Need reconciliation but scared of priest

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Hello All and thank you in advance.

I am in great mortal sin. I know I am so there is no question. I had been gone from the church for a long time, returned only to struggle with the faith. I have not been to confession in 17 years, now the problem is I have left again, but need to rectify this with reconciliation, but I am scared to death of priests. So what to do, Just do it right, like Nike says. I tried, but failed and now have made the wrong choice and left. What to do?

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Hello All and thank you in advance.

I am in great mortal sin. I know I am so there is no question. I had been gone from the church for a long time, returned only to struggle with the faith. I have not been to confession in 17 years, now the problem is I have left again, but need to rectify this with reconciliation, but I am scared to death of priests. So what to do, Just do it right, like Nike says. I tried, but failed and now have made the wrong choice and left. What to do?

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If you are scared of what the priest will say to you, DON’T BE… As my priest here at the university has told me, and as MANY other priests have told me, don’t be afraid, whatever you may have to confess, your sins are not that original. That is sin’s problem… It is not original. We all sin and many of us fall in the same way as our brothers and sisters in Christ do.

Your sin necessitates that you must go to confession. For all of your sins to be forgiven, you must confess them to a priest so you may be absolved of your sins.

Please, please, please go, and you will feel God’s mercy on your soul. You will be so happy 🙂

In Him,
Tim
 
Hi Darrel:

That is a whole nother story lets just say some very bad things happened as a child.

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Hello All and thank you in advance.

I am in great mortal sin. I know I am so there is no question. I had been gone from the church for a long time, returned only to struggle with the faith. I have not been to confession in 17 years, now the problem is I have left again, but need to rectify this with reconciliation, but I am scared to death of priests. So what to do, Just do it right, like Nike says. I tried, but failed and now have made the wrong choice and left. What to do?

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PS… WELCOME BACK HOME!!! 👍
 
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Hi Darrel:

That is a whole nother story lets just say some very bad things happened as a child.

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Well, like any other fear, you have to face it to get through it, so just trust in God’s mercy, and find someplace in your area that has those big clear glass windows where you can see out and others can see in but no one can hear you. Perhaps this link will help
www.masstimes.org
I will say a prayer for you. If the Holy Spirit is calling you to repentance, just go, you will be so happy you did, and all the Angels and Saints will be so joyous. :bounce: (Ask our dear Blessed Mother and St. Pio’s intercession)
 
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Hello All and thank you in advance.

I am in great mortal sin. I know I am so there is no question. I had been gone from the church for a long time, returned only to struggle with the faith. I have not been to confession in 17 years, now the problem is I have left again, but need to rectify this with reconciliation, but I am scared to death of priests. So what to do, Just do it right, like Nike says. I tried, but failed and now have made the wrong choice and left. What to do?

scared
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It’s not hard at all to approach the Sacrament of Confession once you get used to it…It’s like a bath…I too was once embarassed but extremely frequent confession has kinda knocked it outta me…so just get in there remember that if he says anything the guy loses his only way to make ends meet and relax, you’re about to have your sins wiped off.
 
Hello:

I actually have only one choice, I live in a small rural area. I have gone, even spoke to the priest, but now I can’t even summon the courage to do that, the more I try the harder it gets.

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Hello:

I actually have only one choice, I live in a small rural area. I have gone, even spoke to the priest, but now I can’t even summon the courage to do that, the more I try the harder it gets.

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You may be able to talk to the priest and ask him if you could have confession face to face in the middle of the church, in the pews. I once had a priest who only would do confessions in the middle of the church. There were other priests who would do confessions in the confessionals, so others were not REQUIRED to go to confession in this manner, but alot of people chose to.

If you explain your issue to the priest, maybe over the phone, he should be willing to help you. Please try, as confession is a necessary and WONDERFUL sacrament!
 
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Hi Darrel:

That is a whole nother story lets just say some very bad things happened as a child.

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Sorry to hear that,

Assuming this is not the same Priest, I would perhaps tell him of your fears to start. Maybe that will help you relax and talk to him afterwards. Perhaps ask him to pray for your fears to be healed by God. I hope all goes well for you.

-D
 
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You may be able to talk to the priest and ask him if you could have confession face to face in the middle of the church, in the pews. I once had a priest who only would do confessions in the middle of the church. There were other priests who would do confessions in the confessionals, so others were not REQUIRED to go to confession in this manner, but alot of people chose to.

If you explain your issue to the priest, maybe over the phone, he should be willing to help you. Please try, as confession is a necessary and WONDERFUL sacrament!
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plus, if you don’t want to go face to face, tell him that over the phone and ask him what time you ought to be there in order to avoid that. I am sure that he will help you out any way he can.
 
I too am also scared to talk to a priest. You see I have been away from the catholic church since I was a child. I was baptized in the catholic church and recieved my first communion. That is as far as things went. I do not know much about the catholic religion, and honestly I do not know for sure if I’m really catholic. There are some things that I’m not sure if I agree with. I’m not sure what religion I am, however I am searching for God. Quite uneducated on religion.
Lately I have been having a lot of family problems. I need God. I need some help, and having trouble finding where to start. I’m very frightened.
 
Twiztedseraph said it’s not hard, once you get used to it. I go all the time and it still scares me. To me, it’s scarier than flying through thunderstorms in the mountains, at night with electrical failure. Well, maybe not that scary, but still scary.

I prepare a list using a little book that’s very similar to this…

catholic.org/frz/examen/

…then I go to confession. Many times, I will allow everyone to go on ahead of me while I pray for giving a good confession. I’m praying, but I’m stalling, too. Then, when everyone else has had their turn, and I have no more reasons to delay, I take a deep breath and enter, while shaking like a leaf. I have to have my check-list, or I’d forget my sins. Father will usually ask a few questions about this or that, and then he grants me absolution. When he places his hands on my head, and grants me absolution, the feeling of relief and joy is even more intense than the fear and intrepidation of going in. The outcome is ALWAYS good. I couldn’t imagine being without it.

For those who have been away for awhile? Today is Saturday. Don’t make up any more excuses…just go. I know it’s hard, but I’m so confident that you’ll feel relief that I’ll double your money back if you don’t.http://forums.catholic-questions.org/images/icons/icon12.gif
 
I’ve been there, too. But God is sending you an invitation through the Holy Spirit. Don’t ignore it!

I had been away for 8 years and when I returned I went to a priest that I knew well. I knew that he would be kind and gentle. One where I could easily see the face of Jesus. It didn’t take me long once we got in the confessional. I started with the big stuff, and finished up with the “every day” stuff. He did not gasp in amazement or fall out of his chair.

When I’d finally made up my mind that I was going to “just do it”, I was actually excited and looked forward to it all day. I was going to meet with Jesus - personally, one-on-one. The priest was just there because he had to be. The feeling of peace and warmth during and after absolution just has to be experienced to be understood.

You might look and see if you can find a cathedral or shrine near you that offers confessions on a frequent basis. I sometimes go to our cathedral which offers confession daily, and there is always a line of fellow sinners.

I’ve also been getting that “invitation from God” recently and need to do something about it.

Acadian
 
Ok:

For reasons I can’t speak of I am unable to go to our parish priest. For now at least. So I am going to take a 2.5 hour trip to the priest that married us. He was kind and gentle, but strong enough to give a good tongue lashing when needed. Of course if he is unavailable then it will be a wasted trip. That is the best I can do. Going to another priest will only make the situation worse.
Wish me luck and all Gods graces, I may have to encounter his wrath, which I fully deserve at this time.

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Ok:

For reasons I can’t speak of I am unable to go to our parish priest. For now at least. So I am going to take a 2.5 hour trip to the priest that married us. He was kind and gentle, but strong enough to give a good tongue lashing when needed. Of course if he is unavailable then it will be a wasted trip. That is the best I can do. Going to another priest will only make the situation worse.
Wish me luck and all Gods graces, I may have to encounter his wrath, which I fully deserve at this time.

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I’ll say a prayer for you that everything works out well today. It’s a rough thing to have to go through a confession like that - I was away from the church for 6 years and boy, did I have some STUFF to tell. He didn’t seem shocked or anything. Actually, he seemed glad that I was there and said he was happy I was making this effort to come home to the church. When I left the confessional that day, I felt like I was walking on air.

I guess given your past situation you have a harder time than the rest of us too. It’s good that you’ve found a priest you can go to. Perhaps, if you’re not able to see him today, you can make an appointment with him. I certainly hope he will be available today though, so you can get this off your chest as soon as possible.

(((hugs))) You can do it. Welcome back to the church. :clapping:
 
I know what you mean. You have to keep in mind that Jesus isn’t there to judge, He’s there to forgive. I always get a little nervous and I try to go monthly! So put your trust in Him.😉
 
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Ok:

For reasons I can’t speak of I am unable to go to our parish priest. For now at least. So I am going to take a 2.5 hour trip to the priest that married us. He was kind and gentle, but strong enough to give a good tongue lashing when needed. Of course if he is unavailable then it will be a wasted trip. That is the best I can do. Going to another priest will only make the situation worse.
Wish me luck and all Gods graces, I may have to encounter his wrath, which I fully deserve at this time.

scared
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I’m probably a little late in jumping into this and don’t have much to say on top of what has already been said. Just know that you’ll be in my prayers. Make a good confession; you’ll be glad that you did. God Bless.
 
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scared:
Hello All and thank you in advance.

I am in great mortal sin. I know I am so there is no question. I had been gone from the church for a long time, returned only to struggle with the faith. I have not been to confession in 17 years, now the problem is I have left again, but need to rectify this with reconciliation, but I am scared to death of priests. So what to do, Just do it right, like Nike says. I tried, but failed and now have made the wrong choice and left. What to do?

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No need to be scared of Priest. The Priest’s will be the first to tell you that they too sin and have to go to confession. You can do this anonomously behind the screen. There probablly isnt too much the Priest hasnt heard before. If your really uncomfortable you can also go to another Parish for the sacrament. I’ll pray for you.

Peace
 
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