New and Confused

[LindseyQuestion]

Im new to the Forum and Im so lost. I was baptisted when i was younger and last year I went through RCIA. I went distant from the church and still believe in God and ive had lots of things go on throughout the past few years that bring me back and Forth to the Church. I was so tempted to go on Sunday but didnt because my husband came home for the night and had to go back to work today. I feel like a bad person though because i havent gone in so long! I give tithings on a regular month through my bank, and i know that doesnt save me but i am just… confused.
Yes i was engaged to man, left him and got pregnant by another man, went back with the guy i was engaged to, he cant have kids, we got married, i have been faithful with him and i feel like God is going to punish me by not letting me go to heaven one day. And now that is all that concerns me. I am consumed with my sins and failures and “mouth” and my actions past and present! I am getting this out there because i dont have any friends to talk to about this. I dont know i feel like im lazy and lost!

 

[icamay]

As a Protestant, I wonder what is keeping you from confessing this and becoming reconciled with the Church? I say “as a Protestant” because we are taught to churn this internally, and we tend to let it eat us up. We convince ourselves that we are not worthy, and we condemn ourselves on behalf of God, which we have no authority to do.

Catholics got it right. You are forgiven - go to confession, reconcile yourself with the Church, and get back into full communion with God. You cannot change the past, but you can learn from it and move forward. You have committed yourself to a beautiful faith, to Jesus’s Church, and it is there for you during your time of anguish. God would never keep you from Heaven. He did not sacrifice his Son just to say “Lindsey committed fornication, and this sacrifice is for everyone but her.”

You are lost now. Reconcile yourself and find you again.

 

[pablope]

Im new to the Forum and Im so lost. I was baptisted when i was younger and last year I went through RCIA. I went distant from the church and still believe in God and ive had lots of things go on throughout the past few years that bring me back and Forth to the Church. I was so tempted to go on Sunday but didnt because my husband came home for the night and had to go back to work today. I feel like a bad person though because i havent gone in so long! I give tithings on a regular month through my bank, and i know that doesnt save me but i am just… confused.
Yes i was engaged to man, left him and got pregnant by another man, went back with the guy i was engaged to, he cant have kids, we got married, i have been faithful with him and i feel like God is going to punish me by not letting me go to heaven one day. And now that is all that concerns me. I am consumed with my sins and failures and “mouth” and my actions past and present! I am getting this out there because i dont have any friends to talk to about this. I dont know i feel like im lazy and lost!

My suggetion is to go to confession right away. Confession will help you wipe away your guilt. Do an examination of conscience prior to going.

My suggestion is to make an appointment with your parish priest instead of going through the regularly scheduled confession time. This way, you can have a more one on one talk with your priest. God bless…

Meanwhile, here is a prayer for you…called the Anima Christi…it should be easy to memorize…

SOUL of Christ, sanctify me.
Body of Christ, save me.
Blood of Christ, inebriate me.
Water from the side of Christ, wash me.
Passion of Christ, strengthen me.
O good Jesus, hear me.
Within Thy wounds, hide me.
Separated from Thee let me never be.
From the malignant enemy, defend me.
At the hour of death, call me.
To come to Thee, bid me,
That I may praise Thee in the company
Of Thy Saints, for all eternity.

Amen.

PS: here is a link to a lay catholic group, if you are interested in contacting and joining them:cfc–usa.com/v1.2/

I do not know where you are, but there is a state map where you can find a contact.

 

[pablope]

As a Protestant, I wonder what is keeping you from confessing this and becoming reconciled with the Church? I say “as a Protestant” because we are taught to churn this internally, and we tend to let it eat us up. We convince ourselves that we are not worthy, and we condemn ourselves on behalf of God, which we have no authority to do.

Catholics got it right. You are forgiven - go to confession, reconcile yourself with the Church, and get back into full communion with God. You cannot change the past, but you can learn from it and move forward. You have committed yourself to a beautiful faith, to Jesus’s Church, and it is there for you during your time of anguish. God would never keep you from Heaven. He did not sacrifice his Son just to say “Lindsey committed fornication, and this sacrifice is for everyone but her.”

You are lost now. Reconcile yourself and find you again.

Icamay…you humble me with your post. God bless to you…

 

[EmeraldWings]

Don’t worry Lindsey, God is the one moving you to be sorry for your sins and have the desire to repent, and He will help you to follow through, He would not take you this far just to drop you and make you go it alone,
He is right there with you guiding you, so don’t worry, just do what you can and that is all He wants from you,

God will not send you to hell for sins you are sorry for and have repented from, provided you go or have gone to confession, you need to trust in His mercy,
Jesus doesn’t find it hard to forgive you, it was hard for Him to suffer through His passion because it was painful, but His love for you got Him through it, and it’s easy for Him to forgive you because He loves you, and so if He was willing to go through something hard like that for love of you, then why wouldn’t it be easy for Him to forgive you when He was willing to go through so much?
you just need to accept His love, and also accept yourself as you are, we are all weak, no one has any strength or goodness of themselves, it all comes from God, and so if you want to do better, you just need to ask God for the graces and strength and help that you need, and He will not hesitate to give you that help,

do you pray the rosary? if not, i would recommend doing that every day, and if you need help understanding it, here are a few small books that will help -
tanbooks.com/index.php/page/shop:flypage/product_id/37
fraternitypublications.com/frrogaofourl.html
tanbooks.com/index.php/Our-Lady-of-Fatimas-Peace-Plan-from-Heaven

i would also recommend reading the writings of the saints, which you can find alot of on those 2 sites i listed,

but just don’t worry to much, be patient with yourself, and just pray on it, God will lead you,
and if you don’t already have one, try getting a spiritual director, such as a priest from one of these parishes - fssp.org/en/coordonnees.htm
and maybe you will find these helpful as well -
audiosancto.org/
keepthefaith.org/
svdpmedia.org/archive.php
youtube.com/user/CatholicClips#g/p
youtube.com/user/AFaithfulServant#g/c/291A7A1EB7543269

ok, hope this helps, take care.