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Howdy,

I’m an accountant who graduated last may and am currently working for a small town firm. My problem is that I really hate my job. I’ve had a few jobs over my life, but this one is just sucking everything out of me. At least I think it is. Everything in life that I used to enjoy seem bland to me. It seems all I do now is work, sleep, drink and go out and raise hell. I don’t build anymore, I hardly go hunting/fishing, etc and those are the things I used to enjoy the most. I used to go to church every week and loved it but I don’t have an urge to go anymore. I’ve gotten into a horrendous cycle of working in the week and parting on the weekend, and this goes on week after week. I just feel like I’m in a helpless situation and can’t get out of it.

I’m trying to get out of it but can’t seem to do anything about it. I know I need a major lifestyle change but don’t have the self control to do it. I decide I’m going to and then forget about it a day later and it’s back to doing nothing. I’ve tried praying about it but it seems I’ve lost my faith. This is becoming a huge problem because I need to change if I’m ever going to be able to follow my dreams/path which is pretty uncertain. But it’s something I think God is leading me through the people I’ve met recently and other signs. I’ve also become deathly shy. I used to be so outgoing and confident and now get embarassed at even a small bit of criticism.

It feels like I’m sinking in quicksand and there’s no way out…does anyone have and suggestions, advice, or books that can help me gain confident to get me back where I was before I started this job, emotionally, physically, and spiritually? I want a relationship with God again, but feel I have to get my life in order before I will be able to. 😦
 
I want a relationship with God again, but feel I have to get my life in order before I will be able to.
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oh this is not true!

God meets us right where we are. Just ask Him to meet you now, and surrender to HIm all your doubts, weakness, sin, worries, etc. Try going to Mass even if you don’t feel like it.

Try to understand more how much God loves you… just as you are. I’ve always liked this reflection, I hope it would encourage you:
mcpriests.com/_spanish/03_I_thirst_PrayerEN.htm

God bless :hug1:
 
I hope the “I Thirst for You” reading helped the original poster - it sure helped me 😉
 
Sea Bass,

I’ve walked in your shoes for many years, 22 to be exact (I’m 52 now). It cost me a marriage and my earlier relationship with God. It isn’t worth it. You have to work but do it with the Lord now. Force yourself to attend Mass at least once a week, begin saying the rosary daily and get involved in something at your parish. I got involved in RCIA when I came back just so I could learn more and help others. You have to have things other than work and boozing. Please believe me that what you have now could get worse. Start doing these things now while you are young and your later career days will be most fulfilling. The Lord will help you the entire way. He is giving you a sign as your recognize you are in trouble. I didn’t see it until much later. So accept that He is calling you right now. I’m not saying to quit your job. I’m saying to open your life to God. Change will come and He will give you help and advise if you pray and ask. Hang out on here and learn about your faith. The senior posters are great and have so much knowledge to give you. Listen to them. I’m a rookie but know exactly what you feel – that is why I jumped on this so fast. Start praying now, right now. One of my favorites:

MEMORARE,
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to thy protection, implored thy help, or sought thy intercession, was left unaided.

Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto thee, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To thee do I come; before thee I stand, sinful and sorrowful.
O mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in thy mercy hear and answer me. Amen

I wish you the best and may our Lord shower you with grace.
 
our lord is showing you how miserable life is without him. ask him for the graces you need right away. if you get a chance, please view fr. john corapi’s conversion story, i’m sure it will help you.

God bless,

johnco
 
It sounds like you definetely have your work cut out for you. What I would suggest, is start going to mass on Saturday evening. I found this was a great way in my younger years to fulfill my Sunday obligation, have my Saturday night out and be able to sleep in the next day

CM
 
Thanks for the help. I said a rosary and meditated on the I thirst for you and they both helped tremendously. I still have a long way to go, but I’ve already decided that I’m leaving this job at the end of busy season. I think I’m going to start running and getting back into shape which should help me regain my lost “swagger.” All in all, today is much better than yesterday as I started writing a new song for my new country band which is going to get rocking right after busy season. Believe it or not, i think that is where God is calling me to do right now. I’m hoping that this new found ambition and through the graces from God, I can escape from this place to do something I was meant to do because it sure isn’t accounting. I’ve always felt the calling towards music but never had the courage to actually go through with it. I know I won’t be able succeed without God, and I already feel more complete after one day.
 
I’m glad to hear that you’re doing better, Sea Bass. I know the transition from college to the working world can be rough. Your musical ambitions sound great - maybe you can work in the business side as well, to help musicians avoid “creative accounting” from record labels.
Anyway, best of luck to you!
 
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