I know, right? Unfortunately, it seems I don’t have a choice in the matter as I don’t really have a viable way to meet (Catholic) women.
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Love_Divine
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Well, this is a depressing thread.
I’m getting old, 26 next month, and I’ve never even dated. Living on my own, going to school, and moving province to province have made me pretty independent, and I seem to attract mentally unstable men who are too clingy for me to even start dating. When I offer to go out for coffee with a guy, and I miss his call because I didn’t have my phone in the same room, and the text messages start coming in and go something like:
I’m getting old, 26 next month, and I’ve never even dated. Living on my own, going to school, and moving province to province have made me pretty independent, and I seem to attract mentally unstable men who are too clingy for me to even start dating. When I offer to go out for coffee with a guy, and I miss his call because I didn’t have my phone in the same room, and the text messages start coming in and go something like:
I don’t even bother pursuing it any further. I seem to have a real knack for attracting older clingy LDS men. Hopefully moving to large city this month that isn’t the Mormon capital of Canada will bring more prospects. If not, perhaps I have been called to become a consecrated virgin working in our justice system to help rehabilitate those who can’t seem to quit breaking the law.
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kib
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Blast, I am in this boat. However, at the age of 25 I think I still have time. Fortunately, men tend to improve with age as well.
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Paddy1989
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22 myself, i know some will say i’m still young etc but i have yet to even meet a Catholic woman never mind one i like. There is also NO single’s type thing’s here or even just conference’s that involve discussion on philosophy, theology that involve single people in which they could also get to know each other. I am a Catholic wrapped in secular culture, friend’s are all secular, place’s i go such as theme pub’s, pub’s, club’s etc are the same. I think what i need to do and also advise other’s if they do wanna get married is be more open to the idea of a secular partner
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chevalier
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That may be an opportunity to finish your education and get a job without getting distracted by romance (which, when happens, you’ve got to do something about), going national or international when you’re ready to marry in some realistically close future. Not a bad thing, really. Especially from the point of view of someone just a couple of years older than you, who had a couple of girlfriends at university and is as single as you are (the time could’ve been used on getting better grades or signing up for an interesting internship). Incidentally, having a secular girlfriend has a lot of painful sides. The most painful is when you’ve got to split up because it won’t work.
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Paddy1989
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I have been working full time for the last 4 year’s, although what i was hoping for (learning a trade and hopefully later working for myself) hasn’t worked out because the construction industry has collapsed due to recession so i have a different job now which is fine, also went to college part time during after work hours to do ICT course in technician and networking for 2 year’s but haven’t it’s hard to find job there as i keep trying. To put it simply i am not in a university type position where my studies come first as then i wouldn’t even be thinking about this. It something i’ve always wanted strangely enough even when i was furthest away from God however yes i agree having a secular partner can have a painful side but it seem’s more likely one will find a secular partner who respect’s their world-view and agree’s with them to a certain extent than a Catholic partner. In this secular age we have to be more open otherwise we will end up alone
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HCF
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Never married - single, with no one interested.
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1inICXC
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I’m married but I find this a very interesting thread, hope no one minds me posting this…
I started being VERY concerned as to whom I would marry at the fragile age of 13-14. Concept of dating never appealed to me unless it was my potential future husband. The problem was that for years on end I considered EVERY hot guy my potential future husband, thank God many of them were either pop stars, older men or just guys I would spot on the subway once so they were mostly undateable material lol.
Anyway, after some casual dating I actually got in a serious relationship at 19 and thought " now, this really is IT". 10 months later we broke up and for the first time in my life I thought being single was great. I made a pact that I will never again worry about whom I would marry but that if I’m still single at 30 then I would join a convent.
In case you’re wondering… 3 days later I met my husband , sometimes I think God just wanted to get me to that place where I would stop with this husband obsession of mine and leave it to Him
) at any rate, those were my good 3 days of singlehood and now I look back and think of how much better I could have prepared for the married life and parenting if I didn’t waste my single years looking for a husband.
What I’m wondering is if anyone else used this ultimatum or deadline method?
And 2. I pray you use this time wisely so that it serves you in your vocation, so much preparation can go into being a good spouse and parent and both DH and I wasted it so we had some SERIOUS making up to do. Not fun getting your training in the middle of the war…
Lots of courage and strength to all of you. May you have blessed marriages when the time comes and a fruitful season of " singlehood" until then!
I started being VERY concerned as to whom I would marry at the fragile age of 13-14. Concept of dating never appealed to me unless it was my potential future husband. The problem was that for years on end I considered EVERY hot guy my potential future husband, thank God many of them were either pop stars, older men or just guys I would spot on the subway once so they were mostly undateable material lol.
Anyway, after some casual dating I actually got in a serious relationship at 19 and thought " now, this really is IT". 10 months later we broke up and for the first time in my life I thought being single was great. I made a pact that I will never again worry about whom I would marry but that if I’m still single at 30 then I would join a convent.
In case you’re wondering… 3 days later I met my husband , sometimes I think God just wanted to get me to that place where I would stop with this husband obsession of mine and leave it to Him
) at any rate, those were my good 3 days of singlehood and now I look back and think of how much better I could have prepared for the married life and parenting if I didn’t waste my single years looking for a husband.What I’m wondering is if anyone else used this ultimatum or deadline method?
And 2. I pray you use this time wisely so that it serves you in your vocation, so much preparation can go into being a good spouse and parent and both DH and I wasted it so we had some SERIOUS making up to do. Not fun getting your training in the middle of the war…
Lots of courage and strength to all of you. May you have blessed marriages when the time comes and a fruitful season of " singlehood" until then!
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beckers
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I don’t know if it is depression as I don’t define myself by my marital status.
I am happy being single. Does it such some days…yes but I can’t complain about my life. I am surrounded by tons of family and friends and I just finished law school and am getting settled on a new path. I am 31 and know that my chances of finding a good catholic mate are decreasing. I tend to like older men so they are all either divorced or so use to be single and on their own that they don’t want to take the plunge to date and get married or they feel they are too old to be starting to have children.
if god wants me to be married he will have to provide. Otherwise I will just keep going and deepinig my relationships and find out where he wants me to be used.
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beckers
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Nope I haven’t given him a deadline. I thought about being a nun but decided it wasn’t for me. Therefore I wouldn’t enter one as an after thought or as a back-up plan.I respect the sisters too much and their vows. Either that was my vocation or not.I’m married but I find this a very interesting thread, hope no one minds me posting this…
I started being VERY concerned as to whom I would marry at the fragile age of 13-14. Concept of dating never appealed to me unless it was my potential future husband. The problem was that for years on end I considered EVERY hot guy my potential future husband, thank God many of them were either pop stars, older men or just guys I would spot on the subway once so they were mostly undateable material lol.
Anyway, after some casual dating I actually got in a serious relationship at 19 and thought " now, this really is IT". 10 months later we broke up and for the first time in my life I thought being single was great. I made a pact that I will never again worry about whom I would marry but that if I’m still single at 30 then I would join a convent.
In case you’re wondering… 3 days later I met my husband , sometimes I think God just wanted to get me to that place where I would stop with this husband obsession of mine and leave it to Him
What I’m wondering is if anyone else used this ultimatum or deadline method?
And 2. I pray you use this time wisely so that it serves you in your vocation, so much preparation can go into being a good spouse and parent and both DH and I wasted it so we had some SERIOUS making up to do. Not fun getting your training in the middle of the war…
Lots of courage and strength to all of you. May you have blessed marriages when the time comes and a fruitful season of " singlehood" until then!
I have told god that since he put this desire to be married in my heart that he either needs to provide or take away the desire. Ball is always in his court as he leads the way and is the keeper of my heart.
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Prod_Daughter
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I’m twenty three (Just turned yesterday! ) and single. I have no idea of what God has in store for me vocation wise, but all I do know is that God will let me know…in His time.
) and single. I have no idea of what God has in store for me vocation wise, but all I do know is that God will let me know…in His time.
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Godith
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34 and never married.I haven’t done that, no. I don’t believe that sort of thing works on God.
I would like to be married, but I know it can be hard too. My parents just celebrated their 40th wedding anniversary, and I’m so proud of them for making it work and staying together all that time. It requires real sacrifice and self-giving, and I worry I don’t have that in me. Ultimately, I don’t want a husband unless I can be a good wife. I’m trying to concentrate on what God wants for my in my life now, and on following Jesus. I’m also working on my self-esteem, so that I don’t feel depressed about being single still. I might take the advice some have given in this thread, though, and start praying blessings on my future husband. 
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chevalier
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Wow, somebody surely meant business!
LOL. And that’s about the most intelligent I can say.
Well, it took much longer than 19 years but I’ve arrived at the point where I’ve made the decision that it sure damn well is not going to steal any more of my time or nerves worrying. There’s Ph.D. to finish, there are two professional examinations to take, there’s that upstart firm I own and there’s plenty of relatives, including young ones, I could focus my attention on.
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Nanny_PK
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It’s only depressing if you let it – and I’m 41. So if you’re depressed…
There are some periods where it’s a little sad and depressing, but if you only look at it that way, then that’s how you’re going to perceive it. I try to live my life looking at the glass as half full and not half empty. I’ve gotten to travel to some fantastic places – places that I might not have been able to see if I’d gotten married and had a bunch of kids. You have to make the most out of what you have and be thankful for the blessings that God gives you instead of focusing on what you don’t have.
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1inICXC
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No, definitely doesn’t work! Just wondering if I am the only craziee out there who would do such thing. I guess God didn’t want me anywhere near a convent lol
I haven’t done that, no. I don’t believe that sort of thing works on God.
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jesuspsr
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I’ve never been married, no kids.
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purplesunshine
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I’m on here becuase I’ve never been married. I’m 27.
I do hope that it’s in my future and I even may know who.
Thing is that being depressed about being single is the most distructive thing you can do.
Life is too short.
I know people who are single who’ve accepted it and, for the most part, flourish. Even though they’re in their late 40’s and 50’s. Actually, it’s just one guy. He has his rough moments but he’s given his life to God entierly and is an amazing helper to me and countless others. He helps where a married person, priest or brother could not. Amazing.
I also know several others who daily mourn that they dont’ have a spouse, chase internet leads, go to singles confrences. It’s pathetic. They have postponed things like going to a sports game or travel becuase they are so despritly lonley and don’t want to do it themselvs. They live in misery.
A happy single person is one who will make a great couple. I’ve yet to meet a truly happy single person who dosn’t eventually find a spouse or dosn’t eventually determine that single life is what God has called them to.
However, for obvious reasons I think online is a GREAT way to meet a spouse. People balk. I recently thought of this comparision. Years ago, back in my grandparent’s day people didn’t need the internet. They didn’t need the internet to find a job, they walked around town. They didn’t need the internet to find an apartment, they grabbed a newspaper. They didn’t need the internet to find a dog, they went to the pound or found an abandoned puppy. I often question the resistance to online interaction as we have made so many other functions normal and ok.
I do hope that it’s in my future and I even may know who.
Thing is that being depressed about being single is the most distructive thing you can do.
Life is too short.
I know people who are single who’ve accepted it and, for the most part, flourish. Even though they’re in their late 40’s and 50’s. Actually, it’s just one guy. He has his rough moments but he’s given his life to God entierly and is an amazing helper to me and countless others. He helps where a married person, priest or brother could not. Amazing.
I also know several others who daily mourn that they dont’ have a spouse, chase internet leads, go to singles confrences. It’s pathetic. They have postponed things like going to a sports game or travel becuase they are so despritly lonley and don’t want to do it themselvs. They live in misery.
A happy single person is one who will make a great couple. I’ve yet to meet a truly happy single person who dosn’t eventually find a spouse or dosn’t eventually determine that single life is what God has called them to.
However, for obvious reasons I think online is a GREAT way to meet a spouse. People balk. I recently thought of this comparision. Years ago, back in my grandparent’s day people didn’t need the internet. They didn’t need the internet to find a job, they walked around town. They didn’t need the internet to find an apartment, they grabbed a newspaper. They didn’t need the internet to find a dog, they went to the pound or found an abandoned puppy. I often question the resistance to online interaction as we have made so many other functions normal and ok.
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felmus
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27, single, never married.
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chipeto
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I am 40 and never married. For 14 years I have been deeply involved in the life of a family not my own, which provided me with sufficient distraction, and had convinced myself that I did not want to be married. Now, all of that is coming to an end, and I would very much like to marry and have children.
I have also recently gone through a deep spiritual crisis, and I’m preparing to be received into the Church.
So right now I’m just trying to put God first and be the best man that I can be, but it is a challenge not to obsess about marriage.
I have also recently gone through a deep spiritual crisis, and I’m preparing to be received into the Church.
So right now I’m just trying to put God first and be the best man that I can be, but it is a challenge not to obsess about marriage.
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