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Friends, first of all sorry if my english terrible…now on i am in long distance relationship with one guy…he truly catholic so religious while i am not…he teach me to start daily pray everyday but one thing bothering me is…is it allow in catholic rule to having affair behind me include having free sex with other lady even not oftenly…is it any a light for me to continue this relationship with him even everyday i try my best to pray or rosary pray to get an answer or a light for my problem…any good advice for me? Thank you
 
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Friends, first of all sorry if my english terrible…now on i am in long distance relationship with one guy…he truly catholic so religious while i am not…he teach me to start daily pray everyday but one thing bothering me is…is it allow in catholic rule to having affair behind me include having free sex with other lady even not oftenly…is it any a light for me to continue this relationship with him even everyday i try my best to pray or rosary pray to get an answer or a light for my problem…any good advice for me? Thank you
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Are you saying that you`re now in a long distance relationship with a Catholic male and he is teaching you to pray every day. (if thats so, Its very good:)
And if I understands you correctly you have participated in lesbian actions earlier in your life?.

If that so I think it depends on what you think about it yourself? Are you a Catholic Christian, or intend to be one?

if you regret your sins and would like to follow Jesus. I`ll recommend that you visit a Catholic Church nearby and talk to a priest. He will be happy to answer any question you might have about the Catholic Faith. Just praying the Holy Rosary by yourself wouldnt solve the problems.

I hope you find the answers your looking for.
God Bless you!

Hail Mary, full of Grace,
the Lord is with thee,
Blessed art thou amongst women,
and Blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus.

Holy Mary, mother of God,
Pray for us sinners, now,
and at the hour of Our Death.

Amen

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Thanks for reply my thread.

Yes i am in relationship with catholic man while i am christian and i never been in participated into lesbian relationship…my only matter is my man attitude behind his religious thing…he still doing such manner which is i thought not good…

maybe u are right i should have talk with priest abt this…
 
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Thanks for reply my thread.

Yes i am in relationship with catholic man while i am christian and i never been in participated into lesbian relationship.
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I am so sorry I misunderstood what you ment 😦 Did you mean that he cheated on you with another girl?

If thats so it against the Catholic faith to do so.
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my only matter is my man attitude behind his religious thing…he still doing such manner which is i thought not good…
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His attitude behind his religious thing? what do you mean about that?
Is it his Catholic Faith you dont like? or is it as mentioned above that he cheates?
if so the cheating has NOTHING to do with his faith. its considered to be a sin.

But if it is his faith that bothers you, my advise is to either og to RCIA to learn more about catholisicm (you dont have to convert) or to find another guy who you have more in common with.

If you dont mind that I ask, what kind of Christianity do you belong to?

God Bless you!
 
Thats alright…not a problem abt ur misunderstood.

I’m born as a christian protestant but as my man teach me daily pray as a catholic…i am happy to learn more about catholic.

Actually i am dissapointed of him as he is so religious but he also still like cheating…its against the catholic faith isnt it?

Maybe u were right i should move on and leave him but i do care alot of him…
 
Let us see what we can do for you.

You have a relationship with a Catholic man who live far avay and you don’t see him often? So far it is OK. That is not a sin.
He admit to have sex with other girls to you?
That is a sin but you do not sin, he do the sin.
You pray the Rosary because you think it will help you?
It will help, but it is not a “magic amulet” and you will not get a answer to your problems using a Rosary, but keep on praying, that is good and make you feel good.
You want a advice what you shall do?
I say that the relationship you have with this man will not last, and I don’t think it has a future, love is not always enough, and if he have “free sex” with other girls he is not faithfull and you should not marry him.
If I did understand your question right you also think you have done a sin? If I did get it right and you told the truth you have not done any sinful things. I do urge you to talk to a priest who speak your native language, your English is not bad, and I understand almost everything, but to be safe, ask for a advice in your own language.
 
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I’m born as a christian protestant but as my man teach me daily pray as a catholic…i am happy to learn more about catholic.
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I am so glad to hear that. I grew up in a protestant Family myself and are now on my way into the Catholic Church. You should really join the RCIA. There you will learn so much about the faith. Its very interesting:) Its a very exciting yourney indeed.
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Actually i am dissapointed of him as he is so religious but he also still like cheating…its against the catholic faith isnt it?
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Yes, its absoultely against the teaching of the Church to cheat. Its a mortal sin to cheate, becouse he know its wrong, and if he is a Catholic he should have some sort of clue about how he thinks God feels about it and he commit the sin regardless of all these factors, then it is a mortal sin. If he does not regret and confess it, he is in big trouble the way that the Church sees it 😦

Hopefully he will understand this and confess and never do it again, but unfortantley it doesnt seem very likely.

I hope you find a solution to your problems:)
Talk to the priest, it never hurts:)

God Bless you!

Hail Mary, full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee,
Blessed art thou amongst women,
and Blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus.

Holy Mary, mother of God,
Pray for us sinners, now,
and at the hour of our Death.

Amen
 
Offering a decade of the Rosary that this woeful state of confusion might be remedied for you by a good, holy and traditional priest.
 
Hi Lasting Faith…thanks for ur reply on my thread…
yes he is told me about his affair because we live in different country.
i am just dissapointed why he can teach me abt daily pray and being religious but behind that he is doing like that.
i was hoping much on him as we both are not a teenagers anymore.
Guess u were right…he is not good enough for future and should leave him for good. Thanks for advice
 
HeadingBackHome well thanks for ur advice…i feel glad that i can hear some advice in here…before this i am get confusing by my self and too shy to talk to priest…i will try to talk to priest and will keep doing rosary pray for my self satisfaction.
 
If he is already cheating on you, having an affair, then I don’t think he values fidelity or will be faithful later. Based on what you told me, I think you should leave him. People usually are on their very best behavior in the beginning of relationships. If this is his “best”, imagine what he’d be doing later!

I think you should keep praying, though. In that, he was right, and I’m grateful to him for that.

I would, as a rule, recommend you try to find someone who lives closer, that you can see every week, so that you can get to know him better. That way, it will be more difficult for him to cheat behind your back. Further, you really need to see someone frequently to get to know him well. If you don’t, he can hide all kinds of things, even be married and such, and how would you ever know? Find someone of your same faith who shares your same values. Good luck!

Hail Mary, Full of Grace, the Lord is with you. Blessed art thou amongst women, and blest is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death. Amen.
 
I don’t want to tell you what to do but I can tell you from personal experience this relationship with this man is not good. I had a long distance relationship with a man whom I really did not know that well but thought I did. I was " in love " and very naieve and like a fool I married him. As others told you he could be hiding all kinds of things from you and if he is already cheating on you what makes you think he will change later? My man turned out to be an abusive alcoholic. I lived through eight years of hell with him and we brought three innocent children into this world who are now adults and still suffering emotionally from witnessing all the abuse from their father physically and emotionally against their mother (me). He also cheated on me through our marriage. Please don’t make the same mistake I did. Think hard and long before you continue with this relationship. I will be praying for you.

God bless you
Mary
 
Thanks Mary for sharing ur experience…i felt glad i can heard some people experience so it makes me learnt abt having relationship with someone.
i will pray for ur life also that Jesus will touch ur husbad faith and ur childrens may they have a happy life and forgot all the sorrow they had.
Now i just hope that Jesus can touch my man also and he can change the way he think or his habit even thou i am no longer with him.
have a nice sunday all
 
Thank you too for your prayers. I am no longer with my husband either. I finally had enough and took everyone’s advice and left him with my children and only what we could pack.

I pray you have a happy life too.

Mary
 
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