidianum da nobis hodie,
et dimitte nobis debita nostra
sicut et nos dimittimus debitoribus nostris.
Et ne nos inducas in tentationem,
sed libera nos a malo. Amen.
 
Hail Mary, full of grace,
the Lord is with thee;
blessed art thou amongst women,
and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God,
pray for us sinners,
now and at the hour of our death.
Amen.
 
Hail Mary, full of grace.
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit of thy womb,
Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God,
pray for us sinners,
now and at the hour of our death.
Amen.
 
Tomo_Alejandro said:
Hi, I’m a 19 year old who lost his mom almost 5 years ago. It will be 5 years the 25th of November. Each year I get more and more depressed and it gets harder to cope with the lose of my mom. Everyday, I face it and it keeps getting worse. I stopped turning to therapist cause it just don’t seem to help my cause anymore. I don’t know where to run to but God. I sit and listen everyday to see if he has something to say to me but I don’t hear him. At times I think I can feel my moms presence near me and it’s like my problems are all gone. And it seems like death is always on my mind. It’s not like I’m contemplating on suicide, cause I’m not, but I just feel more and more okay with the thought that if I die, I’m okay with it. Is this normal? I guess I’m just one big mess.
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I am sorry for the loss of your mom. I lost my dad when I was 18 and my mom when I was 24. It is not easy. We feel our parents precence because we want them by our side. You lost your mom when you were very young. Since I have become a Catholic, I can tell you that you can cling to our Blessed Mother Mary, she is our spiritual mother. She will wrap her mantle around you and protect you. Pray to her when you are sad. You can also ask your own mother to pray for you.

Hail Mary, full of grace,
the Lord is with you;
blessed are you among women,
and blessed is the fruit of your womb, Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God,
pray for us sinners,
now and at the hour of our death.
Amen.
 
Hail Mary, full of grace,
the Lord is with thee;
blessed art thou amongst women,
and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God,
pray for us sinners,
now and at the hour of our death.
Amen.
 
Tomo I am so sorry for your loss and for the grieving you are suffering.As others have said it is the most painful thing because your security of love you get from your mother has been taken away.Pray for her and I know she will be praying and watching over you.Get in contact with bereavement groups who you may be able to meet others in similar situations to you.By the way I was 35 when I lost my Dad.That was 14 yrs ago.I miss him every day.He gave me unconditional love.You will be honouring your mother by remebering her living the morals and standards she instilled in you.Go make friends at a breavement group you will be surpirsed how many others feel exactly like you.You can help each other.I used to keep a diary and write down my feelings.On the anniversary I would read and have a good cry about all the wonderful sentimental memories.God bless you you are in my prayers

Our Lady I ask your intercession for our friend Tomo who mourns the loss fo his mother that he may be comforted

Memorare (Prayer to Our Lady)
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me. Amen
 
Hail Mary, full of grace,
the Lord is with thee;
blessed art thou amongst women,
and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God,
pray for us sinners,
now and at the hour of our death.
Amen.
 
Memorare (Prayer to Our Lady)
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me. Amen
 
Hail Mary, full of grace,
the Lord is with thee;
blessed art thou amongst women,
and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God,
pray for us sinners,
now and at the hour of our death.
Amen.
 
Memorare (Prayer to Our Lady)
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me. Amen
 
Hail Mary, full of grace,
the Lord is with thee;
blessed art thou amongst women,
and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God,
pray for us sinners,
now and at the hour of our death.
Amen.
 
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