Need realtionship advice please

[taylormcbee]

Hi, Me and my girlfriend have been together since march 12, 2011. It is going good or was until recently. we had our share of fights until we took a break back in january for a month. then things were back to normal till now. . A little back story on how we meet ,we were i ntroduced through a mutural friend and fell in love instantly i am away at school now and she is at home, we live in different towns to begin with anyway. my quesiton is sometimes her and her family talk about me and then she has a way of saying oh so and so said this about you and i ask what did they say and she refueses to tell me and it strikes me as odd. What do i do . ( by the way she is a catholic in case relgion is necessary to be brought into this although she goes to mass she can never recall what the readings or homily is on. I dont think she really cares. but i will not pass judgement.
Peace to all and thanks for your help i really need it

 

[Trishie]

Taylor, it hurts when the person you are attracted to may be less concerned about your feelings and peace than you are about her feelings.
It appears to be immature to carry on as she does, suggesting there is family gossip about you and then refusing to say what it is. If she doesn’t wish to gossip then she shouldn’t raise the question at all as that is hurtful and frustrating anyway.
You have some reason to feel that she is half-hearted about religion and somewhat half-hearted about you or she’d not wish to hurt you on a regular basis by tantalizing you regarding gossip about you.
I can’t say I’d be thrilled about my son dating her, but you have to make your own choices.

It is painful to go through relationship issues with a person you’re attracted to. When people say, ‘we fell in love immediately’ that isn’t accurate. What they mean is’we were immediately attracted to each other.’. Love isn’t the feelings so much as the actions
How you are treated and how the other person treats you in good times and bad, that’s how you can tell if both or either love each other.

I hope things resolve for the best for you.
Warm regards, and prayers,

Trishie

 

[mab23]

I don’t know how old you are, are much more than the vague details you gave

and i am no relationship expert in any means!

but my 2 cents are - most relationships have the downsides

if you feel more grief than happiness - just pack up and move on

you’ll find another

 

[chevalier]

What do you fight about?

Is there any connection between the fights and her talks with her family?

How mature does she act normally?