New Baby and Mass

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The OP is already in therapy. Go back and reread her posts…I’m very glad she’s getting the help she needs for the issues she’s facing. People shouldn’t be ashamed of needing some extra help with a therapist.
 
Thanks. I also realize I’m a little sensitive because in our social groups we are the only couple with kids. As a result, they don’t understand the necessary policy of “baby comes, or no one comes” to events save for rare occasions when we can get a sitter…so we’ve had to stop attending many group functions because, as one person said “I’ve done my time with babies, I sure don’t want to hear yours!”

I really appreciate the encouragement. Nothing is more important to me than raising my little tyke as a Catholic Christian. Truth be told, before Mass starts and he sees the sanctuary, the candles, the priest in his vestments greeting people, and the art he starts thrashing and squealing with delight and I get choked up at his joy of coming into God’s house every time. I want to make that sentiment LAST in his heart! It’s important we go to Mass and I never miss a Sunday. Mass is literally the center point of my life that all things revolve around…but I do miss daily Mass. I’ll start going as soon as they resume when the priest is back from vacation!

I really can’t say how much your encouragement to relax and stop worrying helps. Amazing, because this is what I do in therapy, too. Probably why I was encouraged to post here! 🙂
 
For reference, when I hear a crying baby at Mass, I have a slight smile. A giggling happy baby like yours would be no bother to me.
 
I am so glad we all helped you! I do pray you can start to feel relaxed at church and really enjoy this baby stage, because it goes by way too quickly. 😭

As for what your “friend” told you about not bringing your baby around, it sounds like you need to find a few new friends who also have young children! I can’t believe she said that to you. Try not to take what she said too personally…I’ve never encountered people like that in real life, but I’ve heard they exist. 😉 If they don’t want your baby, then you and your hubby can find plenty to do without them and good riddance.
 
While he may be a bit of distraction to others, personally I love seeing happy babies at Mass. My daughter was a flirt too!

I wouldn’t worry about this too much. It’s a stage that he will outgrow, and then the next stage will start and you’ll make adjustments then too.

Congrats on your new baby!
 
You can’t really do much about making people sad who can’t have a baby.
As for your problem…I wouldn’t worry. I love seeing babies at mass. The only time I’d ever have a problem is if a baby was literally screaming the place down.
 
MaryT777 said:
I don’t believe the OP needs therapy for this issue. Therapy is not needed for every issue. There have been many wonderful suggestions for this issue and thoughts on the issue on this thread.
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Therapy is not needed for “every” issue, but therapy is not a bad thing.

Emotions are hard, especially postpartum. Adjusting to motherhood is hard for most women. As the OP has pointed out, much of our culture is anti-child and anti-Catholic. Being Catholic with a baby can be really hard.

Therapy is nothing to be ashamed of and something that everyone should probably make use of at some point in their lives.

It’s not a little thing to feel pressured to hide out in the bathroom with a happy baby. A professional can really help with that.
 
Funny story to share: DD (who is now 20) was probably 6+ months old. We were at Mass and she was very vocal on this particular day. During the Homily it got a little loud, so I put my hand over her mouth, and the sound was of course muffled…people sitting around us started chuckling because they could still hear her, she didn’t care that I tried to muffle the noise, she just kept on “talking”.

Enjoy your baby!
 
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