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I was home from the hospital for 2 days after the birth of our 6th child when my dh came down with “something” that kept him up all night and all the next day vomiting. When that ended, he was left with a bad cramp and he thought he had pulled a muscle or something. It was the sickest I have ever seen him.

Today he went to the doctor (finally, after 4 days) to find out what was wrong, and they sent him to the hospital to get his appendix out. He’s there right now, and I’m home because I have all the kids.

My mom could come over and stay with the bigger kids if I want to go to the hospital, but I think I’d have to take the baby because she’s only one week old, and my mom can’t feed her or anything. But, I don’t want to subject her to any illnesses that she could pick up just from being in the hospital.

Also, there’s nothing I can really do for him, and he doesn’t seem filled with anxiety or anything.

Is it bad of me to not “be there” for my dh? Should I make the effort to go?
 
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Is it bad of me to not “be there” for my dh? Should I make the effort to go?
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No it is not bad. You will know better after his surgery if he needs your physical presence so I suggest playing it by ear, make the effort if he really needs you but don’t stress about it and don’t use any more energy right now than necessary to take care of you and the baby - go ahead and have your mom come over now to help out with the older children and take care of the everyday household chores so you will be able to be there for him when he gets home!

My prayers are with you and your family. May the God guide the surgeons hands and your husband heal quickly!

Brenda V.
 
I feel awful for you!! You are in a tough situation. But if your husband is anything like mine, I would think that he would understand your concern for the new baby you have to care for first and foremost. I would not bring the baby to the hospital. Is there anyone else that could go to the hospital to “be there” for him in this difficult time?

Needless to say, I will pray for you and your family in my rosary tonight.
 
How far are you from the hospital? I know it would be hard, but maybe you could leave your mom with the baby for an hour or two so you could visit with your husband just a little bit. Even if he says he is fine, it just seems like it would be hard to be in the hospital without a visit at all.
 
i think you should visit even if it is for an hour or two… i am sure he has seen you with the kids and knows how full your hands are… but remember your place is with ur husband first… so you should try to be there for him…

or maybe you could give him a cell or something and keep calling him so that he knows that even though you cant be there with him becos of the kids, you are thinking of him all the time!!!
 
Thanks everybody. As it turns out, I have been able to get over to the hospital a few times while my mom or MIL come and stay with the baby. The visits are very quick, between feedings, and so far Genevieve has cooperated nicely and stayed asleep while I’m gone.

Please pray for my husband. He will be in the hospital for a few more days because of infection and fever due to the perforation of the appendix. He’s miserable/bored/sore/discouraged, and we sure miss him around here.
 
When I was 14 I went to the hospital 2 hr. from my house to have surgery. My mom was with me, right after I got out of the operating room we got a call from my dad who was suppost to be at my hospital when I woke up and he was in the hospital (2hrs away ) with gallbalder surgery, I felt so bad for my parents my dad sounded so lonely and mom could not go to see him because I didn’t get to go home for two more days.

I will be praying for you all.
 
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Thanks everybody. As it turns out, I have been able to get over to the hospital a few times while my mom or MIL come and stay with the baby. The visits are very quick, between feedings, and so far Genevieve has cooperated nicely and stayed asleep while I’m gone.

Please pray for my husband. He will be in the hospital for a few more days because of infection and fever due to the perforation of the appendix. He’s miserable/bored/sore/discouraged, and we sure miss him around here.
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God does indeed work things out for us doesn’t He;)?

I am happy to see that you were able to go visit your husband as you so desperately wanted to and still be able to take care of little Genevieve’s needs at the same time.

Continued prayers for all of you.

Brenda V.
 
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