Need Some Help

[Hospitallerknig]

Ive been going to confession about every week for the last 4 months. The problem is i really struggle to overcome my sins of impurity. Looking at pornography and masturbation. I fell into these bad habits a couple of years ago, not realizing them to be mortal sins. And now i am really struggling to overcome them.

Im quite diaspointed with my self and terribly ashamed of these sins. Last time i went to confession i made it about a month but the temptations came back and i failed again. I really am at the end of my endurance. Ive tried and failed so many times. I think there must be something wrong with me that i cant overcome this.

I dont want to talk to my parents about it because they would be very sad, Lastly i truly think there is some kind of demonic force continuously harassing me and tempting me. Ive heard its voice telling me to do these bad things.

I ask for some advice and some prayers. Im just wondering weather anyone else has really struggled with this. And if god could truly forgive me despite my continued failings. I really want to beat this sin by the end of this year. The temptation is constant and i have to fight it everyday.

 

[adv1sor]

There is no quick fix for this problem. Your goal of solving this by the end of the year is admirable, but may not be realistic.

Unless the Priest advises you otherwise, keep going to confession every week. It could be that God is using this to bring you closer to Him.

This could be a long term situation. Don’t use that as an excuse, but just be warned you may be in for a lot more confessions

I’ll say a prayer for you. Say one for me too please.

 

[Mary_Ellen]

Frequent confession is the best way to beat this problem - keep on going. Yes, the Lord is full of Mercy and he does forgive you in the Sacrament of Reconciliation for continuing, habitual sins like this. Otherwise I wouldn’t seek the Sacrament weekly, too, not for those particular sins but I seem to fall into the same sins week after week (or is that weak after weak?). It’s embarrassing to bring the same sins to the priest each week but I guess it’s better than finding new ways to sin each week.

Do not give up the battle! That’s what the evil one wants, for you to give up and just abandon yourself to the sin and give up the graces of the Sacraments. The fight is worth it!

Here are some prayers for purity that may help:

Mary, Mother most pure, and Joseph, chaste guardian of the Virgin, to you I entrust the purity of my soul and body. I beg you to plead with God for me that I may never for the remainder of my life soil my soul by any sin of impurity. I earnestly wish to be pure in thought, word and deed in imitation of your own holy purity. Obtain for me a deep sense of modesty, which will be reflected in my external conduct. Protect my eyes, the windows of my soul, from anything that might dim the luster of a heart that must mirror only Christ-like purity. And when the “Bread of Angels” becomes my food in Holy Communion, seal my heart forever against the suggestions of sinful pleasures. Finally, may I be among the number of those of whom Jesus spoke, “Blessed are the pure of heart for they shall see God.” Amen.

This second one, addressed to our Lord, is shorter and easier to memorize:

Lord, inflame our hearts and our inmost beings with the fire of Your Holy Spirit, that we may serve You with chaste bodies and pure minds. Through Christ our Lord. Amen

The third of our prayers for purity is a little longer:

My God, You have given me a body to keep pure and clean and healthy for Your service and my eternal happiness. Forgive me for all my unfaithfulness in this great responsibility. Forgive me for every mean use which I have made of Your gifts in thought, word or deed since my rebirth as Your own adopted child in Baptism and my registration as a soldier of Jesus on the day of my Confirmation. Create in me a clean heart, O God, and give me a steadfast will that I may be a strength to others around me. Teach me to respect my body and the bodies of my fellow creatures. Help me to see the glory of perfect manhood In Jesus Christ and of perfect womanhood in Mary Immaculate. Inspire me with such love for the ideals for which our Savior lived and died that all my passions and energies will be caught up into the enthusiasm of His service, and evil things will lose their power. May my body be the servant of my soul, and may both body and soul be Your servants. Through Christ our Lord. Amen.