Sweetie, there is no bell that is going to dong and if you haven’t found a partner by then you walk the plank.
You are looking at this all wrong.
You are a pearl of great price and the apple of God’s eye. You have great value. Don’t be so quick to give yourself away. Make sure you only give your life to someone worthy.
Don’t EVER settle!
You have plenty of time. This is YOUR time to find jobs and a career you like. Through that you will meet people who will widen your life to the point the old school chums will be irrelevant.
This is YOUR time to discover who YOU are as an adult so when you do meet someone of value, it will be as equals. You won’t be someone timid and vulnerable (or seeming so) that someone might take advantage of.
Be happy for the guy who left you and the girl he’s with. She took a problem off your hands. If he wasn’t a keeper, you don’t want him. He may be for her, not for you. Pray that God will lead you to the right person.
After college you may find the field of good Catholic men a little limited at first. Go to church and be a good Catholic woman. Eventually they come looking for that. But often good Catholic men just out of college are trying to establish careers. Because they are being good and dependable they are trying to establish themselves in lives that will enable them to raise a family someday. You’ll find guys like that at work. And at church.
Please change your attitude from "I’m lonely and awkward’ to “I"m lovely and worth waiting for.” Those who marry in haste repent at leisure.
It’s a cruel time for young people… the whole ark mentality. And if you don’t have someone to walk up the plank with two by two, that means something is wrong with you.
Not at all. You dont’ have to take the first person who comes along. It’s not a race. Enjoy this time to be YOU and earn some money, spend a little on yourself. Become more independent. Blossom where you are. And when you think people pity you because the guy you like left, don’t be sad or bitter. Smile and say “well, I’m still available if you know anyone who is looking for a nice Catholic girl.” The nice thing about people is they love matchmaking. You never know some girl may have an older brother and she’ll be happy to introduce you, but only because you’re someone she thinks is worthy. (I"ve been known to do that and one of my siblings introduced another to their future spouse.)
When people walk on by in your life, thank them. Wish them well. And pray that God lets you recognize the right one. HE won’t recognize you unless you have a cheerful welcoming smile on YOUR face.
The guys looking for long-term stable relationships don’t often do that right after graduation. Give yourself a few years to live life. Live it well. The rest will fall into place.
