Whenever a parish church is built by any of these orders and the bishop allows them to build it according to their spirituality, the lay faithful will have to finance it and have to accept it.
Why am I sharing this? Because people want to see the return of religious to parishes and schools. But they don’t realize what they’re asking for. In those places where the laity is submissive, the relationship between the religious and the faithful is a joyful one. In places where the laity is confrontational, the relationship can go south very fast.
I think there is also another reason for relationships to go south. That would be clericalism. Sometimes, the clergy will just like to say “we are going to do this from now on” and change everything the people have practiced for centuries. Naturally, there will be suspicion. The right thing to do is acknowledge this suspicion and work to inform the faithful in a gentle manner and explain.
It would also be beneficial if the clergy first acknowledge (when it is true) that the faithful already do have a valid spirituality. Then they can go on to say why theirs is different and they cannot go beyond it.
Once the trust is accomplished and it is made clear as to how much authority the superior controls, then things can run better. This is not just with this issue but with anything involving communities. People are not just going to accept something from someone after they have been practicing it for awhile.
I’m trying to remember the parishes, but I can’t. I believe that it was in Madison, where the bishop threatened to put two parishes under interdict if the laity did not submit to the religious who run the parish. They were giving these poor men a really hard time. These folks were not traditionalists. They were pushing the religious in the opposite direction. However, they wanted religious. When they had them, they couldn’t stand the direction of the parish. Go figure.
Well, to be fair here, its not easy to go traditional once they have learnt to abandon it. This ties back to what I said before. People just become reluctant to accept things because they have been living a liberal way for a long time.
In this case, it can be difficult because you cannot even acknowledge the other as a valid spirituality because it is probably not. If the congregation is used to having a dancing liturgy, you start to lose common ground to get them back.
I admit, those cases are extremely difficult which is why I always feel that prudence and quick action to prevent such abuses continuing for a prolonged period is essential. Perhaps because of the way the Church is organized at the local level, such prompt action is usually absent. At the local level, it can also be difficult due to friendships. Bishop Joe will not want to or will hesitate to warn Fr. Jack who is a good friend of his over something that a lay person complains about (even when legitimate). So the abuse will carry on, Bishop Joe might then not be the Bishop anymore, Fr. Jack will be replaced and the new priest has no way to get people to change back to orthodoxy.
Anyway, that was a diversion but I just wanted to give a different perspective to what you are facing. I think the Church needs to do something about increasing its reaction time to possible issues and facilitating quicker ways for the faithful to report issues they find suspicious. In the event where the person’s suspicion is false, the said authority can respond back explaining the issue in detail or directing them to a reference.
Basically, the US Church (Canadian too I think) today is in the unique position where the faithful find it hard to trust a priest. Not just because of the abuse scandals but because most of them have strayed from Orthodoxy in the past and people are aware of cases where error was taught. I’ve had many colleagues tell me that they are afraid to direct a person wanting to convert to a priest for an example. Why? Because the priest tells them they don’t need to convert and to remain where they are.
If you are aware of Dr. Scott Hahn. He was met with the same response from a Catholic priest. Now I will guarantee you that this priest is probably still spreading the same message without any warning being given. That is a problem!
Now imagine someone who had that priest for a parish priest and then meeting you. You will tell them their friend should convert and the other priest was wrong. They will think you are wrong. That causes an even bigger problem!
Anyway, just thought this was worth mentioning. It just feels like the Church in the US and Canada are facing the results of its own shortcomings in the past.
To tie all of the above back to this topic, it also shows the importance of faithful being informed of unchanging truths and good definitions of things. Instructions of the Church should not be ambiguous or left to subjectivity (at least less as possible). The Church must also actively keep advising the faithful.
In the case of Church building, there is a good ontological basis that one can define for a Church. The Church should encourage people to adhere to that. The very idea of saying better reflect the liturgy, scripture and Tradition means that the ontological definition of the Church is fixed. It is not their to reflect or bank on some subjective appeal.
Once the faithful and priests are taught this, they can make better design choices. But if we continue to try and down play that and stick with subjectivity, the particular abuses with respect to Church building will just continue and one day, the Franciscans will have a hard time getting people to have a statue of Mary in the Church because they have never had one for a long time.