Never been in a relationship and would really want a boyfriend

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In that case, you’re putting the cart before the horse. There’s no point in dating just for its own sake. If you find a guy you like,then go for it–try to get to know him better, see if there’s sparks and he’s a decent person.

OTOH, you might be just kind of lonely in general, and it never hurts to go meet new people, like through clubs or volunteer activities.
Then you might meet a guy you like.

But in either case, best of luck with whatever you decide.
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I can understand that desire to have someone in your life, but rather than seeing it as evidence you aren’t close enough to Jesus, maybe you could see it as simply an opportunity to grow closer to Jesus - not that you are somehow falling short right now, but that maybe there is a depth there that you haven’t touched and your heart is calling on you to see what might happens if you do.

Go on a retreat. Join a new ministry. Spend time in front of the Blessed Sacrament and just surrender to Jesus. Say, “Lord, I don’t know what you’re asking of me, but I promise to follow.” And then be open to whatever comes your way. Take the pressure off yourself and turn your life over to God, and see if it makes a difference in how you perceive this journey.
 
“Perhaps” is the key word in your argumentation, Cass. Brittany is a pretty smart Catholic wannabee. She definitely gets a voice at the table on this one, despite her young age.

(My comment from the peanut gallery: Boy friends are highly overrated. Puppies and cats are more dependable, more cuddly, too, I dare say.)
 
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I just want to add one thing to Jamal’s brilliant post.

“Boys are gross.” (My sister’s words)

So, there you have it OP.
 
You can say I have a bird’s eye view of most everything that happens under the Sun, young grasshopper.
 
Good thing lent is almost over or John the Baptist might get ya’.

Jump. Hop. Spring for your life.
 
Guys can be shy and insecure too. Just be warm, friendly and easy-going. Keep your focus on a light relationship. It might get serious later, but you can’t force it.
 
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Being in a relatively small environment, such as any schooling system, tends to make us see that that is the extent of the world, and the world outside that environment seems to be so far away that it does not exist. The boundaries provide a security, but they are only passing. Once we exit that secure environment, and stand on our own two feet, we eventually find opportunities we never knew existed.
 
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at my university there is A center where catholic students can hang out and we do mass there and all sorts of things there and go on trips together and hold events together. I am also part of the Young life club thing at my school where other types of Christians come together to do similar things as well.
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Those are by far the most likely places to meet the kind of guy you want.
My school is like 75% female though so many guys are taken, or they’re not they type of guy that i want to be with or im not the type of girl they want to be with
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Are there other schools in your parish? Also, are there diocesan events (I know San Diego used to have a “roving Mass” once a month that flitted about the diocese. That’s where I was . . .
(With hookup culture being so prevalent in college and me wanting to stay a virgin until marriage)
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Good; there are those of us guys who felt/feel the same.

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`Our campus has its own small church where only students go really. Its nice it helpos us make new friends and support each other through god. We do diocesan events around campus and sometimes in the small town where our school is, yes. We have a relatively young priest so he is able to really help and guide us through the troubles at our age and regularly has discussions groups for relationships and such and afterwards everyone goes to McDonald and hangs out. There is a catholic church near by as well and the priest there often comes to speak with us and have events with us as well.

lol im definitely glad there are other people who want to wait until marriage and see the importance and beauty in it even though hookup culture is kind of the norm. I definitely feel like im in the minority for that opinion. Its cool to be reminded there are other out here who think like me.
 
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